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Lol awwww cutie Zander !!
Anubis looks like someone asked him for a ride at the airport, while Zander looks like someone bought him a shirt doesn't like lol
 
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Ugh, why is Anubis so weird? Why can't he be a normal cat? Sometimes I wonder if he's even a real cat & not some rare type of monkey I found off the streets -__- lol
 

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Anubis a rare type of monkey! 
 
   Nooooooo, he is a beautiful and very special pussy cat.  
 
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I'm in need of encouraging advice right now.
Next week my two kitties are scheduled for a spay and neuter. While I know that this is a very good and responsible thing I can't help but worry. My stomach is in knots right now. And I'm overthinking the worse scenarios. Just the thought of my babies being surrounded by strangers and spending a night away from home breaks my heart. Especially with Princess. She sleeps next to me, always has since her first day here with me. Even though it is just one night, my eyes tear up just knowing that I won't wake up with her the next day. Nor have Anubis patting my face to wake up. They're getting spay and neutered, vaccines, microchipped, dewormed all for FREE. my friend is going to pick them up and return them to me the next day. I can't be without them. I'm so attached to them I feel like I'm probably just going to call off work even though I shouldn't. I know I can't be selfish and just not go through with it just because I will miss them overnight.

And before anyone starts judging me on why I didn't do this sooner, don't even bother with any rude comments. To start off my parents didn't want to waste "money" on pets that aren't theirs, and I was jobless. I finally have a job and have been saving up to get them fixed until my friend told me he volunteers for a TNR program and said they can do all that for free. Of course I immediately said yes. Not that I owe anyone an explanation. But in case anyone was wondering... Anyway, back to my emotional self. I can't stop picturing those scenarios in my head. My poor babies are going to a place they're not familiar with and I won't be there while they're prepping them for surgery. They don't allow pet owners in the same room when they're anesthesized, & it would be very hard for me to watch if they even allowed it. I just want to hold them close, it's a bittersweet feeling. I know I'm doing what's best but I'm going to be an emotional wreck. I hope everything goes well. I hope nothing happens to them while surgery. My poor babies :'(
 

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Aww, hun, it's natural to worry, we all do, but try not to. They will be in very experienced hands, & what a blessing for you to be able to have it all done for free. That's great!   

Just think of how happy they will be to see you when they get back. I'm sure they will be sore for a few days, but I'm sure they will be happy to be home, & getting lots of love from you! 
 
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If only I could be with them throughout the entire thing. Even if I have to look away while they're being knocked out but still hold them or being in surgery but way in the back but at least ill know they're ok. This was the only way it could work out since I work all week and have no way to drop/pick them up. The only solution was he will pick them up after I come home from work and bring them home the next day. They'll most likely already be here when I get home. My princess is laying on me and giving me cute little chirps and I just cry because she won't be doing that for a night. We were going to have it done tomorrow which would have been better cause I could have dropped them off at 6 am and pick them up at 3 but they had no more availability for two extra cats. I'm probably going to have to call of work. I'll be so worried and anxious that I won't be able to focus and I cant work like that.
 

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I'm in need of encouraging advice right now.
Next week my two kitties are scheduled for a spay and neuter. While I know that this is a very good and responsible thing I can't help but worry. My stomach is in knots right now. And I'm overthinking the worse scenarios. Just the thought of my babies being surrounded by strangers and spending a night away from home breaks my heart. Especially with Princess. She sleeps next to me, always has since her first day here with me. Even though it is just one night, my eyes tear up just knowing that I won't wake up with her the next day. Nor have Anubis patting my face to wake up. They're getting spay and neutered, vaccines, microchipped, dewormed all for FREE. my friend is going to pick them up and return them to me the next day. I can't be without them. I'm so attached to them I feel like I'm probably just going to call off work even though I shouldn't. I know I can't be selfish and just not go through with it just because I will miss them overnight.

And before anyone starts judging me on why I didn't do this sooner, don't even bother with any rude comments. To start off my parents didn't want to waste "money" on pets that aren't theirs, and I was jobless. I finally have a job and have been saving up to get them fixed until my friend told me he volunteers for a TNR program and said they can do all that for free. Of course I immediately said yes. Not that I owe anyone an explanation. But in case anyone was wondering... Anyway, back to my emotional self. I can't stop picturing those scenarios in my head. My poor babies are going to a place they're not familiar with and I won't be there while they're prepping them for surgery. They don't allow pet owners in the same room when they're anesthesized, & it would be very hard for me to watch if they even allowed it. I just want to hold them close, it's a bittersweet feeling. I know I'm doing what's best but I'm going to be an emotional wreck. I hope everything goes well. I hope nothing happens to them while surgery. My poor babies :'(


It's completely normal to worry. Everything is going to be OK. They will be back before you know it and then everything will be back to normal.

