The thing they should realise Tracy is the more they go on at you both to have them, the more you'll dig your heels in.
Theres nothing worse than pressure
Theres nothing worse than pressure
I totally agree. I have 4 kids, and no guarentee they will take care of me when I get old. And just being good with kids is no reason to give birth!Originally Posted by Tari
No...you aren't alone. I'm childless by choice, too.
Several people...including and especially my mother...have asked about why we don't have kids. Many have made the same kinds of comments about how I'm great with kids and would make a good mom, so they can't figure out why I don't want any. My personal pet peeves are the comments about how I'm in my late 30s and need to have kids so I'll have someone to take care of me in my old age.Like that's any kind of reason to have a child.
I'm sorry you are having trouble...but this is rich! So cruel..but totally what they deserve for trying to make you feel bad about your choices!!Originally Posted by Tari
(Incidentally, since I started having "female problems" about a year ago, I have a great way to deal with those rude people. When they make those kinds of statements I just get a stricken look on my face and rush out of the room as if I'm about to cry. They assume that I want kids and can't have them and they've stuck their foot in their mouth. That oughtta help teach them.)
I don't think having kids guarantees you won't be old and lonely someday. Certainly, my kids fill up my days, and will likely keep me busy forever. And I love them dearly, and highly recommend kids to anyone who sincerely wants them. BUT...you can build strong loving relationships with your nieces. Or the kids of friends. Or volunteer as a big sister...maybe that will end up bringing lifelong friendships.Originally Posted by Trouts mom
I don't really want to have kids either, I've said that for years (I'm 24). But lately I have been wondering if it will be lonely when I'm old without any kids or grandkids around to visit me? What if my husband dies before me and I'm all alone...That kind of makes me sad to think of having no family around when I get old.
I'm not sure that's a reason to have kids, but I just think about it sometimes.
Generally, most kids annoy me, and I think they are very selfish by nature. I know not all kids are, but that is my general opinion of them. I love my nieces to pieces though...I would be their gaurdian if anything happened to my sister.