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Can anyone take 2 older cats?! Desperate situation!

post #1 of 29
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I came across a post from someone (local to me) who stated they were going to have to put down their 2 cats (around 9 yrs old I believe)- I guess I'm still unsure of the reason but I told her I would do everything to find them a home. I have 8 indoor already - and from the sounds of it - they need a calmer household than mine. =)

Here is an e-mail she sent me w/ their information. I can work on pictures, etc. I'm sure she'd be willing to ship if that's what it took, as it does sound like she would much rather find them a home (thank goodness).

I personally find it hard to believe a cat can't be introduced to other cats and dogs (children) as well - so I don't know that these cats not doing well around others is necessarily true. It sounds like they've always been restricted to one part of the house- this may be why they act the way they do. Not only that but everyone's 'idea' of 'not getting along' can be completely different. Just like cats when they're first introduced- they fight and hiss like heck but usually w/in a week or two - they're best friends. Some people can't get through that first week therefore think they won't do well at all- which, like I said, we all know is not true.

Here is her e-mail she sent me. She is located in Southern, NH - so anyone in New England, or the option to ship I'm sure would be entertained. Thanks so much to everyone who takes the time to read this! =) Like I said, I will also try and get pictures for everyone. They are older but they still could have another 9-10 yrs left to live. Thanks again!
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Teshia,
If you could help me find a home for my cats that would be wonderful.
They are really nice cats. I am just afraid that someone will agree to all of the things I tell them these guys need and then they will kick them outside.
Pook: named so because everything "spooks" her, she is 9 years old,very shy and loves to sleep on the pillow next to my daughter's head. she is not up to date on her shots, I just never took her to the vet unless she was sick because she never comes in contact with other animals. She is thin but healthy.Litter box trained.
Baby: was born without the muscle that covers the breastbone so the breastbone protrudes, I can get vet records to verify this condition, being picked up causes her pain so she needs an owner who will wait for her to come, which she surely will do.Baby is up to date on shots as I took her in for another set of chest x-rays not so long ago. She too is litterbox trained. She fears children as they always want to pick her up. Both cats love our 14 month old grandson because he knows to let the cats come to him and he just "touches" them. Baby is a big fatty.
They are both affectionate and love to cuddle. Pook is just afraid of life and Baby is afraid of pain. They have lived with our family since they were old enough to leave their Moms.We have had the dog (Lucki) for 3 years and they are all afraid of each other. Lucki chases Baby and Baby scratches Lucki. We have tried bringing another cat into the family a few times and Baby will not tolerate that, either. They will need an adults only home with no other pet.
Think you could help?
We live in the Peterborough NH area but I would travel a great distance to find them a new home.
Thanks for any help you can give.
Mary
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The next e-mail she sent:

Thank you so much.
I keep picturing myself with no option but to put them down and you have given me hope.
Yes, feel free to post what I have written I would like a potential new owner to know as much as possible about them.
Mary
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She said she'd need to find them a home by the end of October the latest.

Please let me know if anyone can help.

Thank you!

Teshia
post #2 of 29
Sorry I can't help as I have two cats and really can't take another one and be comfortable financially. I think people who take animals need to be prepared to do what it takes financially to keep them well and happy. I do hope she finds a good home for them. Thank you for helping her and I hope it works out well for the cats.
post #3 of 29
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Thanks. I know exactly what you mean. Trust me - I'm biting my tongue on this and just doing whatever I can to get these cats a new home asap. =) I figured this would be a good outlet to try.

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Originally Posted by Bugaboo1
Sorry I can't help as I have two cats and really can't take another one and be comfortable financially. I think people who take animals need to be prepared to do what it takes financially to keep them well and happy. I do hope she finds a good home for them. Thank you for helping her and I hope it works out well for the cats.
post #4 of 29
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She just e-mailed back saying she doesn't have pictures as she doesn't have a digital camera. She's about an hour and a half away from me (yes, NH is that big, hehe)- but if someone is willing to entertain 'rescueing' these cats- I'll go there myself and take pictures w/ my camera and post them.

