Sicycat- I want to make some comments regarding what u said..
|I really would rather get a female, but I just hear males are more affectionate, and less of a threat to females than females.. can anyone confirm this. I really really dont want to deal with spraying though.
I have two boys and two girls and have not had any problems with any spraying or being threatening to others.. I think it really helps when the cats are fixed at 6 months old OR YOUNGER before they start spraying.
All 4 are very affectionate in different ways with me and with each other which leads me to think that it doesn't make a difference in which gender or breed are more likely to be more affecionate. I think it depends on the cat's personality, background, the environment the cat is living in, etc...
Let me explain how my cats are affectionate toward each other AND me in different ways so u can see. All four likes to be in the same room with me so if I move to another room, they will all come following (even if they were in middle of a nap!)67.
Buddy (BOY) likes to cuddle on my chest and knead away at my neck until I look like I have a rash or a hickey on my neck!
He also INSISTS on riding on my back/shoulders (even when I am screaming in pain from his claws in my back!
Spike (BOY) likes to do headbutts and nose rubbings with me especially whenever I'm on the toilet-he'd jump up on my lap and proceed to do nose rubbing with me!
He also likes to nibble on my nose when I'm taking a bath. Don't ask me why!
I've noticed that all 4 likes to clean each other and wrestle.. None of them feels threatened by each other...
Pepper (GIRL) LOVES to sleep on my lap ALL the time and will often rub against my legs meowing her head off until I pick her up to pet her for a few minutes. (guess she figured out that I'm deaf and can't hear her meowing so that's why she will rub against my legs and wait for me to look at her before she meows!
Zebra (GIRL) likes to be petted and will put herself in my way therefore forcing me to stop whatever I'm doing at the moment and pet her. She also likes to sleep with me no matter what time it is or how many cats are already on top of me!
As u might remember from some of my other posts, I believe that Zebra learned to be more affectionate and is still learning from the other cats because the only time she showed me affection BEFORE I adopted the boys was when she'd sleep with me. She didn't go out of her way to get me to pet her like she does now, etc..
Who knows, Zoey MIGHT learn to be more affectionate from seeing another cat cuddling with u.
I know how difficult it can be to make a decision regarding what kind of cat to get, age, gender, etc.. However, I know that u will make the right decision regarding getting a cat because u really want the best for Zoey, the "new" cat and urself and u will give them a great home with lots of love and spoiling.