Thanks everyone - the advice you have all given is just great.
John was really upset tonight when I came home and told him what happend. Especially after the emails she has sent me this morning and made me feel like a bad person for caring. The weird thing is that I don't ever bring up the situation, she's the one who brings it up, and I always tell her that she knows how I feel about it....sometimes I think she's just looking for the attention, only b/c she's not getting it from the boy she wants.
When she's with him, she's the happiest girl in the world, even though he's not good for her @ all!
But when he's with his friends, or neglects to call her, she's depressed, I don't wanna eat-never gonna find a man again-type girl. Not only is it stressful on her- but for me too!
I've been there for her time after time when he's ditched her, listened to her cry and even when he didn't call her on her birthday and called her an "Attention Fein", I took her out with a bunch of our friends to celebrate her birthday -she ended up having a few drinks and later told me that the only reason she went out with us and had a good time is b/c she got drunk and tried to not think about him. (Even tho she called him about 10 times that night & he didn't answer, she even went as far as to call his MOTHER to see where he was at) That hurt me, b/c I took it as her only trying to have a good time cuz of him, not because I took her out. I never got one thank you for that either.
I'm just starting to wonder where I stand with her. Am I a friend? Or just someone to fill the place when he's not around?
Thanks for letting me vent... you are all so great, seriously, a life saver!!