@Bonitababy I do agree with you. A trial period should only be to make sure no one's life ends up in danger. There shouldn't be a probation attitude about whether a cat has a good personality. If you don't really know, you need to visit the cat a few times and find out. We see our own cat as being similar to a child, and we treat him like a person. But, in @elfin 's case, the trigger was pulled, the cat is in a bad situation, so now we just have to move forward. Do we keep yelling at elfin to get over herself, or do we look at the fact that elfin is hurting, has her own free will, and can't be compelled to feel the same as us because we say so?
If we want what's best for a cat, I don't think that means browbeating a reluctant parent to keep an unhappy kitten, especially when it's at the point of a bleeding paw that can't be treated. Social Services doesn't keep a child in an unhealthy home. Pix is young enough to be rehomed, and if elfin takes more time to cool off with the grief, she will be able to think more clearly about her next adoption.
I'm not telling eflin to send Pix away. I'm just saying that if elfin decides to do that, all we can do is hope for the best.
If we want what's best for a cat, I don't think that means browbeating a reluctant parent to keep an unhappy kitten, especially when it's at the point of a bleeding paw that can't be treated. Social Services doesn't keep a child in an unhealthy home. Pix is young enough to be rehomed, and if elfin takes more time to cool off with the grief, she will be able to think more clearly about her next adoption.
I'm not telling eflin to send Pix away. I'm just saying that if elfin decides to do that, all we can do is hope for the best.