Hon, this sounds just like one of my ex-boyfriends. We slept together the first night I met him (drunk
) and from that point on, he was "in love". He really manipulated me because I was at a low point in my life and he seemed to know just what I wanted to hear. Yeah, I was young and gullible. He also had a rough life and I felt sorry for him, of course nothing was his fault it was all everyone else's fault. He pulled the "it doesn't matter...you don't love me...", silent treatment stuff. Yep...all too familiar.
We went out for 5 months. He had just moved to town and was staying at his sister's when we met so I forgave him for not have a job or a car. But, he didn't have either the entire time we went out. Somehow, he convinced me to let him drop me off at work and he had my car while I was working (I paid for the gas, of course), for money he would come up to work and get what tips I had made that far that night. He wrecked my car in a snow storm after sleeping with another girl IN MY CAR (he wouldn't admit it, but I knew...). He hit me once and would have again if his friend didn't stop him. He turned me against my parents saying they hated them (which they did, but they were still polite to him), didn't want me to see my friends...I all but cut my best friend out of my life because he didn't like her. I finally woke up when he blatantly got some big breasted bar bimbo's phone number right in front of me. That was it. I dumped him the next day. Not one tear was shed by me...although he cried...poor baby.
The only good thing that came out of it was he was a learning experience. After that, when I rated men I dated, he was "0" so all men were compared to him in terms of badness.
I don't know if this guy is just immature, emotionally unstable, or seriously manipulating you (or all of the above) but there are too many warning signs here. I would get him out of you life asap. And make sure your friends know (even your friend's boyfriend) so they can keep an eye out for you because I have a feeling he isn't going to take getting dumped very easily.
We went out for 5 months. He had just moved to town and was staying at his sister's when we met so I forgave him for not have a job or a car. But, he didn't have either the entire time we went out. Somehow, he convinced me to let him drop me off at work and he had my car while I was working (I paid for the gas, of course), for money he would come up to work and get what tips I had made that far that night. He wrecked my car in a snow storm after sleeping with another girl IN MY CAR (he wouldn't admit it, but I knew...). He hit me once and would have again if his friend didn't stop him. He turned me against my parents saying they hated them (which they did, but they were still polite to him), didn't want me to see my friends...I all but cut my best friend out of my life because he didn't like her. I finally woke up when he blatantly got some big breasted bar bimbo's phone number right in front of me. That was it. I dumped him the next day. Not one tear was shed by me...although he cried...poor baby.
The only good thing that came out of it was he was a learning experience. After that, when I rated men I dated, he was "0" so all men were compared to him in terms of badness.
I don't know if this guy is just immature, emotionally unstable, or seriously manipulating you (or all of the above) but there are too many warning signs here. I would get him out of you life asap. And make sure your friends know (even your friend's boyfriend) so they can keep an eye out for you because I have a feeling he isn't going to take getting dumped very easily.