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post #1 of 26
Thread Starter 
I need some vibes right now....

On Thursday night one of my good friends and coworkers was on his way home from work. He rides his bike to and from work everyday. He ran a red light, like he always did, even after all of us told him he needed to be carefull. Well he was hit by a car. The prognosis is not good . The doctors have informed us that since he was not wearing a helmet, ALWAYS WEAR A HELMET WHEN RIDING!!!!!! that he will not make it. The damage to his head is too much. They said they would wait for his family to arrive, they live in W. Virginia, we are in Southern California, they would give them time to say their goodbyes and then let him go. He crashed twice while the doctors waited for his family and said if he crashed again they would not do anything and let him go.
He can't breath on his own or anything. Basicly he is already gone. The doctors are just buying some time for his family. The doctors say by the end of tonight(saturday) he should be gone. So know its just the waiting game.

It sucks. He was only 22. One of the best guys I ever knew. He was always hapy and loved everyone. He did not have one mean bone in his body. I just don't know what to do right now. We are all still working and spending time together but its just wierd. I want to be at work but at the same time I don't. I just don't know how to feel. I am still very numb to the whole thing right now. I keep hopeing the phone will ring and it will be my boss telling me he will make it, that he is breathing on his own and the swelling has gone down. But I know deep down that will not happen. I feel horable for his family. The one saving grace is he just got back after a 3 week vaction with his whole family. So they will have some great memories.

I feel lost
I just don't know what to do.

He was hit just a few blocks from where I live. My DH and I heard the sirens that night and made comments on how something big must of happened. If we had only known what had happened. I would have been by his side. DH says to stop thinking that way, even if we had know there would have been nothing we could do. Its better that I didn't see him. My last memory was him telling me how he won 300 in Vegas with his family playing blackjack. He was trying to figure out how to spend it.

Why is it always to good people why can't it be someone who deserves it. I know thats a bad thing to say but its true. I just don't know what to do. I just want to run away and hide.

Sorry for rambleing but my mind is just spinning. Please pray that a miracle will happen and that he pulls through. Please pray that his family stays strong. Please pray that we all stay strong through this.

His name is Atip.......

Atip man please make it. I love you .
post #2 of 26
How sad. for you, and thoughts for his family.
post #3 of 26
How awful Lots of coming over for him and his family, as well as the driver concerned as this will have affected him/her as well
post #4 of 26
I will pray that the Lord heals your friend.
post #5 of 26
Oh sweetheart, I'm so sorry for your friend. I hope a miracle happens for him -- but if it doesn't, at least he had friends like you who will remember him with such love.

Maybe you and his other friends could do something useful in his memory -- like a local campaign for bike helmets. You might be able to get some billboard company to donate space on boards that aren't being used for a message about the importance of helmets. Your friend could end up saving a lot of lives that way.
post #6 of 26
Prayers for him. I know the feeling.
You are right its always the good people theat get hurt or die.
post #7 of 26
Oh how scary, sad and tragic God Bless him and his family to you
post #8 of 26
My goodness, how tragic


Many prayers for his family and for you.
post #9 of 26
I will be keeping you, Atip and his family in my thoughts. This is a real tragedy. Unfortunately at age 22 we still have no concept of our own mortality.

I agree with Carol that an excellent way to remember him is to start a bike safety campaign. This is not only for wearing helmets, but obeying the rules of the road...motor vehicles and bicycles.

Accidents of this type are going to be on the rise with the increase in bikers due to gas costs. My sister almost hit a biker on her way home the other day. This person was riding between two lanes of cars then made a turn right in front of her vehicle. It was a young man, no helmet, and he probably doesn't even realize how lucky he is to still be alive.

Now is the time to increase awareness, to prevent more tragedies like Atip's.
post #10 of 26
my brother was 22 when he died from a motorcycle accident... he also was not wearing his helmet.
sending & for Atip...
post #11 of 26
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Originally Posted by kittymonsters View Post
...This is not only for wearing helmets, but obeying the rules of the road...motor vehicles and bicycles.

