Well, IMO having been both a career woman.who at one time earned more than DH, I never questioned who should do the cooking. I just posted in another thread how when I was traveling, I used to prepare the meals for an entire week and label when to serve them with what when for DH and our daughter. I stopped doing that when I kept finding what I made was still in the fridge because DH would buy fast food for himself and our daughter because it was easier for him to pick up fast food than to heat up my meals. But both love my cooking, it was just that DH couldn't figure out how to put the meal together.Originally Posted by GoldenKitty45
Depends if the wife is a stay at home wife or a working wife. If working, then IMO they both should share in meal making. Not fair for one to have to come home from work and do all the cooking/cleaning.
I would have a clear understanding on both sides as to your and her expectations involving cleaning and cooking around the house.
With DH and I - we both love cooking (DH's a better cook) - he works at home; I work outside the house. So during the week, he makes dinner 95% of the time; I usually cook dinner on weekends. We also share washing dishes and have a lot of fun with it.
IMO one spouse should NOT be a slave to the other spouse
I do resent your saying that a stay at home wife should do all the cooking. I was both a working wife and now I am a stay at home wife.
I love to cook and I think that a spouse should do what he or she wants to do. Why is it that when a husband who can't do yard work or take out the garbage because he is too busy with work that he can hire a gardener but a working wife still has to cook because both are working and it is easier to find a gardener than a chef? Why is it that the wife who is not working is labeled a stay at home wife when she is doing the work of raising a children and doing all the household, taking care of DH and the children is not entitled to respect especially there is a child who has problems? I still always had to do the laundry, etc. on the weekends when I was working.
DH has a an MS degree from MIT and I have an MBA from the University of Michigan. I stay at home because I can and I can enjoy the time with my children and take care of our bi-polar son.