No one is judging you for anything. You have proven countless times that you're a great cat mom.Those kitties are so lucky to have you.
 
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Getting them fixed has been a goal of mine for a long time. Since I finally found a job I was careful enough to save up a lot so I can be able to pay for everything they'll need. The moment my friend said he'd have to pick them up overnight and bring them back the next day I was saying no internally but I know this is what's best for them and I need to put my emotions aside. Princess is more attached to me & dislikes people she's not familiar with. Anubis is shy at first but comes around quick. I don't want to imagine how scared they'll be and I won't be there to comfort them. They'll probably think I abandoned them. Even though theyll get attention it won't be the same because I feel I can only give them that love and attention. And honestly I don't trust anyone with my babies let alone having them sleep in a place they're not familiar with. I know animals stay at clinics overnight and my babies are just one of thousands that do every day. I didn't think it would happen with mine. I can't be away from them. It's going to be torture for me
 
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Oh Lallorona,

I have a couple of things to say. First, no one and I mean no one here or anywhere is going to think badly of you~~~ You, of all people, who saved Anubis and is a wonderful mom to him and the rest of your kids....

We all love you and think so highly of you.

Perhaps, your friend coming along was something that was meant to be. He came along a the 'right' time. 

Try to think of something positive. Now, you do not have to worry about getting all the cats done. They will all be together.

Also , the extra money you have been saving can be spent towards something else. You can call it your 'emergency" fund.

I know it is going to be really hard for you. You love them all so much. Anubis is a sweetie....Princess will be ok for one night...I know about missing the cuddling...

I know how I would feel if I were in your position....((hugs)); I would be a wreck also.

Your babies will be ok.. They will be taken care of by a person who loves them, "almost' as much as you do....

Your friend, and any other people working with a shelter or a TNR association are special people.. They are kind and care about the kitties. They love them all. They want to help them.. The same thing with the Vets...and the Vet Techs. They are all a special type of people...People who love animals...people who are gentle and kind with them....

Try to think positive about this. It is happening this way as a response to your caring...It is a gift. Please take it and do not feel bad about the kitties. It is only for one night...I promise they will not forget about you..They will be ok..

They may act a bit stand offish at first, until they get their bearings about being back home. That happens to my guy. Just let them be.. They will come around.

When you give them to be with your friend, put a towel , which you rubbed on you, or an old piece of clothing, like a shirt---

This will have your scent on it and will be a reminder of you and will comfort them..

I am sorry I did not respond sooner, but I have been involved with my own things with my guy....

(((hugs))) to you...

Keep us updated, anytime, even if you feel lonely....and missing your kids.....
 
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Thank you. It makes me very emotional. I think I'm more attached to them than they are probably with me and I think that's why I don't want to let them go for one night only. Ive gone out of town for a night or 2 but they stayed in the comfort of our home and it is completely different not spending a night here with me at home . It scares me that they'll change or become aggressive. Anubis is a sweetheart, & I don't want that to change. My princess is the one who's mostly attached to me, more than Anubis. Anubis hates cuddling for more than 5 seconds so I can expect that from him, but if princess refuses to it will break my heart lol getting them fixed is the best thing I can do and I'm excited that it's finally going to happen. I felt guilty not being able to get them fixed sooner, so my first priority after I got the job was to save up for their neuter/spay. In fact I was already looking in to low cost spay and neuter because I've already had enough. I'm glad my friend let me know about his volunteer work. He's taken every single stray cat in my neighborhood and gotten them fixed! He's still trapping in my neighborhood, as a matter of fact I ran in to him today and he was on his way to trap a female cat for spay tomorrow. The plan was to get them fixed tomorrow, but they have no availability for two extra cats. The day I turn them in I'm going to ask him to text pictures that night so I can at least know they're ok . What is going to be one night for me will be eternal.
And I know I'm not going to get any sleep and most likely cry all night lol I do think this is a blessing. Getting them fixed, vaccinated, dewormed, microchipped for free? That's an opportunity that does not come every day so I'm definitely going to take advantage of it. I'm a very nervous person. So I assume something is going to happen. I hope there aren't any complications because if something happens to them I'll be completely devastated. But I know I'm doing the right thing.
 

