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Wanting Another Cat but DH says "NO!"

post #1 of 27
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I need some help. I have my two little babies and I love them so much. But I really want to help out another cat and adopt one. DH says no! Do you think there is any way to convince him? He is hung up on the house being overrun with cats, and seems to think he should not be out-numbered by cats. It took a year to get him to let me adopt my Maverick. Do I have any hope???
post #2 of 27
Well, I'm in the same situation! So far, no luck here either!
post #3 of 27
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We can commiserate together I guess
post #4 of 27
Yup!
post #5 of 27
well my dad said the same thing when we brrought tessa and blue and made it 6 he said no...but we still did it we are the ones who take care of the cats and she pays for them when they need food, litter, ect. toys and the vet, he never puts the money in and as my mom said she pays half the bills and the mortgage so he was mad but he got over it all she did was get really mad at him when he said no and then he turned around and said yes..although he does still complain a lil now but hey we got 6 cats
post #6 of 27
Maybe try hinting that's what you would like for a birthday gift
post #7 of 27
Hey, I'm outnumbered by my cats and it's not a problem. I just need to cater to their every desire as soon as they make me aware of it. That's normal, right?

Can you just kind of "temporarily" acquire one and hope that he grows to like it? Although I wouldn't want him to be seriously angry about getting one without his agreement, so that might not be the best plan after all.
post #8 of 27
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I tried the temporary idea this summer when we fostered Preggers Gabby who had 7 kittens. He would not let me keep any kitten nor Gabby. They all got excellent homes, mind you, but the temporary cat was just that to him: temporary.
post #9 of 27
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I tried the temporary idea this summer when we fostered Preggers Gabby who had 7 kittens. He would not let me keep any kitten nor Gabby. They all got excellent homes, mind you, but the temporary cat was just that to him: temporary.
Not even one little tiny kitten?! What kind of person are we dealing with here??
post #10 of 27
If you are financially stable, I'd say forget what he thinks! I don't think its fair that HE calls the shots, if you can afford it, and have enough room to adopt another. Then get one!
If he wanted something really bad, adn you said no, would he listen? John wouldn't!
post #11 of 27
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You two are tempting me!!!

In all seriousness, we almost kept one of the kittens, Spike. But Maverick seemed scared of him so I dropped the issue. (Maverick is a scaredy cat at times). Maybe the next time he goes away for his conference.....
post #12 of 27
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Originally Posted by babyharley View Post
If you are financially stable, I'd say forget what he thinks! I don't think its fair that HE calls the shots, if you can afford it, and have enough room to adopt another. Then get one!
If he wanted something really bad, adn you said no, would he listen? John wouldn't!
I completely agree with that, thats pretty much what we did
post #13 of 27
3 cats from 2 is no big deal..Just do it!! Husband shmusband
post #14 of 27
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3 cats from 2 is no big deal..Just do it!! Husband shmusband
That would be the day my DH refused me...maybe he's afraid of my Dad
post #15 of 27
Jacob was supposed to be our temporary cat - daughter couldn't have him at her place, so she asked if he could stay here for a while. DH groused about it, but Jacob was on his way, so he couldn't do anything! . Anyway, that was almost 2 years ago! He's still here! And DH doesn't want him to leave! Maybe I could sneak another one in - do you think he'd notice?
post #16 of 27
Do it Colleen, how can anyone resist another sweet face like that
post #17 of 27
Could one just "accidentally" follow you home from the shelter??



Or just have him bond with a cat. Once you hook him there's no turning back! That's how my SIL got her third dog
They went to the pet store, started playing with one of the dogs and then the little girl stuck her leg out like our family dog did growing up.
So that melted my brothers heart and they took her home.
post #18 of 27
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Or just have him bond with a cat. Once you hook him there's no turning back! .
It works! Let him think he made the choice….

After Eden and Frisky passed away last year we were down to fourteen and in “no new cats for 20 years†mode…until we stopped at the shelter and a cat that had been dumped there came running out from under a car and up to Aaron and let him cradle him on his back like a baby. Once we got home I kept reminding him how sweet the cat was, how much he had always said he loved polydactyl cats and how living outside at a high kill shelter was such a sad situation for a nice black cat…and the ol’ “it must be important to my wife because she looks sad†trick.

