My mom was 29 when she had me.
I absolutely agree! But it's nice to have young grandparents (I'm 26 and my nan is still not yet 70) who will be around to see their grandchildren grow up and be able to interact with them, and to have a fairly young mother myself (she's 49) who still had the energy to have her grandkids for the weekend and be able to run around playing with them.Originally Posted by SwampWitch
Age doesn't dictate good or bad mothers.
Yes, I heard the report. I sincerely hope she is a "young" 60.Originally Posted by mybabyphx
**Did you hear in the news the lady that just had a kid at like 60 yrs old!!!
Even if she is, by the time her child is 20, she'll be 80!!!! That seems unfair on the kidOriginally Posted by gemlady
Yes, I heard the report. I sincerely hope she is a "young" 60.
it is unfair. When and if i have children (even adopted ones) my parents will most likely not be around to see them. I believe it is really unfair to wait so long, even to the 40's, to have babies. You cannot guarantee you will be around to see that child grow up. Not with cancer and heart disease and all that killing people off. Yes, we can stave many of those things off, but it still is no guarantee you'll live to see your kid graduate from high school.Originally Posted by sarahp
Even if she is, by the time her child is 20, she'll be 80!!!! That seems unfair on the kid
If a person wants to have, raise, and love a child, I don't see how that is unfair to anybody. And, no mother can guarantee she'll be around to see her child grow up! Anything can happen, regardless of age.Originally Posted by RubSluts'Mommy
....I believe it is really unfair to wait so long, even to the 40's, to have babies. You cannot guarantee you will be around to see that child grow up...
Selfish means "lacking consideration for others; concerned chiefly with one's own profit or pleasure." How does wanting a child mean you aren't concerned about others? I would think it's the opposite; parenting is largely self-less, no matter your age.Originally Posted by RubSluts'Mommy
...I personally believe that women who purposely wait until they are 38 or older to have a child are being selfish....
I didn't read that anyone said age doesn't affect parenting skills. Of course it does. Age can bring patience, maturity, and financial security into parenting. Of course, a very young person can bring those things to her child, too.Originally Posted by RubSluts'Mommy
...As for those who say that age does not affect parenting skills... yes and no. When you're dealing with hot flashes and all that other stuff that comes with Menopause, will you really want ot get down on the floor with a 2 year old and chase it around, keeping it out of trouble? Maybe, maybe not....
What I meant as selfish was the waiting. How women I see (not ALL, just the ones who put career first) all around me who decide to do career... putting off having kids until they are pushing or past 40. And demanding (for lack of a better term) that the child must be their own biological child. If you really wake up one morning at 40 or 45 adn decide you wanted to be a mom after all, there are thousands... THOUSANDS... of children out there in foster care who need loving permanent homes. Not always infants. Yes, some may come with baggage... but I'd rather deal with the baggage than bring another child into this uncertain world.Originally Posted by SwampWitch
Selfish means "lacking consideration for others; concerned chiefly with one's own profit or pleasure." How does wanting a child mean you aren't concerned about others? I would think it's the opposite; parenting is largely self-less, no matter your age.