Accidents of this type are going to be on the rise with the increase in bikers due to gas costs....
I've been worried about that latter point lately... I do see more people on two wheels around here, and they're so vulnerable. I've never understood why bicycles shouldn't be on the sidewalk, myself... better a collision between a bike and a pedestrian than between a bike and a car.
post #12 of 26
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Originally Posted by CarolPetunia View Post

Maybe you and his other friends could do something useful in his memory -- like a local campaign for bike helmets. You might be able to get some billboard company to donate space on boards that aren't being used for a message about the importance of helmets. Your friend could end up saving a lot of lives that way.

I think that's a very good idea..

You can't blame yourself for his accident, and you can't blame yourself for not going to the scene of the accident. You didn't know it was him that was involved, and you couldn't force him to wear a helmet. Maybe he's so special that the Lord has a reason for wanting him to come home so soon..

I'll be praying for him too, but if he doesn't make it, maybe it'll help if you know he's in a better place.



~KK~
post #13 of 26
for you and his family .That is heart breaking.
post #14 of 26
Thread Starter 
Thank you for the vibes everyone.

I am sad to say that today around 2pm Atip was taken off life support. He went quickly and quietly. He is now at rest. We will be having a candle light vigil for him tomorrow and his bike friends will be doing a ghost ride this week for him.

Please continue to keep his family and friends in your thoughts. We all need them now more than ever.

Atip, I love you and will miss you.
post #15 of 26
Oh my, I am so sorry RIP Atip
post #16 of 26
I am so sorry. He must have been a very special person for the Lord to take him Home so soon.

RIP, Atip.

~KK~
post #17 of 26
I am so sorry for the loss of your friend, and for his family and other friends.
post #18 of 26
That`s terrible.So sorry for your and his familys loss.

Rest in peace Atip
post #19 of 26
I am so sorry you lost your good friend.
to you and all who loved him to heal now.
post #20 of 26
I am so sorry for this tragic loss.

I belive that you wern't meant to see him like that... at the scene. That would have been etched into your memory instead of all of the good times.

Prays for him, you, his family, and the driver.
post #21 of 26
This is so sad for you and his family. You are all in my prayers.

Rest in Peace Atip.
post #22 of 26
I'm so sorry RIP Atip.
post #23 of 26
Thread Starter 
Thank you again everyone.

Tonight was the first of many, many memorials. I was shocked, over 400 people showed up to pay their respects. We took over the corner where he was hit. It took 4 cops and 2 cop cars to control the situation. His parents came, which was the hardest part for everyone. Hearing them talk and cry was heart wrenching. Most of the people are going to the bar where he was a bar back for more tributes and memorials. I don't have the strength to go. My DH and I decided to just come home and spend it together, have a few drinks in his honor and just reflect on his life. We are all still in shock. I have cried so much I don't think I can cry anymore.

I just have to say if you have kids and they ride bikes or skateboars or rollerblades, MAKE THEM WEAR A HELMET!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Its just not worth it. Do what ever it takes to make them wear one. Seeing Atips parents tonight and the pain they had for having to bury their 22 year old son , it's just not worth it. Hearing his dad ask for one more day, the chance to take him home and hold him one more time, god make them wear one. Atip may still be alive, he may not be able to walk or function fully but he would be alive. If anything be selfish do it so you don't have to bury your child.

I will post this later this week, the news and paper will both be doing a story on Atip and how important a helmet is. Hopefully this will help make some changes happen. MAKE YOUR KIDS WEAR HELMETS, NO MATTER WHAT Don't set yourself up to have to say goodbye.

RIP Atip Ouypron 3.28.86-7.19.08

May you ride forever. We love you and will miss you. Your smile was electifying and contagious.

ATIP
post #24 of 26
So sorry your friend died.
My friend died on a bike even though he had a helmet on.
We used to have to go buy were he died before we moved here.
They still put flowers were it happened.
I feel so bad for your friends family
post #25 of 26
I'm so sorry, hon. Bless you for trying to spread the word about safety... maybe with the help of some of those 400 people, you can make a difference.
post #26 of 26
I am so sorry to hear of this news. My thoughts and prayers are with everyone invloved. God bless.
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