Well, if I were looking, which I stopped actively doing a while ago... I had a small list, some of which you can't print in an ad with out attracting a sh*tload of idjits..
He should be: someone who adores animals, specifically cats, and understands his place in my life and theirs. If he can't get that, he doesn't get to criteria two. They're not going anywhere.
Someone who is generally laid back, I'm opinionated and outspoken and independent enough for both of us, but he is someone who is *willing* to deal with all the bs if he needs to. I'd really like it if he's willing to take over the "fight" for whatever it is I'm fighting for at the current moment.. over an incorrect bill, whatever it might be.
Someone who appreciates me while I'm coasting about in jeans or sweats and a t-shirt, but completely appreciates and enjoys getting dressed up with me for an evening out. MUST like and appreciate lingerie.
I would guess that he would have to have a liberal sense of politics, or no position on politics at all. I don't really care about what religion he is, but usually someone who practices a religion doesn't respond well to someone who does not practice, so.. while I don't care, they usually do.
Doesn't have to be a neat freak. I'm definitely not, but he does have to be willing to help clean when it gets to be that time. I have a hard enough time keeping up after myself, let alone adding in trying to keep up after another person, lol. I need a bit of balance in this department. I'm definitely not the worst housekeeper, but.. ya know.. there is never going to be a day that someone could walk in randomly and find my house spotless, other than cleaning day.
Looks aren't so important, I don't discriminate against anyone, but men who turn my head are usually olive-skinned, dark hair, and I have a specific weakness for colored eyes.. sharp angular features.. I actually prefer less body hair, but it's not mandatory. I don't like "shaved" men, and I'm not talking facial hair. It's ouchy.
General things; intelligent and able to stump me upon occasion, but who isn't haughty about it; good sense of humor, likes to go out and yes, occasionally get drunk as stress relief, but doesn't want to do it *all* the time, likes to dance (ballroom, latin, line dance.. as well as top 40/hiphop)...must at least like classic rock. Must not force me to listen to rap or acid metal. Taller is good, I like to wear heels, occasionally, but I have dated shorter men. Must be respectful, and get the "three strike rule" long before it's a done deal. A job is good, preferably one that has a decent income, but I'm not particular about what job it is. Must be social or at least willing to be social when we do something. I'm social enough for two if they're willing to tag along.
Aww, heck, that's all I can think of at the moment. Anyway, I am not actively looking so..I guess it doesn't really matter at this point,