Thanks!
post #5 of 29
Uhh, if they were closer I would take them into our rescue. I have a soft spot for the older ones....
post #6 of 29
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Aww.. thanks. So do I - these are always the ones that have a harder time finding homes.

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Originally Posted by ryobious
Uhh, if they were closer I would take them into our rescue. I have a soft spot for the older ones....
post #7 of 29
Thread Starter 
I seriously am about to lose it w/ this person. I e-mailed her asking if she'd be willing to ship these cats if we find a good home outside of NH and all she e-mailed back was "Nope".

I swear- once I find these cats a home- I'm going to tell it like it is. Who the HELL puts their cat to sleep just for the hell of it?? Obviously any home is better than the one they're in now. Well, I know that's not true but it feels like it right now!! Ughh.. I'm so fired up right now. I mean, her first post I came across was asking if shelters would even put down healthy cats. Ughh.
post #8 of 29
I second Bugaboo1. I took in Freckles from a similar situation (never been to the vets except when he was neutered) and then took him to my vet. He had severe dental problems that required surgery. Thankfully I had enough money to pay for it (had to give up vacation this year however) and he's fine. I really couldn't go through that again so soon. People who don't take their pets to the vets for annual checkups really anger me! As do people who just dispose of pets like they're tissues.

I really hope these kitties find a good home. They don't deserve to be treated this way.
post #9 of 29
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Trust me, I am so fired up over this person. If she didn't already know that I have a houseful of cats and more than likely wouldn't be a good fit, I'd take them and foster until I could find a home. Ughh... these cats are probably better off in a shelter until they can find a home!

She is acting so - ugh, I don't even know the word, I'm just disgusted. She hasn't responded to my e-mail asking her why she does not want to ship. If it's the money - I'll pay it for crying out loud. I think she's just ignoring me now (jeez, nothing like crapping on the person doing everything to help an ignorant soul).

This was her original post I came across. Alright, well, I should probably explain a little more. I'm sure many of you have heard of Freecycle. Well, I posted something about being extremely offended when ALL people post (when offering a cat/dog) is "Need to get rid of" without anything else in their post. I think it's offensive- whether they mean well or not. Of course several people thought I was being insensitive and should realize not everyone is as 'intelligent' as others. Well, my response was that this has nothing to do w/ intelligence- it's common sense. Animals aren't trash, stop posting like they are. A simple, "free to good home" would be a heck of a lot more compassionate and probably attract someone w/ the same. Anyhow, this was her response to my original post (and she goes on to ask for my help which is why I posted this on TCS in the first place):
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Just because a person says a certain set of words does not mean they do not love their animal. They have posted it which to me is far better than opening the car door in the middle of the city and watching their dog run down the sidewalk or seeing a farm where their cat will "fit right in" and opening the car door.

Please do not get people going on the merits of animals and freecycle. this topic has been covered so much already.

I have an animal dillema and since we are on the topic of "getting rid of" animals I would like some input:
I have 2 indoor, litter trained adult (7 and 9 years old) spayed, female cats,
they do not like kids chasing them, other cats, un-asked-for human contact or dogs.
I need to "get rid of" them.
They just cannot continue living with my family. They have always lived upstairs with the kids but the kids are moving away and the dog lives downstairs. I cannot leave them to live alone.
Finding a new home for the dog is not an option.
The kids cannot take them to their new homes.
I do not think I will ever find a home that will:
take them both, respect that they just want to live their lives without human contact unless they come to you, keep them inside always, feed them the one brand of food that does not make them vomit,
What is the next step for them? Is it right to try to find them a home and hope they are ok or is right to have them put down out of the love I have for them? Will a vet put down a healthy cat?
Any ideas?
Mary
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Originally Posted by Bob'sMom
I second Bugaboo1. I took in Freckles from a similar situation (never been to the vets except when he was neutered) and then took him to my vet. He had severe dental problems that required surgery. Thankfully I had enough money to pay for it (had to give up vacation this year however) and he's fine. I really couldn't go through that again so soon. People who don't take their pets to the vets for annual checkups really anger me! As do people who just dispose of pets like they're tissues.

