Hello Fellow Cat Lovers.
I got a big one for ya. Please HELP. My cat, lola, died 6 days ago from what we do not know. It was a shock, we ran her to the vet, where she died minutes later. Lola's brother, Aristotle, is still at home, he is well.
He began to act very withdrawn, sleeping in between my partner and I, clawing our skin with his nails. he would wimper for hours. We spoke to him often, looked into his eyes, explained what happened, we did this on and off everyday, more than i can count. this seemed to help a bit, but he remained sad. understandably.
they say cats pick owners. Lola was "my" cat and ari was "my partners". I am having such an awful time dealing with her death. Alot of our family members told us that a new cat would help the male who is still alive. and also help us as a family to heal.
So we went a picked up the cat who was in the very room Lola died in. The recpetion area. I felt this cat, who we named Apple, had a part of Lola in her, sounds nuts I know.
Anyway, I made a huge error in introducing the new cat to the resident cat. i had no idea there were methods. The male cat hisses and growls, he sits on my lap purring and rubbing one me, hissing in between at the new one.
Is there anyway this will still work? right now I have the new cat in our den and gave the resident cat the run of the house. So i guess my questions are......
1. was it too soon to get a new cat? perhaps I should not ever have a new one?
2. did i give him enough time to grieve?
3. since i failed to introduce them right, can it be fixed?
thanks so much in advance
Joe
I got a big one for ya. Please HELP. My cat, lola, died 6 days ago from what we do not know. It was a shock, we ran her to the vet, where she died minutes later. Lola's brother, Aristotle, is still at home, he is well.
He began to act very withdrawn, sleeping in between my partner and I, clawing our skin with his nails. he would wimper for hours. We spoke to him often, looked into his eyes, explained what happened, we did this on and off everyday, more than i can count. this seemed to help a bit, but he remained sad. understandably.
they say cats pick owners. Lola was "my" cat and ari was "my partners". I am having such an awful time dealing with her death. Alot of our family members told us that a new cat would help the male who is still alive. and also help us as a family to heal.
So we went a picked up the cat who was in the very room Lola died in. The recpetion area. I felt this cat, who we named Apple, had a part of Lola in her, sounds nuts I know.
Anyway, I made a huge error in introducing the new cat to the resident cat. i had no idea there were methods. The male cat hisses and growls, he sits on my lap purring and rubbing one me, hissing in between at the new one.
Is there anyway this will still work? right now I have the new cat in our den and gave the resident cat the run of the house. So i guess my questions are......
1. was it too soon to get a new cat? perhaps I should not ever have a new one?
2. did i give him enough time to grieve?
3. since i failed to introduce them right, can it be fixed?
thanks so much in advance
Joe