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@StephenQ: Thanks for the information, I hadn't known about that scale. I have a ragdoll kitten on the way anyway, so I suppose I won't be bothered as much by Lux after that. I think that he looks at me like he's nervous when I walk by is telltale of his lack of a bond with me. I like the insight about cats' emotions, etc. being a mystery. That was helpful. Also, if you read my earlier posts, you'll have noticed that I was specifically against medicating him for my benefit, but thanks.
@ShadowRescue: I'm a fan of Jackson Galaxy; his show is great. And I mentioned in my first post that I play with him daily. I have tried a variety of them and he just likes a mouse on a wand toy going around a corner. I also give him catnip. This doesn't change his demeanor, as much he enjoys the playtime. I do the play-and-prey thing before I feed him. Like I said before, that I have tried all these things and continue to implement them is a big part of my frustration as to why they just haven't worked. Maybe it's just anxiety, maybe he just doesn't like me that much. I know plenty of people who have anxiety issues and have a lot of trouble being affectionate - maybe the same thing can apply to cats. He is great with other cats though, very cautious and friendly and polite, which adds more weight to my idea that he may have been a stray, and socialized with cats but not humans very early on. I haven't seen Composure in any pet stores, but has anyone have anything to say about Pet-Ease? I see that one a lot and haven't tried it. As for the animal communicator, I have already tried so many things and spent so much money on trying to fix this that I'm pretty much giving up when it comes to this, and accepting that he's just going to be an aloof cat. At least he is happy, and in a safe environment, and has me to depend on even if he doesn't trust me. As much as it perturbs me for this relation to be so one-way, I'll just do my best to be zen about it.
I'm glad I posted on here about my thoughts of giving him up; this outlet was great for processing the situation and my reasoning about it so I didn't act rashly. I don't think I would have anyway, but it was more helpful and supportive than if I had thought through it myself. Thanks again to everyone.
@ShadowRescue: I'm a fan of Jackson Galaxy; his show is great. And I mentioned in my first post that I play with him daily. I have tried a variety of them and he just likes a mouse on a wand toy going around a corner. I also give him catnip. This doesn't change his demeanor, as much he enjoys the playtime. I do the play-and-prey thing before I feed him. Like I said before, that I have tried all these things and continue to implement them is a big part of my frustration as to why they just haven't worked. Maybe it's just anxiety, maybe he just doesn't like me that much. I know plenty of people who have anxiety issues and have a lot of trouble being affectionate - maybe the same thing can apply to cats. He is great with other cats though, very cautious and friendly and polite, which adds more weight to my idea that he may have been a stray, and socialized with cats but not humans very early on. I haven't seen Composure in any pet stores, but has anyone have anything to say about Pet-Ease? I see that one a lot and haven't tried it. As for the animal communicator, I have already tried so many things and spent so much money on trying to fix this that I'm pretty much giving up when it comes to this, and accepting that he's just going to be an aloof cat. At least he is happy, and in a safe environment, and has me to depend on even if he doesn't trust me. As much as it perturbs me for this relation to be so one-way, I'll just do my best to be zen about it.
I'm glad I posted on here about my thoughts of giving him up; this outlet was great for processing the situation and my reasoning about it so I didn't act rashly. I don't think I would have anyway, but it was more helpful and supportive than if I had thought through it myself. Thanks again to everyone.