My cat died suddenly...

[jennngrovie]

My beloved Grovie was only 6 yrs old. His last day with me was Saturday September 5th 2015. My heart hurts. My body hurts. We took him to an animal Hospital and found out he had feline asthma. I had no idea. Then I learned about hairballs. Please if your cat gets hairballs it could be asthma. Symptoms are almost identical. He was a polydactyl grey and white beautiful boy. I miss him so much. My life has changed without him. I love you Grovie

 

[jcat]

My condolences on your loss.

 

[jennngrovie]

Thank you so much

 

[di and bob]

I'm so sorry you have to go through this, you had no way of knowing it wasn't hairballs, so please don't blame yourself. You would never do any thing to cause harm to someone you so obviously love. You and Grovie spent 6 years of love and devotion together, he would never want you to be so sad when remembering him, but try to cherish the memories of the good times and know he knew you loved him so very much. Sometimes terrible things happen, and no matter how much we would want it to be different, we can't change the past. From your heartbreaking experience you can warn others now and prevent another heart from breaking, and for that I thank you for coming on to this site and spreading the word. 

The grieving process is a long difficult road to travel, but sharing your experiences with others who know how you feel is a step towards healing that huge hole in your heart.  Please know I'll keep you both in my thoughts and prayers, RIP sweet Grovie, you will be forever held in a loving heart!

 

[jennngrovie]

Thank you for your kind hearted words, I needed to hear that. Bless you

 

[jennngrovie]

Thank you to all of you for your kind words, it's really helping me get through this difficult time, bless all and our precious pets

 

[blueyedgirl5946]

I know your heart is heavy. It will take time and tears. I am sure your beloved Grovie knew how much you loved him. We all cope with losses in different ways. When I lost my soul mate cat, I wrote his life story and put it into a booklet with his picture and the Rainbow Bridge poem. Writing all those memories helped me heal. He was fourteen and I had him 12 of those years. I didn't want to forget even the tiny things about him that made him so unique. It is a wonderful therapy to write about them. Maybe when you feel better, you might consider that.

In the meantime know that he will live on forever in your heart. My heartfelt prayer for you is that you find peace and that you rest easy in knowing your boy had a wonderful, loving home. Many cats never have that and so Grovie was a blessed kitty. :nod:

 

[angelinacat]

I am so sorry for your loss.  Maybe your beautiful boy will meet my beautiful girl and play together until we can meet them again.  God Bless.

 

[jennngrovie]

Thank you for your reply, I'm actually making a scrapbook of Grovie, and your right, it is healing my heart. Also...remembering EVERYTHING about him, his meow, how he purred, looked at me, walked, all of him is going into his book. It really helps. Thank you for your kindness, bless you and your lost but never forgotten loved ones

 

[nurseangel]

I am so sorry for the loss of handsome Grovie.  I think it is wonderful that you are making a scrapbook in his memory.  My prayers will be with you; may your heart be healed soon.

 

[jennngrovie]

Thank you so very much

 

[jennngrovie]

Hello all...wondering how everyone deals with the grieving process? I cry everyday, visit Grovie's grave (in my backyard, thankfully) sleep with his towel that I put in carrier on way to hospital, have a small baggie of his hair which I keep with me in my pocket. Yeah, that's where I'm at. He died so suddenly. I thought he was perfect and healthy. Now I'm blaming myself for not knowing he had asthma. How did I not know this?!! Thursday September 3rd, he was totally fine. Friday, he was having breathing problems. I freaked out, which stressed him out, we rushed to hospital I was crying trying to hold him and comfort him then put him back in carrier. Got to hospital, immediately put him in oxygen tank. Tests, bloodwork, xrays, meds, and then 10pm. That night showed signs of improvement. Saturday September 5th, at 8:30am, I was at work when the dreaded call came...he had gotten worse overnight. What happened? Why? Did they not do enough? Miss something? I'm sorry. I know they did. He passed at 2:15pm. My hubby was there with him, I couldn't get there on time. So....having a lot of mixed feelings lately. Sad, guilt, anger, confused. I miss him so so so much. How do you all deal with losing your pet? Grovie was the only cat that I've ever had a "connection" with. He was my "third " child. I'm just so upset. Sorry for long post and rambling. My heart is broken. Guess it's the stages of grief that I need help with. Anyone else out there have advice? Can I help anyone who needs help too?

