Thank you so much, everyone, for your wonderful, caring and helpful responses.
You don't know JUST how helpful they really are.
It gives me hope that there are so many knowledgable people on here who have been through a similiar thing.
Coccocats: They say that its lung cancer but they also found cancer in her lymph nodes and adrenal glands..
I actually had to look up WHERE the adrenal glands were! Shows me how much I know about the human body!
The funny thing is she quit smoking 12 years ago..
I don't know enough yet other than what my stepfather has told me over the phone. I have only talked to my mum for 2 minutes this week as she is too weak and in pain.
She initally admitted to the hospital for Pancreatitis and we thought that it was clearing up as she was feeling better, they had taken out the feeding tube and taken her off the morphine and put her on demerol shots..
Then the surgeon called in a lung doctor (Sorry to the medical profession for not even knowing if there is a name for that).. He then brought in another lung doctor for a second opinion of her CT Scan.
I can identify with the seemingly clinical way things are handled but just like Cyberkitten and Valanhb said, they really have to prepare you for the bad.
Before her next test to confirm the cancer (they injected dye into her to see where it was), they told us that it didn't look good.
I was so mad at them for that..Here I was on pins and needles all week and crying on and off and then without the results, they tell us it "might" be bad...
But now I understand. What are they supposed to say? Sugarcoat it?
I really don't envy someone's position that has to give that information out daily
She isn't staying in Vancouver though. SHe is originally from Winnipeg and she has decided she wants to come back here for treatment (even though I hear they have better doctors there so this had me worried). I told her I would come there today! But she didn't want me to....She doesn't even want me to come help sort her stuff out to pack up..
I just feel helpless not knowing what KIND of cancer it is actually or as someone asked here "what stage its in" ...I am afraid I have no idea. I will know more next week when I can hopefully talk to the doctors here..Thanks for all of your support in that.
I will stick by her like glue and bother the doc with a thousand questions.
I urge those of you who are going through this and don't know alot of information yet not to attempt to gather information from the internet as you often see alot of clinical, depressing statistics that you can't possibly understand and may make things seem worse...
Cyberkitten: I read something about this 5 year plus thing but didn't really understand it..Could you explain it?
Although, what someone said here about attitude is right I think. I did read an online essay by a Harvard Prof. who was diagnosed with a fatal kind of cancer where his prognosis was only 8 months. He researched the disease thoroughly and said that he would beat this thing mainly on attitude alone, as in "I WON'T GIVE UP". And I think it was years later and he is still alive.
Thanks to all who said that NUMB was "normal"
I feel that I can scream and yell on my own time and when my mum is around, that this attitude may be more helpful. I really want to give her the impression that we will get over this.
BTW, it is radiation treatment that the Van. docs suggested to start with. I don't know if this is good or bad..Is it better or lesser of a hard treatment on your body? (if that makes sense)...
Thanks again all, I will keep you updated as the week goes on.. I may not learn more about the specifics until next week. I am afraid to ask but its something I have to do...
Thanks again so so so much.
Hugs to all of you.