They are either taken or gay....just kiddingOriginally Posted by mferr84
I believe in Marriage, but my god, where are all the men worth marrying!!
In all seriousness, I have read some of your recent posts, and even though you are hurting, please do not shun love forever. You are young. It is wrong to compare your marriage to marriages in your family because when they took that walk down the aisle, they were probably feeling the exact same way you did on your wedding day. You can NEVER know what to expect!
I have a cousin who was with a lady for 12 years before marrying her. Things went downhill almost as soon as they tied the knot and she became really abusive. Here he lived with her for 11 years, and still didn't know what he really got into. They were only legally married for a year and a half. He had to get a few restaining orders on her when he bought a house for himself because she was destructive, stalking, and physically abusive. They did have a child together, and she now somewhat resents her mother for the games she played using her as bait.
That was 6 years ago. After dating a bit, he found a very nice lady who he has proposed to. They haven't set a date.
Take time to heal, and please note that you are only 21, and that you have your whole life ahead of you. Get the help you need (coming here is a great way to vent) and move on with your life for yourself. Do it for you!