I really hope these kitties find a good home. They don't deserve to be treated this way.
post #10 of 29
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If someone is out of NH or not too local - I'd be willing to drive these cats to their new home... well, if I'm 'allowed'. She probably won't drive too far to bring them somewhere else, yet won't let me do it if I offer. Who knows... I just want to get these cats a home they deserve asap.

Thanks everyone!
post #11 of 29
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Originally Posted by xomycatsxo
If someone is out of NH or not too local - I'd be willing to drive these cats to their new home... well, if I'm 'allowed'. She probably won't drive too far to bring them somewhere else, yet won't let me do it if I offer. Who knows... I just want to get these cats a home they deserve asap.

Thanks everyone!
You are a very nice person for trying to save this cats even though their owner sounds awful. I don't understand what her problem is. If the cats don't like human contact, and the kids are moving away, why in the world wouldnt' she let the cats to live upstairs as they always have been?
Some people can make anyone crazy.
post #12 of 29
Those poor innocent kitties.
post #13 of 29
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That was one of my first questions and she said because now that the kids are going off to school - they'll be shutting the upstairs down for the winter.

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Originally Posted by elizwithcat
You are a very nice person for trying to save this cats even though their owner sounds awful. I don't understand what her problem is. If the cats don't like human contact, and the kids are moving away, why in the world wouldnt' she let the cats to live upstairs as they always have been?
Some people can make anyone crazy.
post #14 of 29
Thread Starter 
Yep! It's like there's no reasoning with this person ... and it's driving me freaking nuts.

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Originally Posted by xocats
Those poor innocent kitties.
post #15 of 29
I am very sorry for these kitties, too. I think the people who want healthy cats put down "out of love" should be required to do it themselves. Here's the injection, if you want to kill your cat to save on a heating bill, go for it!

This is nuts. Honestly, a little thought and caring would be nice. Say the cats like to stay upstairs-shut it off, leaving a cat door, and put heating beds up there for the kitties. But evidently she loves them too much for that.

Grrrr.

MyCats, please do not offer this woman a dime to help these cats. If you can help without spending anything, fine, but do not spend money bailing out a crazy woman. Chances are, she will spend the money she saves getting two more kittens!

How terribly ugly. My heart breaks for you getting caught up with this, and for the poor kitties, who have no idea that their secure world is coming to an end.
post #16 of 29
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Originally Posted by Beckiboo
I am very sorry for these kitties, too. I think the people who want healthy cats put down "out of love" should be required to do it themselves. Here's the injection, if you want to kill your cat to save on a heating bill, go for it!

This is nuts. Honestly, a little thought and caring would be nice. Say the cats like to stay upstairs-shut it off, leaving a cat door, and put heating beds up there for the kitties. But evidently she loves them too much for that.

Grrrr.

MyCats, please do not offer this woman a dime to help these cats. If you can help without spending anything, fine, but do not spend money bailing out a crazy woman. Chances are, she will spend the money she saves getting two more kittens!

How terribly ugly. My heart breaks for you getting caught up with this, and for the poor kitties, who have no idea that their secure world is coming to an end.
post #17 of 29
Thread Starter 
I know- everything you said is .. trust me... everything I'm thinking and want to spit right at her. I could freaking chew this woman up and spit her right out but I need to get the cats first. She hasn't responded to my last e-mail about why she doesn't want to ship them, so I guess she was offended by my asking.

I would suggest doing something about the upstairs, but two things, 1) the cats don't get along w/ the dogs so they can't be downstairs at all and 2) from the sounds of it- these cats belong w/ someone a lot more compassionate and willing to take on the financial responsibility as well. She may have brought them to the vets but geez- I hope it wasn't an inconvenience .. I can just imagine how pissed she must have been that day.

Ughh - we'll see. I may just say I found a home for the cats and take them and do something myself. It totally puts it into perspective when you say that they don't know their days could be coming to an end.

They're probably scared of her and the fact that they've never been a part of the family (it sounds like anyway). I mean, cats definitely have it worse but no cat should ever be neglected in the least.

We'll see what happens anyway. =) Thanks!

