See there is the differences that I find interesting. I was never raised to take shoes off in the house. Now a days if someone ask me to, sure I'm glad to but I wouldn't dream of it otherwise unless they were covered in crud or mud or something.
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Do you take your shoes off?
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Whether it's cultural or a sign of changing times, I don't know, but when I was growing up, it was never even considered, let alone mentioned. You kept your shoes on, except in your own home. Period. Certainly, if you had wet feet, you used whatever mat was provided for wiping feet, and if your shoes were sufficiently mucky that that would not do the trick, you'd offer to take your shoes off. But the default, if you will, was to keep them on.
Nowadays, I know that some people prefer no shoes in the house, and will take my cues from how my host is clad, and whether there's a collection of shoes near the door. If it's at all uncertain, especially if there's a gorgeous pale carpet spreading before me, I'll enquire. But if the norm in that particular house is clearly "keep 'em on", I don't think another thing of it.
When people come to my house and ask if they should remove their shoes, my response is "however you're comfortable is fine -- we don't bother, but feel free to, if you prefer."
Umm...I didn't vote, because none of the options really fits.
Nowadays, I know that some people prefer no shoes in the house, and will take my cues from how my host is clad, and whether there's a collection of shoes near the door. If it's at all uncertain, especially if there's a gorgeous pale carpet spreading before me, I'll enquire. But if the norm in that particular house is clearly "keep 'em on", I don't think another thing of it.
When people come to my house and ask if they should remove their shoes, my response is "however you're comfortable is fine -- we don't bother, but feel free to, if you prefer."
Umm...I didn't vote, because none of the options really fits.
Remind me chicky to keep my shoes on then if I ever make it over there to see you! LOLOriginally Posted by rosiemac
Ok well heres one for you?.
What if their feet stink?!I'd sooner have them keep their shoes on than have their sweaty, stinky feet on my floor, then walk with my bare feet later knowing their sweaty feets been there
I personally do kick my shoes off 80% of the time when I enter someones home, but then I can't stand shoes. I kick them off everywhere. I never ever wear them at home, I take them off at work, etc. One time I took mine off under a table at a restaurant and the guy I was dating hid one from me. I could have smacked him! LOL
LOL, my smart alec husband just said after I told him what this thread was about , "Tell Susan that we don't wear shoes or shirts here in our home!"Originally Posted by rosiemac
Oh well i'm ok when i come over to yours then!
Men...........
At my house I take them off for comfort, but we have a gravel driveway, and a house dog who is in and out several times a day. And dh often keeps his shoes on unless he thinks they are gross...my kitchen floor (where people come in) can get rather rough. But there is a large mat with a rubber back, like the kind in stores, so most dirt comes off when you wipe. I don't care if people take their shoes off or not.
That said, I usually feel uncomfortable wearing my shoes in someone else's house. Often the floors look so clean, or they have light carpet, often even if they say its fine to keep my shoes on I take them off. So RosieMac, if you prefer shoes on you will have to point blank tell me to keep them on! (But I don't have stinky feet!)
That said, I usually feel uncomfortable wearing my shoes in someone else's house. Often the floors look so clean, or they have light carpet, often even if they say its fine to keep my shoes on I take them off. So RosieMac, if you prefer shoes on you will have to point blank tell me to keep them on! (But I don't have stinky feet!)
Tell Jerry thats ok, i take people how i find themOriginally Posted by kittylover4ever
LOL, my smart alec husband just said after I told him what this thread was about , "Tell Susan that we don't wear shoes or shirts here in our home!"
Men...........
As long as his feet don't stink!
Beckiboo, bring your slippers if you want
No,I almost never do,if not asked to do so.
I'll take them off unasked if I have muddy shoes or something and wiping my feet doesnt help.
I often have unmatched socks and have ugly foot too
I'll take them off unasked if I have muddy shoes or something and wiping my feet doesnt help.
I often have unmatched socks and have ugly foot too
This is a first to me. I think it would be rude to take off my shoes when entering a house. I ask first. My parents never told me otherwise.
True....Originally Posted by rosiemac
Ok well heres one for you?.
What if their feet stink?!I'd sooner have them keep their shoes on than have their sweaty, stinky feet on my floor, then walk with my bare feet later knowing their sweaty feets been there
Really? It's a Canadian thing? I thought it was just a Japanese thing. I run around my house with no shoes all day but Never really thought it was the thing to do in someone elses house...too much like making yourself at home to me i guess.
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Yep, I think that's insulting if the people who taught you to take your shoes off don't. I take my shoes off automatically when no one says anything. However, if the floor is really disgusting and dirty the owner usually realizes that and says to keep them on most of the time.
Naw, I don't think it's a Canadian thing. In fact, I always wear my shoes in my house (well, flip flops this time of year!), and always have, as far back as I can remember (weather permitting). Though when I visit someone, I always ask if I should take off my shoes, and usually get a mixed bag of replies.
I may change my mind after I redo the house, but right now the carpets are so nasty anyway, I just have a pair of "house" shoes and take off my outside shoes when I come in. Cinnamon has free run of the house and yard, so I have muddy pawprints anywhere anyhow - makes no sense to take off my shoes in my own house.
Journey I finally caught the irony in your original post - your parents, who taught you to take your shoes off in their home, refuse to take theirs off in yours? sounds a little off to me, too.
Journey I finally caught the irony in your original post - your parents, who taught you to take your shoes off in their home, refuse to take theirs off in yours? sounds a little off to me, too.
I take mine off simply because I can't stand shoes, but I do ask first.
I believe I was 37 years old the first time I entered someone's house who took off his shoes at the door - and he was born and raised in Japan. The next time it happened, I was age 60, and they have white carpets. So that's twice in my life where the host/hostess gave the signal by their own behavior that that was the thing to do. Occasionally when I go somewhere, my shoes are dirty and can't be adequately cleaned on the door mat, I'll take them off, but otherwise I think it seems rude to take them off, like you are making yourself at home. I just have never lived in communities where it was commonly done.
I totally can relate to that. I grew up with shoes as an option in the house and something you keep on at someone else's house. As soon as I get home, I normally take off my shoes.
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It's not a "Canadian" thing, as in all Canadians do it. But there are a lot more Canadians who do than Americans. I think it depends on your age, and what part of the country you (or your parents) are from.
In our family, we never wear shoes in the house. In my building, there are tenants in the attic apartment above me, and they have a huge pile of shoes on the landing. It's very very common to meet people here who take shoes off at the front door. And if you are Canadian, and don't take yours off, I bet you aren't surprised to meet people who do.
As part of my job, I go to clients homes to do appraisals, and always take my shoes off. Once in a while, someone will say, "Oh, leave them on, don't worry", but that's a courtesy.
In our family, we never wear shoes in the house. In my building, there are tenants in the attic apartment above me, and they have a huge pile of shoes on the landing. It's very very common to meet people here who take shoes off at the front door. And if you are Canadian, and don't take yours off, I bet you aren't surprised to meet people who do.
As part of my job, I go to clients homes to do appraisals, and always take my shoes off. Once in a while, someone will say, "Oh, leave them on, don't worry", but that's a courtesy.
i dont really like having shoes on so i come inside and the shoes come off no matter where i am! i even slip off my flip flops at work under my desk and sit indian style
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