A few days later we went back to get Bart.
post #19 of 27
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Originally Posted by Nellers View Post
I need some help. I have my two little babies and I love them so much. But I really want to help out another cat and adopt one. DH says no! Do you think there is any way to convince him? He is hung up on the house being overrun with cats, and seems to think he should not be out-numbered by cats. It took a year to get him to let me adopt my Maverick. Do I have any hope???
Tell him he can let you adopt another cat.... OR you want to have a kid.

You are making me want to get a 3rd kitty too. Gotta blame it on someone.
post #20 of 27
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Originally Posted by Cubbie View Post
Tell him he can let you adopt another cat.... OR you want to have a kid.
That's the best solution I've heard yet!

Please let us know how that conversation goes.
post #21 of 27
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Originally Posted by Pekoe & Nigel View Post
That's the best solution I've heard yet!

Please let us know how that conversation goes.
I have a feeling that would be an interesting one!!
post #22 of 27
heres what my mom said u need to do...in ur "alone" time u need to sweet talk him into it see she did have my dad agree on getting blue tessa was just an extra we brought home and when he told her no the sweetness was gone and it was a very arguementive week but she said try sweet talk in "alone" time
post #23 of 27
Thread Starter 
Great suggestions!
The kid thing won't work for me sadly. He really wants to have a kid soon and I am the "anti-kid" one right now (due to career reasons AND because we are just now moving into a house suitable for a kid).

I did talk to him briefly last night and now he says he wants a dog. But he's allergic to most dogs so I am not sure why. He did say I could get a turtle but I want some FUR!

But I like the idea of taking him to the shelter or to the Petsmart when the Foster rescue cats are there for the day. That's how we got Maverick last Christmas. DH picked him out. Or shall I say, Maverick picked DH out!
post #24 of 27
I never listen to hubby....... He complains all the time about my cats, and dogs..........I just ignore him That seems to work the best,hehe.

I am also wanting another kitty, but I am holding off for awhile. I know when and if I DO decide to get one, hes going to flip, but owell.......LOL. I know, I am so baaaad.........
post #25 of 27
when i was trying to convince mike (mr. only-2-kitties) that we should adopt stimpy, i worked on him for 2 weeks i think. we had the pity thing going--stimpy had a bad blockage (i think previous owners fed him something horrendous like special kitty dry ). so he was recovering, had to have the same considerations for food as my other 2 cats, and not many people at a shelter are interested in 1. an adult cat, 2. an adult with special considerations 3. any cat with "urinary" anything on their card.

so, i got him to the point that he said "we'll talk about it". that was when i knew i was in. he wasn't saying a flat out no. so i filled out the application. well, part of the adoption process is the family has to meet the kitty. stimpy sure seemed to know what to do. he had mike so convinced, mike said "i guess 3 cats are ok". so, that's how i convinced mr. only-2-kitties we should have a 3rd cat. other posters are right, it helps if the hubby thinks it's his decision. (i need an evil grin icon )

also, part of the agreement was he got to name stimpy. would that help convince your hubby?

good luck!
post #26 of 27
Does he like Potato Chips??? If he does give him a bag and after he eats 2 say that's all you can have Cats are like Potato Chips you can't just have 2 Okay I'm silly but WTH it's worth a try
post #27 of 27
well..

i have bryne.. and sometimes i really miss my first cat.. i live with my partner in a one bedroom apartment. This isn't your average one bedroom though, it's HUGE! Our bedroom is bigger than most apartment bedrooms and our living room is huge.. we even have a big kitchen. So, i decided it was time for another cat. Bryne runs around so much wanting to play with someone.. so i figured another cat just like her would do the trick.

I told my partner.. and she said no. =) but that's ok. because we are moving in July and when we move she said i can get another baby to play with our sweet Bryne. Maybe if you just talk to him about how much fun the cats would have, if they had another playmate.. or just try to sweet talk him.

I'm glad he said he wants a dog or you could get a turtle, because now that means he's breaking.
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