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I haven’t been around this neck of the woods for long. I don’t even know if this is the right place to post this. I came here looking for advice about a new kitten after losing my 14 year old boy to cancer in February. He was my soul mate.
I still had my 13 year old girl when I got the new kitten. Then a few weeks later my girl was diagnosed with an inoperable tumour.
There are lots of layers to everything I’m feeling, I’ve been incredibly blessed in my life in recent years and so I’m in one of those places where it feels like I’m overdue a phase where everything turns to s**t.
And it seems like it is relentless, for the past 12 months it has been absolutely relentless, I know covid is a funny subject for many but it has literally decimated the males in my immediate family, some vaccinated some not. This is just scratching the surface. I still am incredibly lucky and incredibly grateful for all the wonderful things in my life, I have so many things to be thankful for, but equally I feel like I am falling to pieces.
I feel like what has happened with the cats has triggered an episode of depression, I’ve had it in the past. And I feel as though my coping mechanisms are deserting me. I’m by no means in a black hole that I can’t get out of but I’ve completely lost the ability to find joy in things. I’m going through the motions (which is good because I’ve been where I’m not able to do that) but I’m struggling. I’m questioning my sanity, I’m crying at the drop of a hat. I know it will get better and that’s what keeps me going but I honestly question so much on so many days whether or not I’m still a normal human being to be feeling this way. I feel so lost, so untethered, I have a lot of amazing support I really do, but I feel like I’m literally blowing in the wind because I can’t seem to get back to who I was before I lost my boy. He was everything to me and in many ways he was my coping mechanism because I turned to him for comfort. I don’t think I’ve had chance to grieve for him because my girl got sick and now I feel trapped in this limbo, watching her going through the same thing but unable to grieve for him and unable to help her.
Sorry people I just needed to write this down somewhere
I still had my 13 year old girl when I got the new kitten. Then a few weeks later my girl was diagnosed with an inoperable tumour.
There are lots of layers to everything I’m feeling, I’ve been incredibly blessed in my life in recent years and so I’m in one of those places where it feels like I’m overdue a phase where everything turns to s**t.
And it seems like it is relentless, for the past 12 months it has been absolutely relentless, I know covid is a funny subject for many but it has literally decimated the males in my immediate family, some vaccinated some not. This is just scratching the surface. I still am incredibly lucky and incredibly grateful for all the wonderful things in my life, I have so many things to be thankful for, but equally I feel like I am falling to pieces.
I feel like what has happened with the cats has triggered an episode of depression, I’ve had it in the past. And I feel as though my coping mechanisms are deserting me. I’m by no means in a black hole that I can’t get out of but I’ve completely lost the ability to find joy in things. I’m going through the motions (which is good because I’ve been where I’m not able to do that) but I’m struggling. I’m questioning my sanity, I’m crying at the drop of a hat. I know it will get better and that’s what keeps me going but I honestly question so much on so many days whether or not I’m still a normal human being to be feeling this way. I feel so lost, so untethered, I have a lot of amazing support I really do, but I feel like I’m literally blowing in the wind because I can’t seem to get back to who I was before I lost my boy. He was everything to me and in many ways he was my coping mechanism because I turned to him for comfort. I don’t think I’ve had chance to grieve for him because my girl got sick and now I feel trapped in this limbo, watching her going through the same thing but unable to grieve for him and unable to help her.
Sorry people I just needed to write this down somewhere