Originally Posted by Sweets
You are 22 yrs old with no high school diploma, "decent" jobs and you are worried because you don't have a ring on your finger? You have a long life ahead of you! Go back and get your GED and a CAREER before you think about marraige and kids. How will you talk your kids into staying in school if you didn't? (You always want better for your kids)
I would definatly say we both have a career. We both knew what we wanted to do at a young age. My partner left school as soon as he could and went straight in to an excellent job and has moved around to move on up and better himself in his career.
I stayed on at school a few years longer to get A levels and then started working in something I have always wanted to do and have moved on up in my role too.
Both of us would never go back to school or college or University. All of our friends are still in uni and we are already a lot futher than they will be and without the debt it causes.
As I had said quite early on in the thread, we both knew we wanted to be together and knew what we had to do to get there.
We are now the youngest people we know who own a place in an extremly expensive part of England and that is something that a lot of 30+ year olds are finding extremly difficult to do.
We worked towards that by knowing how much debt that university costs and knew that as we didnt want to be lawyers or docters, university was not a requirement and we have got an excellent head start in life long careers.
Its a shame he hasnt proposed yet. If I was not christian, then we could be just life long partners. But I want it to be spiritual. I knew that he was 100% athiest when I met him, and thought that it wasnt going to be as important to him.
I know it would be important to him to do before we have children, but as that is a long way off then I can understand that he hasnt seen it as a priority yet.
I dont want to end up as another addition to the statistics that are flying around the news about how marriage is dropping in england.
I think that it was a good idea us living together before getting engaged now, unlike how I thought before, but it has been a longer wait than I had expected, and wanted.
I just feel it is one peice missing out of my life right now. I do not feel 100% complete and that is upsetting.
I write these things mostly in tears, so it is affecting me, and I really wish it didnt.
If I didnt get this affected by it then I am sure i wouldnt want it to happen in the first place