I am so sorry for what you are going through, I don't know what advice to give you, but better times are ahead.
You will get through this, we are all here to help.
Just thought I'd back you up here... I see we have an unpopular opinion.Originally Posted by HopeHacker
I'd much rather be with someone who smokes pot on occasion than with someone who even touches booze, and I'm talking even the occasional social drink. I personally don't want anyone in my life who drinks anything stronger than coffee. However, although I don't like it, I would accept him doing pot occasionally. It's funny....how we accept someone who has a beer now and then, and who drinks socially, but it's a big taboo to smoke pot. I think drinking even the smallest amount of booze is the most disgusting habit in the world, and it's far more addictive than pot, and far messier and sloppier.
I wouldn't appreciate the lying, though. I would find that I could NEVER trust him again, because of it, and I would have major second thoughts about him, because he hasn't been honest with you. However, I don't think pot is anywhere near as bad as drinking.
I agree with this advice 100%. Thank you Jeff. MacKenzie, stay strong and follow your heart. You have tons of support.Originally Posted by jdpesz
I feel I can speak to this because I am a former alchohol and drug abuse who had to make a choice, and thank God I made the right one. When I fell in love with my wife, I found that I didn't need to smoke or drink anymore to be happy. Thus, I've been clean and sober for 16 years now.
This may not be what you want to hear, but if your BF is not willing to give up the dope for you, then he has not reached the level of maturity that he needs to in order to be a good husband. Nor does he understand what real love is all about.
I don't think you should give up on him altogether. He may grow up and see the light at any time. But you need to make it clear to him that you will not tolerate the drug use and the dishonesty, and if he loves you, he will stop both immediately.
Were all rooting and praying for you MacKenzie.