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post #1 of 24
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It's driving me insane! Every single one of my friends is pregnant or has a newborn and it's making me one want of my own. Someone talk me out of it?
post #2 of 24
Well, the next time you start wanting to have a baby, ask all of your friends how much sleep they get at night. Also, ask if you can borrow one of the babies for a day or two. Oh, and you might inquire as to how much money all of the furniture, supplies, and clothing costs. That should help

BTW: I know it probably sounds like I hate kids, but I don't. This is just stuff I use to talk myself out of having kids.
post #3 of 24
Go to Walmart, find a family with many kids, preferably with an infant and listen to them SCREAM the whole time.

Then go to a public park and listen to one of the little brats cursing out his mother.

Then 'borrow' a colicky baby over night and TADA you're cured.
post #4 of 24
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Originally Posted by WELDRWOMN View Post
Well, the next time you start wanting to have a baby, ask all of your friends how much sleep they get at night. Also, ask if you can borrow one of the babies for a day or two. Oh, and you might inquire as to how much money all of the furniture, supplies, and clothing costs. That should help

BTW: I know it probably sounds like I hate kids, but I don't. This is just stuff I use to talk myself out of having kids.
Well, let's see... I have a puppy so I get no sleep as it is, that doesn't bother me at all. Already have family and friends wanting to give me everything I'd need for the baby's first two or three years. And babysitting them just makes me want them even more.

Every so often I start to want a baby but the urge goes away after a little while. But for some reason I have it bad this time!
post #5 of 24
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Originally Posted by Forensic View Post
Go to Walmart, find a family with many kids, preferably with an infant and listen to them SCREAM the whole time.

Then go to a public park and listen to one of the little brats cursing out his mother.

Then 'borrow' a colicky baby over night and TADA you're cured.
We were at the dollar store or something like that one day recently and there was a mom alone with three little kids. One was a newborn and the others were toddlers. The toddlers were running around the store grabbing things and the baby was screaming at the top of it's lungs. All I could think was "oh, what sweet little kids". Yep, I'm gonna be hard to cure this time.
post #6 of 24
I had one child (that was enough for me) - I inherited 3 more from hubby. But here's some things to think about

1. Throwing up for 9 months of pregnancy

2. Labor pains unlike you've never felt before (tho I was lucky and had my son in 2 1/2 hrs - most will endure far more hours of pain).

3. Changing smelly baby diapers - the poopy kind

4. Crying babies thru the night

5. Kids are with you 24/7, 365 days a year for at least the next 18 yrs


There are lots of good reasons, but you have your hands full of kitties, puppies, and horses.....lol

But more important - is hubby ready? If you are both not ready for all this, then don't get pregnant now
post #7 of 24
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Originally Posted by bnwalker2 View Post
We were at the dollar store or something like that one day recently and there was a mom alone with three little kids. One was a newborn and the others were toddlers. The toddlers were running around the store grabbing things and the baby was screaming at the top of it's lungs. All I could think was "oh, what sweet little kids". Yep, I'm gonna be hard to cure this time.
Er.... Electroshock therapy?
post #8 of 24
Well, I can't help you at all 'cause I'm in the same boat! Everybody I know has kids...I feel so out of place sometimes! I'm ready to start trying, but hubby's not. So there's the thing that keeps me from having any kids. But if your hubby is ready, and you are too, then I can't see any reason not to try! There now, that was helpful, right?
post #9 of 24
I am the complete opposite. I am in the same situation except I’m thankful I don’t have kids! Although every time my boyfriend and I see a kid (which is a lot since it seemed everyone in my area was getting lucky about 9 months ago lol) I see his eyes get dreamy but all I can think about is getting a new puppy lol.

Its hard at my age (30) people always asking when I’m going to have kids, why I haven’t had them yet, assuming that I want kids at this point in my life. Pfttt! I don’t want kids right now. One day I would love to bear my boyfriends children but the thought of having a kid now makes me feel ill, I actually check my birth control a few times a day to make sure I took it, yah…I’m sure I have mild OCD. Seeing other peoples kids just enforce me to not want one. Ill take more kitten and puppies though!

Don’t get me wrong lol I don’t hate kids… I really, really like kids…. Especially when I can give them back to people lol.
post #10 of 24
Watch Nanny 911 or one of those shows... they make me never want kids. lol
post #11 of 24
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Originally Posted by bnwalker2 View Post
It's driving me insane! Every single one of my friends is pregnant or has a newborn and it's making me one want of my own. Someone talk me out of it?

Screaming and crying all night
Middle of then night feedings
Endless worry about their health
Poopy diapers!!!
"Terrible Two" stage
Babysitting/Day care expenses
Loss of spontaneous freedom
Dating
Drugs
And not to mention $100,000 in college education per child!

I could go on
post #12 of 24
If things were easier (not moving ect) then we would be trying now.

But since the cats cost us 2,000 EUR alone for the flights and in total with all vet fees and quarantine this is over 5,000 EUR. So they are costing us wayyy much more than us or any child per say!

Since we are having a big wedding next year, i think we will start trying after the event is over.. so early 2010
post #13 of 24
I know that I am MORE than ready to have kids.....

BUT Travis and I are only in our early twenties and are trying to get financially ready to have children. I want children now more than anything but I know I am not ready to afford them. And sometimes I'm still too immature to raise another human
post #14 of 24
I agree it must be the year of the baby or something like that..Right now at work I have 3 off on maternity leave, and 4 more who are in various stages of pregnacy....