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Originally Posted by Beckiboo
I am very sorry for these kitties, too. I think the people who want healthy cats put down "out of love" should be required to do it themselves. Here's the injection, if you want to kill your cat to save on a heating bill, go for it!

This is nuts. Honestly, a little thought and caring would be nice. Say the cats like to stay upstairs-shut it off, leaving a cat door, and put heating beds up there for the kitties. But evidently she loves them too much for that.

Grrrr.

MyCats, please do not offer this woman a dime to help these cats. If you can help without spending anything, fine, but do not spend money bailing out a crazy woman. Chances are, she will spend the money she saves getting two more kittens!

How terribly ugly. My heart breaks for you getting caught up with this, and for the poor kitties, who have no idea that their secure world is coming to an end.
post #18 of 29
I would remove them....however, finding homes for older cats is sometimes difficult...so be prepared in case you have to foster them for a while. I would use the suggestions in the PDF called "how to find homes for homeless pets" you can find it here:

http://www.natewood.net/Rehome.html

Katie
post #19 of 29
Thread Starter 
I'll definitely take a look at the link. Thanks!

BTW, I pm'd you earlier today.

-T

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Originally Posted by TNR1
I would remove them....however, finding homes for older cats is sometimes difficult...so be prepared in case you have to foster them for a while. I would use the suggestions in the PDF called "how to find homes for homeless pets" you can find it here:

http://www.natewood.net/Rehome.html

Katie
post #20 of 29
Any luck?
post #21 of 29
Thread Starter 
I e-mailed her today to let her know I haven't come up with anything yet but she has not e-mailed me back to say thank you or anything.

Should I just say I have a home and take the cats in and find them a home myself???? I'm so torn with this. My husband is not going to be happy if I say I'm taking in even more cats, and I don't want to stress my cats w/ bringing more in (I'm at my limit for sure) but I need to do something.

Ideas???

Thanks!

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Originally Posted by Bob'sMom
Any luck?
post #22 of 29
I think if it was me I would take them and find them homes myself. This sort of thing would haunt me, especially if I found out later that she had them pts
post #23 of 29
The more I think about it the more I think she might put conditions on the adoption (which is fine most of the time), so many so that anyone who might be willing to take the cats will back off. Things like "they need to be the only cats in the home" (just about everyone on this board has at least 1 cat), or perhaps she'll want money to cover past costs. Or perhaps in talking with her they may feel they're talking to a psycho who is totally uncooperative about meeting them halfway or something. This is bothering me a lot, in part because I can't take them in due to space considerations (1 bedroom apartment and 2 cats already).
post #24 of 29
Thread Starter 
How strange, I didn't get notification of the replies. ??

Sorry for the late response!

Yep, I know what you mean, and I appreciate you offering any advice you have!

I haven't been in touch w/ since that last e-mail I told you about - she never replied back. Actually, I did send her one more just telling her I was still working on it but again, no e-mail response from her. Some people are so ignorant and ungrateful.

I am having a benefit yard sale in 3 weeks to support the NHSAS (NH Spay and Altering Services) and Animal Allies. I'm going to look into having an 'adoption board' of cats available through Animal Allies (maybe even local shelters) and (if she'll 'let' me) post pictures of her two cats and see what I come up with.

To answer the other post, yes- I am definitely going to take them myself if she doesn't have a home for them. I am at my limit myself, and my cats are going to stress out over more cats- but I don't want their fate to be what it will if she can't find them a home. Amazing- people who are in desperate situations yet have so many demands. Guarantee if it were her life we were talking about - she wouldn't expect anyone to be so careless. Ughh. Oh well - I'm still working at this. Thank you!!!

