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post #31 of 44
Compromise is important, but I think it is so important for parents to allow their children to express themselves however they choose (as long as safety or health are not compromised and as long as they won't be mistaken for a streetwalker....).
If I had a child who wanted to dye her hair bright red, fine with me. She may be hurt by how others perceive her, but such is life and children definitely need life lessons. Children need to have a healthy outlet for expressing themselves so that they do not supress themselves. Children who are drastically supressed often resort to more drastic "expressions" such as drug and alcohol abuse, cutting, etc.
post #32 of 44
Ok my 2 cents:
I might be older than some of you. Maybe I actually have some conservative genes in me but when I see younger people with hair like that I shake my head. You must realize that that type of look will have people automatically thinking certain things about you. And afraid to tell you most of them are not going to be postive. Media today have influenced society tremendously both positively and negatively.
If you are looking for a job with that type of look most businesses are NOT going to hire you irregardless of your qualifications. That life. Unless you are going to work in an occupation where that type of look works good luck.
I would think long and hard are you doing this for yourself or to please/belnd in with others. I hope you find your answer.
post #33 of 44
Thread Starter 
Well after putting a lot of thought into it and having a long talk with my parents we have agreed to dying it just plain black. Sure I would've loved to have the red in with it but I got sick of arguing. As for trying to find a career and all..right now I"m only a junior in highschool so therefore..I don't need to worry about that kind of stuff at this moment. I still have my last 2 years of school then college to worry about. Once I'm searching for a career my hair would surely have all the dye out by then.

Oh and I got my hair straightened..here's the new look!!

Before:



and now:

post #34 of 44
why not use coloured wax to add the red? it washes out
post #35 of 44
Thread Starter 
Quote:
Originally Posted by maverick_kitten
why not use coloured wax to add the red? it washes out
Because they don't like the red period. They think I'm trying to be someone I'm not.
post #36 of 44
Looks good!
post #37 of 44
Your hair looks cute like that-without going to an unflattering extreme..
It's all about working WITH what you have, instead of against it. Now that you have the cute style, you can do those temporary things like Maverick Kitten said, & change it when you want something different.
post #38 of 44
I don't know if you have wal-mart near you but they sell this comb in wash out red hair dye stuff.. I have used it when I got bored and wanted to change my hair for a day..or maybe a Sally's Beauty Supply... they have a TON of that stuff
post #39 of 44
Your hair looks nice now.

I have to agree with other posters on many diffrent levels. I never went to huge extremes with my hair. i think the biggest change i did, was for a spice girl concert. yes I can admit i listened to them....at the same time i was big into Oasis (still am into Oasis..teheh) Anyways I died my hair bright red, and added the blonde chunks for ginger spice. My hair hated me for sometime after that.

I mostly did reds in my hair, i am naturally a dark brunette in the summer i get red highlights naturally and depending on how much i wear a hat out on trails someitmes blonde.

I have now stopped dyeing my hair totally. I didnt want to keep stressing it out. The funny thing, is i had just trimmed it, and "dyed it back to normal" the day before i met steve...a sign maybe? lol
post #40 of 44
Quote:
Originally Posted by Lil_Axl_Gurl
Well after putting a lot of thought into it and having a long talk with my parents we have agreed to dying it just plain black. Sure I would've loved to have the red in with it but I got sick of arguing. As for trying to find a career and all..right now I"m only a junior in highschool so therefore..I don't need to worry about that kind of stuff at this moment. I still have my last 2 years of school then college to worry about. Once I'm searching for a career my hair would surely have all the dye out by then.

Oh and I got my hair straightened..here's the new look!!

Before:



and now:

Wow, the straight hair looks good. But I wonder...why do people with straight hair (like me) go get a perm so we can have curls, and people with curly hair go get it straightened!?! I'm glad you worked things out. Maybe later you can ask about adding the temporary red for a special occasion.
post #41 of 44
Well I have 5 Grandkids and they range in age one is 18, two are 17 one is 14 and one is 10, sometimes they look a little weird, but hey there kids,I don't judge people for how they look it's just the way things are today, if you need compromise a bit. We all grew up with fads some a little stranger then others
post #42 of 44
Quote:
Originally Posted by ScamperFarms
Your hair looks nice now.

I have to agree with other posters on many diffrent levels. I never went to huge extremes with my hair. i think the biggest change i did, was for a spice girl concert. yes I can admit i listened to them....at the same time i was big into Oasis (still am into Oasis..teheh) Anyways I died my hair bright red, and added the blonde chunks for ginger spice. My hair hated me for sometime after that.

I mostly did reds in my hair, i am naturally a dark brunette in the summer i get red highlights naturally and depending on how much i wear a hat out on trails someitmes blonde.

I have now stopped dyeing my hair totally. I didnt want to keep stressing it out. The funny thing, is i had just trimmed it, and "dyed it back to normal" the day before i met steve...a sign maybe? lol

I have been dying mine for 40 years, I am naturally blond but I have worn it red all these years, it's the only color that I never get tired of. And I used to be a hairdresser where you try everything and anything when you are in school, don't even want to go there
post #43 of 44
My husband's youngest sister lived with us for her freshman and sophomore years of high school (long story ... I aged a lot those two years ). Shawn's sister's desire to color her hair unusual colors was, in her case, a reflection of her inward desire to largely renounce society's norms, including norms of behavior. (That's not the case with everyone, of course.) Some of society's norms are there for a reason, though. Partially to enforce that notion with her (and partially because it was, in fact, hideous) we did not allow her to permanently color her hair blue or green*, just as when she was out with us, we expected her to maintain a certain level of ... decorum. We did allow her to dress a little differently around her friends, to temporarily paint her hair whatever colors when she went out with them, to act differently when she was around them—within reason.

Some teens who look quite odd are very nice kids, and some who appear to be the typical preps are just waiting for a chance to pull a fast one. Still, often the desire to display a markedly different appearance reflects a desire to BE very different from the norm you see around you. Like it or not, outward appearance is a way of communicating SOMETHING to the outside world. If it weren't, who would bother? After all, you only look in the mirror a few times a day. So when you say to your mother that you want to LOOK different from her, she may well perceive it as you saying you want to BE different from her. It might seem to her that you are rejecting all the work she has put into you.

*She was allowed to color her hair; it just had to be at least close to a color that might appear in nature on the head of someone who hadn't been involved in an industrial accident of any sort. My personal favorite was actually a sort of purplish burgundy. Would have looked silly on most people, but it completely suited her. Anyway.
post #44 of 44
I like the new look on you Glad you've worked things out. Just for the record, like some other mum's on here, when my little boy had his hair cut, the stylist would put whatever coloured gel in his hair he wanted and he thought it was the best thing in the world to have his hair like that! All spiked up and a funny colour - it puts the fun into sitting still for a long time, for a kid.

I don't know why your mum would want to stop you from this freedom of expression - she might have any number of reasons known only to herself. The important thing is that you've come to a compromise.
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