Just a thought here. Could it be that he expects you to do all of the things you do because that's just the way he's used to it? Did his mother work outside of the home?
I know I'm not saying this right...let me try again. If he grew up in a household where Dad worked long hours and Mom always took care of his every need and never complained (at least not in his earshot), he may just expect the same from his own wife. But what he doesn't understand is that his mother didn't also have a job (from home in your case, but that doesn't make it any less time consuming) and she didn't attend college while taking care of the house and kids and household finances. I would bet money (if my theory is correct) that when you have brought it up in the past he has pretty much belittled the amount of work you do, even if it's in jest. That's not necessarily because he doesn't think you do anything, just that he doesn't truly understand everything that you DO have to do. It really is too bad that you can't have him go through a full typical day with you to show him everything you do...
(I have this annoying habit of trying to understand the "whys" behind the issue, and trying to see where the other person is coming from to try to find a compromise solution.
I hope I'm not overstepping here...)
I know I'm not saying this right...let me try again. If he grew up in a household where Dad worked long hours and Mom always took care of his every need and never complained (at least not in his earshot), he may just expect the same from his own wife. But what he doesn't understand is that his mother didn't also have a job (from home in your case, but that doesn't make it any less time consuming) and she didn't attend college while taking care of the house and kids and household finances. I would bet money (if my theory is correct) that when you have brought it up in the past he has pretty much belittled the amount of work you do, even if it's in jest. That's not necessarily because he doesn't think you do anything, just that he doesn't truly understand everything that you DO have to do. It really is too bad that you can't have him go through a full typical day with you to show him everything you do...
(I have this annoying habit of trying to understand the "whys" behind the issue, and trying to see where the other person is coming from to try to find a compromise solution.