Thank you, your post is most helpful! It's just so weird that some days she seems to be ok, then she'll just be "Miss Grumpy" I'm not sure I like it, but I may open the cabinet and let her go back in for now... part of my concern is that If she didn't want me to , I would NOT be able to reach her, it's a very deep cabinet. Last nite she spent some time on my cedar chest in my bedroom looking out the windows, so I put a blanket and some towels she'd laid on there so she has somewhere soft and warm to sit. She was crabby with Brutus yesterday too... they had a "stand-off" with each of them sitting on one of my pub chairs in the dining room, about a foot apart. I stayed out of it, they Brutus turned his back on her, and gave her the "cold shoulder"! Neither of them was willing too move, I think Brutus finally got bored and moved into the living room.
Thanks for the reminder to not take it personally!