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Sweetie, you are doing the right thing...This is really a blessing. Think of it that way..

I know how you feel. I have an anxiety issue and always think the worst. Try to take some deep breathes, look at it from the outside~~without emotions..see if that helps you at all.

Princess and Anubis will not forget you. This will not change their personalities. In Fact, it may just calm them down a bit. They will not have the crazy hormones running around in their bodies, making them do aggressive things.

Princess will be back to cuddling, in no time. 

Anubis will be making you laugh again.

While they are at their, "Health Spa"~~ yes health spa...just think of how good you will feel when this is over. 

The worries about, spaying, neutering, worming, microchipping will all be behind you.

Now you can focus completely on enjoying your babies. 

And you have some money set aside for 'emergencies'---or what ever you want.

They will be fine.....It is you I am concerned about.

Keep remembering the funny, cute, things they do! and re-read this entire thread..think of how far you have come.

Seriously~~~ this is the best thing for them...

It is tuff for you, but you are so strong and have gone through so much..

((hugs))
 

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It's good they are going together.  They will smell the same as each other when they return.  Send their favorite toy or stuffed animal and a blanket of theirs for comfort.

Can you go out with friends to distract yourself and keep you from sitting and  just worrying about the kitties?  If the worrying becomes overwhelming, just go out and see all the cats who have already been TNR'd and are fine.
 
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Thank you. I want to get this torture over and done with. The longer I wait the more anxious I become. I won't lie, I'm dreading that day to come. I don't want him to take them. I don't want to spend the night without him and wait until the next day in the afternoon to get them back. I want to go with them, I'll even sleep in the kennels with them if I have to lol I'm scared. I'm imagining things I shouldn't. I'm imagining them mistakenly taking them back to the wrong owners, or something going wrong while surgery. Heck, I'm even starting to question if I should trust these doctors! My girl gets aggressive with strangers so I'm worried about how they will handle her. What if she hurts herself trying to break free? What if they don't close her wound correctly? What if Anubis is allergic to anesthesia? Or what if he contracts another URI in the kennels? [emoji]128532[/emoji]
 

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You know you are doing the best thing for your fur family, but sadly you are worrying just like all loving moms and other carers do.  Perils of loving I guess.  Complications do happen but they are so rare; you have to keep telling yourself this every time those negative thoughts manage to take over your head.  Listen to all the people who can reassure you here, and the vet and vet tech's at the practice when Princess and Anubis are with them.  

You will miss them terribly but Princess and Anubis will have anesthesia and the time at the vets will let them get through this so when they come home with you they will be awake and feel much better; be ready to make the most of all the fuss on offer.  If they're tough they might make you suffer a little for taking them to the vet but it won't last long because they have learned already what a loving and trust worthy person you are.  

Like everyone else has said , this is a really difficult time but it is one that you have been working towards so hard, and it has taken so much effort to get to this stage.  They will both be so much healthier and happier once the surgery is done, without all those hormones racing about telling them to behave in particular ways which put them at risk of fights amongst other things.   One night away from them, leaving them in the care of the vet and their team will be over in 24 hours - then you will all be back together and their lives will be so much healthier and safer as a result..   You can do it, you have a whole world of people supporting you through it and sending positive thoughts and prayers you and your young kitties' way.
    
 

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Honey, ( I say that with love, not disrespect)  Please be kind to yourself....please..

At this point I am more concerned about you than I am your babies....

Please...Keep thinking some positive Mantras, Affirmations; for example:

" MY babies will be fine"

" I will get through this"

" Things will be better"

" I can DO THIS!"

" This is a gift. I will embrace it and be grateful for it:

Sweetie, it is always the unknown which can really bother us...but you have a friend who can help and guide you...

Please just try to calm down a bit...your kitties will sense your nervousness..try to relax, for their sakes...

Things will be fine... you need to have some trust an faith in people...

Those things go a long way....and mean so much....

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And take the day off work. You'll just be useless there.
Take yourself out shopping or to a coffee bar. Something to take your mind off of this business.
 

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And take the day off work. You'll just be useless there.
Take yourself out shopping or to a coffee bar. Something to take your mind off of this business.
I agree... just hang out and keep yourself busy...cleaning..movies, etc.....
 
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