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I need help, I'm at my wit's end.
Let me start by telling you that I was pre-vet as an undergrad and worked in vet offices for 4 years. I have many friends from college who are now practicing veterinarians. I'm currently a stay at home mother to two preschoolers with a third child on the way and a deployed husband.
I have two cats-Skipper and Kahlua-who I have had for 12 years. Both were rescue cats I acquired as a college student in 1999. Skipper has had litterbox issues from day 1. He has always urinated outside of the litterbox seemingly randomly. There are no underlying UTI issues or other medical problems. He does have OCD and licks the fur off of his belly whenever stressed. I have tried amytriptiline, Depo Provera, prozac. No improvement in symptoms. I have used Feliway diffusers and spray since 2000. We have tried every different litter option known to man, we have multiple litterboxes. I used to just "deal with it" but since I have started having children 4 years ago the issues have become worse and now seem focused on my children 90% of the time-he pees and poops on my children's things most of the time and stays as far away from them as he can (they do not mess with him, they leave both cats alone.) It has become almost a daily occurrence.
My female cat Kahlua has always been aggressive. Again, something that wasn't as much as a deal-breaker before i had children. She has also gotten progressively more aggressive as she ages. She currently can only be handled (rarely) by my husband or myself and even then she will bite at times. She has bitten my children unprovoked (not directly provoked, they have been playing in the same room). Just last night she jumped on me while I was reading in bed and bit me hard enough to break the skin. Again, we use Feliway constantly so not sure what else i can do about that...if she bites my children one more time my husband will insist on putting her down, and quite honestly I'm leaning towards his solution.
I have been trying for months to find a new home for my cats...with my third child on the way I can no longer deal with the issues they are having and feel that they are beyond modification at this point. I have been turned away by 13 no-kill shelters or sanctuaries thus far. I am starting to seriously consider euthanasia...its something I never, ever thought I would do. I am having a hard time because I cannot keep going the way things are with cleaning up urine/defecation every day and constantly being scared myself or my children are going to be bit.
I also need to note that we are military and have moved 5 times in the last 6 years. We always live in military housing or rentals so I cannot build them their own cat room or anything like that. I cannot just let Skipper pee the carpets because I will be charged as a renter for the damage. The cats are both declawed. I have them outside right now 90% of the time which they seem to prefer given they like to stay away from the children but I feel like I'm just waiting for them to get injured or worse.
We are in NC so if anyone knows a sanctuary anywhere here or the neighboring states that is accepting cats I'd love to know, or if anyone has been in a similar situation. I'm so upset over this and have no idea what to do, I feel like my options are exhausted.
Let me start by telling you that I was pre-vet as an undergrad and worked in vet offices for 4 years. I have many friends from college who are now practicing veterinarians. I'm currently a stay at home mother to two preschoolers with a third child on the way and a deployed husband.
I have two cats-Skipper and Kahlua-who I have had for 12 years. Both were rescue cats I acquired as a college student in 1999. Skipper has had litterbox issues from day 1. He has always urinated outside of the litterbox seemingly randomly. There are no underlying UTI issues or other medical problems. He does have OCD and licks the fur off of his belly whenever stressed. I have tried amytriptiline, Depo Provera, prozac. No improvement in symptoms. I have used Feliway diffusers and spray since 2000. We have tried every different litter option known to man, we have multiple litterboxes. I used to just "deal with it" but since I have started having children 4 years ago the issues have become worse and now seem focused on my children 90% of the time-he pees and poops on my children's things most of the time and stays as far away from them as he can (they do not mess with him, they leave both cats alone.) It has become almost a daily occurrence.
My female cat Kahlua has always been aggressive. Again, something that wasn't as much as a deal-breaker before i had children. She has also gotten progressively more aggressive as she ages. She currently can only be handled (rarely) by my husband or myself and even then she will bite at times. She has bitten my children unprovoked (not directly provoked, they have been playing in the same room). Just last night she jumped on me while I was reading in bed and bit me hard enough to break the skin. Again, we use Feliway constantly so not sure what else i can do about that...if she bites my children one more time my husband will insist on putting her down, and quite honestly I'm leaning towards his solution.
I have been trying for months to find a new home for my cats...with my third child on the way I can no longer deal with the issues they are having and feel that they are beyond modification at this point. I have been turned away by 13 no-kill shelters or sanctuaries thus far. I am starting to seriously consider euthanasia...its something I never, ever thought I would do. I am having a hard time because I cannot keep going the way things are with cleaning up urine/defecation every day and constantly being scared myself or my children are going to be bit.
I also need to note that we are military and have moved 5 times in the last 6 years. We always live in military housing or rentals so I cannot build them their own cat room or anything like that. I cannot just let Skipper pee the carpets because I will be charged as a renter for the damage. The cats are both declawed. I have them outside right now 90% of the time which they seem to prefer given they like to stay away from the children but I feel like I'm just waiting for them to get injured or worse.
We are in NC so if anyone knows a sanctuary anywhere here or the neighboring states that is accepting cats I'd love to know, or if anyone has been in a similar situation. I'm so upset over this and have no idea what to do, I feel like my options are exhausted.