long distant relationships

aaaaa it is so hard let me tell you ok almost a year ago i was online in a yahoo chat room the philly one seeing thats where i am from and i started talking to this guy we were really hiting it off we would go back and forth asking questions and were always like ok its your turn no its your turn well it turned out he lived in washington state and i was like then what are you doing in a philly chat room ? ya know he said his room mate really liked the philly eagles and was looking to chat about them well he finaly asked if he could call me on the phone i was like sure so we wound up talking for like 4 hrs on the phone till his calling card reached its limit then i called him back and we talked for another few hrs we went on like this for a few mounths and finaly decided to exchange pics via snail mail well summer rolled around and i was dying toi meet him in person so i got the money together and brought him to me sadly only for a weekend that was all he could spare but we had the best time he met my parents and daughter at dinner the first night we really had a great time well he was going to move here in dec. but things fell thru because the school he goes to said in order for him to transfer now he would owe $4000. in back loans or something i tried to think of ways to come up with the money but still havent its soo hard we are going on are 1 yr anniversary in febuary and we might not be together i miss him soo much he is really a great guy and i know he will be good for me its just so hard not being able to see the one you love on a daily basis being able to touch him or hold and kiss him really hurts i dont even know when ill see him again. can anyone relate?

I met my now husband through a personal ad he placed. We wrote for three years before we finally met in his state of Alaska. Had a great two weeks with him and his kids and went back home, stayed apart a few months then I went back in the winter. I had a great job, with a major corporation, and after awhile, I left all I knew to move to his state and get married. We will be celebrating our 19th anniversary next month. But those three years when we were slowly falling in love, was difficult to deal with and his phone bills were out of sight. He would call me, and I traveled a great deal.

Give it time, if it is meant to be it will work out.

thanks hissy i know what you mean about the phone bills in the first month my billl was over $700. my dad fliped but called the phone comp. to look at diff. phone plans congrats on your 19th anniversary

i know exactly how you feel me and my fiance had a long distance relationship for the first 7 months i lived in oregon and he lived in texas...i was sopposed to move to texas in april but things came up so i couldnt but he flew to oregon to visit me for a wonderful week...........the hardest thing was letting him get on the plane back to texas......than we couldnt handle being apart so he went to oregon the following july and we came back to texas at the end of august.....and we are happy as can be...i know it is hard now but when we were apart i always told myself it was only going to be for a short while and we have the whole rest of our lives to be together...it was worth the wait if you ask me.

I can relate. I met my boyfriend when I was a senior in high school and he was in college 200 miles away. This is complicated, bare with me! His grandmother's sister was my mother's best friend's mom. When my mom's best friend died from cancer, my boyfriend and I met at the funeral. My mom dragged him to me. Well we really hit it off and became really close really fast. He had to go back to college and so we only got to see each other on the weekends. Most of the time I drove up there and stayed the weekend with him in his dorm or he drove here and stayed at my house. We did that for two years, and it really took a toll on me. I love him so much and it was so hard to leave him every weekend. I would just cry all week because I missed him so much. We always talked on the phone during the week, but as I'm sure you know, it's not the same. Finally, a year ago, he wanted to come back home. We have been together for three years now, and have spent the past year inseperable. I think being apart really makes you realize how much that person means to you. Of course we have our occasional spats like all couples, but we really are close. If you really think this person is the one, then you should hang in there and wait for him. I know it's hard and depressing, but it's well worth the reward when you finally can be together.

omg i remember when i had to take him to the airport it was so hard we got there and my mini van back hatch would not open i think it was a sign not to let him go and when i got home i printed out the pics i took of him and started bawling

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omg i remember when i had to take him to the airport it was so hard we got there and my mini van back hatch would not open i think it was a sign not to let him go and when i got home i printed out the pics i took of him and started bawling

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i didnt wait till i got home i was bawling as we were sitting at the aiport waiting till it was time for him to board the plane

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i didnt wait till i got home i was bawling as we were sitting at the aiport waiting till it was time for him to board the plane

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in philly i couldnt go to his gate with him i could only leave him at the door security reasons

I know it's REALLY hard, and sometimes I felt like I was going to die. I sulked around and couldn't eat. I was and still am love striken. I can laugh about it now, but it was really really hard for me. I thank God every day for blessing me with him. He is the best thing that has ever happened to me. If you wait, you will be blessed. The only thing that kept me going was that I knew one day we would be able to always be together and have the rest of our lives together.

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I know it's REALLY hard, and sometimes I felt like I was going to die. I sulked around and couldn't eat. I was and still am love striken.

I can laugh about it now, but it was really really hard for me. I thank God every day for blessing me with him. He is the best thing that has ever happened to me. If you wait, you will be blessed. The only thing that kept me going was that I knew one day we would be able to always be together and have the rest of our lives together.

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i think thats the only way i stay sane is thinking one day we will be married and together forever

I met my hubby on the internet. He lived in Scotland and I in NY. We started talking on IM in December and then on the phone and then used the web cams. I went to visit him in August of that year and we had a great time. I went back the following January and we got married. It was the worst because only 2 weeks after we got married,I had to go back to NY and wait for my visa to move back to Scotland. I moved back to Scotland in March. That was 7 years ago. We will celebrate our 7th wedding anniversary on Jan 19.

I was going to mention Mary Anne's story, but she already did. If you both have the patience, maybe you'll be as lucky as Mary Anne and Mike.

Ah thanks Ryan!

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Ah thanks Ryan!

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You're welcome. It's an impressive and endearing story.

My BF and I spent a year and a half while I was in school in a long distance relationship seeing each other only in school holidays, its hard and the phonebills are huge (especially between the UK and Canada ), but I have lived with him for 2 1/2 years now and will have my full visa papers soon

Honestly, its hard at times, but its worth it when you know you can finally be together, and if your relationship can withstand a long longdistance relationship, you know its pretty special!

well we have lasted almost a year so far im pretty impressed with my patience normaly when i want something i want it rite then lol

Our daughter has been committed to a fellow in Italy for 6 years now. They see each other twice per year - she goes there for a month in February and he comes to Canada for a month in the summer.

Personally, I have no idea how they can maintain a long-distance relationship for that long but they have and they both say they are committed to each other. I don't think I could handle that.

I met my husband online 7 years ago. We chatted via computer and telephone for a year before we met in person. At the time, both of our lives were....difficult, for lack of a better word. He lived in Florida, I was in Illinois. We had no idea how we would finally be together, but we did manage, and he moved here 4 months after we met in real life.

That was 6 years ago. Patience and understanding, along with a real desire to spend the rest of your lives together, are what will see you through.

I can relate - my first true love and I were long distance relationship for about 5 years - he was away in college and I was still in high school back home- we were off and on, but seriously together for 2 1/2 years, it was miserable! He wasn't very trust worthy or anything like that


I moved here for him a year and a 1/2 ago and it was the worst thing (well at the time) ever! But then I realized he was nothing but bad for me, and I broke it off (he was cheating on me left and right and controlling my life) and I found John - we have been together for 8 months now and I have never been so happy in my life

In long distance relationships you really need trust and understanding - and I didn't trust him b/c he was a total flirt with girls, and they took it the wrong way, if you know what I mean.
Long distance is so hard, but I know there are plenty of people that make it work- but it just was not for me!

Hey, cheer up! You are only a state away. I met my husband online while I was in China, we had to be apart for a while, I know it sucked. Just have a lot of patience. We were finally together, then we had to be apart again for almost a year.

Now, we are married and together, and it felt better, our patience worth it. Just try not to be in a hurry, just wait for the right time, and when the right time comes you will be so happy and you won't even know it came.