And no it doesn't make me want to have a baby, I am not exactly kid friendly

My favorite response to do you want to see the baby pictures is
"Not unless it has four legs and fur..."
post #15 of 24
I would just ask myself if you and DH are ready. Then there might not be anything to talk you out of. I kinda got the feeling that the things being said didn't phase you that much.
post #16 of 24
Thread Starter 
Well, as for John, his reaction to it is pretty much "well, let's get started then" . None of the "bad" stuff really scares me, I basically raised my sister and niece so I know what I'm getting into.
post #17 of 24
I know eh? Almost everyone I know is preggo too!

It makes me want one...but in like 3 years
post #18 of 24
If you are both ready and willing my only question is "do you have room for a baby"?

Unlike cats babies, when they are little, require lots of stuff that takes up space. Then they grow up and need more space.

This could be part of your plan. Work on finding/building a little house for your growing family. Let nature take it's course and hopefully by the time you have your place you will also have the baby. Or at least be expecting it.

post #19 of 24
You said "talk me out of it".
Well, I could be wrong & not following your posts but don't you live with your in-laws in a small space, don't get along with bro-in law, have over ten animals that depend on you for their care, mostly try to stay in your room, cannot store good food in the fridge so you eat a lot of food that is not good for you and cheap and easy to store in your room ( I remember several posts about this and I was very concerned for your health!!! This is a serious issue, eating live foods is critical for your health and your diet can directly impact so many areas of your life and health). I would think waiting until you have a place of your own with less stress to you on a daily basis, when you can eat a wholesome healthy diet for a long period of time, stuff like that, then start thinking about baby. First think about you and focus on you and your body I have felt "ready" for many years now. But I am putting my future child before my wants and needs already by waiting until a better time in our (me and husband's) life that would be more suitable for a baby. I want to give baby the best I can and the best of me.
post #20 of 24
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Originally Posted by cococat View Post
You said "talk me out of it".
Well, I could be wrong & not following your posts but don't you live with your in-laws in a small space, don't get along with bro-in law, have over ten animals that depend on you for their care, mostly try to stay in your room, cannot store good food in the fridge so you eat a lot of food that is not good for you and cheap and easy to store in your room ( I remember several posts about this and I was very concerned for your health!!! This is a serious issue, eating live foods is critical for your health and your diet can directly impact so many areas of your life and health). I would think waiting until you have a place of your own with less stress to you on a daily basis, when you can eat a wholesome healthy diet for a long period of time, stuff like that, then start thinking about baby. First think about you and focus on you and your body I have felt "ready" for many years now. But I am putting my future child before my wants and needs already by waiting until a better time in our (me and husband's) life that would be more suitable for a baby. I want to give baby the best I can and the best of me.
You are right that I have posted all of that. BUT, we've found an awesome house.. 4 bedroom, 2 bathroom, basement, big back yard, garage, etc.. just waiting on the loan stuff to go through. So we should be in our own house well before the end of the year. The food situation has gotten much better now that John's brother is never home. As for the animals, we can set up the new house with a separate area for the cats if necessary. So yeah, I suppose we don't have a whole lot working against us anymore.
post #21 of 24
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Originally Posted by bnwalker2 View Post
It's driving me insane! Every single one of my friends is pregnant or has a newborn and it's making me one want of my own. Someone talk me out of it?
I have 7 ranging in age from 20 almost 21 to 2 ... we hire them out for weekends and holidays
post #22 of 24
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Originally Posted by bnwalker2 View Post
You are right that I have posted all of that. BUT, we've found an awesome house.. 4 bedroom, 2 bathroom, basement, big back yard, garage, etc.. just waiting on the loan stuff to go through. So we should be in our own house well before the end of the year. The food situation has gotten much better now that John's brother is never home. As for the animals, we can set up the new house with a separate area for the cats if necessary. So yeah, I suppose we don't have a whole lot working against us anymore.
Ah, a woman after my own heart! I've wanted a baby for ever, and it has been SO HARD waiting!!

But, tell me, why do you want to be talked out of it if you have all that going for you? Is your husband not ready yet? (Despite him saying "Ok"- mine was saying Ok for a while but I could tell he had second thoughts, now we're good to go! )

If he is ready and you are ready and your living situation will be ready soon, I say you should start getting baby ready!! Of course I would say that, that's where I am now. A lot of people ask me "What does it take to get baby ready? Just birds and bees!!" But, what we're doing, is getting genetic counseling / testing (which is taking MONTHS! ) and taking prenatal vitamins. Every where I looked, including my OB/GYN says I should take them for 3 months before we start trying, and you need time for any birth control to get out of your system. So between those things, you need some leway before you start trying! If you'll be moved in by the end of the year, you probably want to start this process three months before that, so September! Then you can start trying in Dec, and give a few months for you to actually get pregnant... It'd be perfect!

Oh wait, you wanted to be talked OUT of it??
post #23 of 24
Kids are like cats, only a zillion times worse.

They never housetrain, are like a tornado leaving massive amounts of debris behind them. They go from pooping all over to cursing you out.

Kids are way over-rated.

Enjoy your time together for now....before you start a family. Starting a family means a huge change for you both. Be sure you're settled in your home. Think carefully, as all decisions from this point forth will not only be affecting you two, but you will be affecting a living being's entire life....
post #24 of 24
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Watch Nanny 911 or one of those shows... they make me never want kids. lol
OMG! No kidding!

I saw that a few times when nothing else was on television, and I didn't know who I wanted to smack more, the kids or the parents of the spoiled brats!!
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