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Originally Posted by Bob'sMom
The more I think about it the more I think she might put conditions on the adoption (which is fine most of the time), so many so that anyone who might be willing to take the cats will back off. Things like "they need to be the only cats in the home" (just about everyone on this board has at least 1 cat), or perhaps she'll want money to cover past costs. Or perhaps in talking with her they may feel they're talking to a psycho who is totally uncooperative about meeting them halfway or something. This is bothering me a lot, in part because I can't take them in due to space considerations (1 bedroom apartment and 2 cats already).
post #25 of 29
oh i just hate to hear stories like this!! makes you sad and angry at the same time. i live in NH and just adore older cats (although 7 and 9 are young in my book!! i just lost a 15yr old to diabetes, renal failure and senility, and i have an 18yr old now in renal failure.
if it were not for the huge vet bills i have, i would not hesitate to explore this more (the fact that one of the cats has not had regular medical care is going to put off a lot of potential adopters, i am afraid)
poor poor kitties! and just exactly *why* is "getting rid of" (her words) the dog not an option?? it is so much easier to find homes for dogs. she does not give any reasonable explaination for wanting to re home these cats, but reading between the lines it seems she just prefers the dog over them. (i am not suggesting that *any* of these pets be rehomed, but *she* has made a choice- the cats go, the dog stays)

grrrrr!!
i need more coffee before i read things like this!!

there are no kill shelters, and many will agree to adopt out cats who have always lived together as a package deal. shelters can screen people and do a pretty good job of it, from what i have seen. they might be better off going thru a shelter, as they will check them out medically and determine the true temperament and personality of the cats, so that the person who adopts them gets more information than "they dont like human contact"
i wouldn't be surprised to learn that they love human contact but have never been around a human who truly loved them....


so sad, and so infuriating!!
post #26 of 29
Thread Starter 
Exactly, and like I said before - I'm sure her take on the cats not getting along w/ the dog is very normal behavior to anyone else. It's exactly what you said- someone not caring enough about their cats to take the time.

I also agree w/ the shelters, but that, to her, is absolute last solution- if at all.

Where in NH are you? I'm in Gilford (lakes region).

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Originally Posted by catnapt
oh i just hate to hear stories like this!! makes you sad and angry at the same time. i live in NH and just adore older cats (although 7 and 9 are young in my book!! i just lost a 15yr old to diabetes, renal failure and senility, and i have an 18yr old now in renal failure.
if it were not for the huge vet bills i have, i would not hesitate to explore this more (the fact that one of the cats has not had regular medical care is going to put off a lot of potential adopters, i am afraid)
poor poor kitties! and just exactly *why* is "getting rid of" (her words) the dog not an option?? it is so much easier to find homes for dogs. she does not give any reasonable explaination for wanting to re home these cats, but reading between the lines it seems she just prefers the dog over them. (i am not suggesting that *any* of these pets be rehomed, but *she* has made a choice- the cats go, the dog stays)

grrrrr!!
i need more coffee before i read things like this!!

there are no kill shelters, and many will agree to adopt out cats who have always lived together as a package deal. shelters can screen people and do a pretty good job of it, from what i have seen. they might be better off going thru a shelter, as they will check them out medically and determine the true temperament and personality of the cats, so that the person who adopts them gets more information than "they dont like human contact"
i wouldn't be surprised to learn that they love human contact but have never been around a human who truly loved them....


so sad, and so infuriating!!
post #27 of 29
i am in manchester.
oy, you just hate to hear these things!
hang in there, you are not alone.
post #28 of 29
Thread Starter 
That's where all my family is from (there often) and where I'll be having the yard sale (west side).

Maybe you could ask friends and family if they know of anyone?

I don't know if the cat has ongoing medical treatments or check-ups. Maybe she mentioned it in her e-mail.. I just can't remember off the top of my head. It may just be a matter of a physical disability that doesn't effect her health?

Obviously there will be some cost as the cat(s) need to have vet visits and any necessary shots to make them utd.

Thanks again!

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Originally Posted by catnapt
i am in manchester.
oy, you just hate to hear these things!
hang in there, you are not alone.
post #29 of 29
Thread Starter 
Well, this was her e-mail response to me today after e-mailing her and asking if I could come get pictures of them to post on the adoption board.
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actually my daughter told me today that she will be able to take both of them with her so my problem is solved, thank you so much for all of your help.
Mary
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I think she's full of crap. Oh well - I tried anyway. Thank you to EVERYONE.. you all have been so awesome! Lets only hope she's telling the truth!
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