 

[jennngrovie]

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• jennngrovie
• Sep 28, 2015

Here's My BEAUTIFUL Grovie taken 1 week before he passed

 

[ginny]

Hi jennngrovie, 

I'm so sorry about your dear Grovie.  He was a handsome big ole boy (bob).  I lost my kitty Gracie a little over 2 months ago now.  She had been sick for about 4 months with an URI.  I came here asking for help for her since about May of this year because the vets I took Gracie too didn't know what to do about her.  Nothing helped for long.  I had her PTS on July 23 despite the fact that I hate euthanasia.  Well, I hate death period.  If I could kill death, I would.  

Like you, I have many questions about her illness and her death, and some of those questions I still cannot bring myself to ask.  I wish I had done things differently.  I wish I'd asked more questions, spoken up more, asked for more explanations.  So many things I wish I'd done differently.  During desperate times, we do desperate things that always seem to lead to regret later on.  I let fear rule me

I wish I cold be a beacon of light for you during this sad time but I too am still missing my Gracie like crazy and doubting myself and still asking questions in my mind.  I can tell you that it seems to get a little better as time goes on.  And it will.  But it takes time.  All the time you need.  Grief is kind of like a cat.  You can't rush it, or else you will be sorry.  

 

[jennngrovie]

I'm sorry you lost your Gracie, what kind of cat was she? I'm sorry she was sick and couldn't be saved I found this site the same way you did, and it's helped me so much. Nice to meet other cat lovers, people who truly understand how we feel. You are right, grief is just like a cat! And some day we'll stop asking questions and saying "what if" and just be ok. Thank you for your kind words and I hope each day is a little better for you too. Kinda cute knowing our kitties are playing together, having fun, and looking at us and being in our hearts forever. Thank you for helping me feel better

 

[juleska]

My beloved Grovie was only 6 yrs old. His last day with me was Saturday September 5th 2015. My heart hurts. My body hurts. We took him to an animal Hospital and found out he had feline asthma. I had no idea. Then I learned about hairballs. Please if your cat gets hairballs it could be asthma. Symptoms are almost identical. He was a polydactyl grey and white beautiful boy. I miss him so much. My life has changed without him. I love you Grovie <3

I can feel your pain through your words, and my eyes welled up with tears reading this. I'm so sorry for your loss. Run free, sweet Grovie.

 

[mollyblue]

No matter how many days we have with our fur babies, it never seems to be enough.  But with our fur babies, as with our real ones, don't count the moments, make the moments count.  It sounds like you and grovie had a many wonderful moments.  Losing someone is hard... but the pain is the price we pay for the love we felt. Sometimes we think we have to keep feeling that pain as a testament to our love.  Grovie wouldn't want that.  The love in your heart wasn't put there to stay because love isn't love until you give it away.

When Alex passed, this tiny 7 lb cat left a great gaping 300lb hole.  We didn't want to rush into getting another cat because we knew there was no other that could take her place - but we missed her so greatly we wanted something to fill the emptiness.  We started looking at shelters... sure, there were a lot of cute cats, and a lot of cats that wanted to love and be loved, and a lot of special cases, but no connection.  We decided to foster.  It would fill our need to provide some care (Alex was 17+ years and had chronic renal failure... we spent a lot of time caring for her!)  We adopted the foster kitty we took in because we were not satisfied with the limited care the shelter vet was giving her... we haven't been sorry.  She has not replaced Alex... I still see Alex's shadow everyday, but I know Alex is there loving Snowy with me, and knowing my love for her is what made me compassionate towards other cats.

When its time to move on, and it may not be time for you yet, but when its time, just take it one step at a time.

 

[di and bob]

There is no 'right' way to grieve. I still cry three years later when I think back to that horrible day when I lost my little girl. My only advise is to keep busy and to do things in your sweet Grovie's name, like spend time with a lonely shelter cat, or donate to a local vet to help others that can't afford vet care. Time is the only thing that helps, it dulls the sharpness of your pain, and hopefully allows your broken heart to begin to heal with the good memories you have, and to cherish the time you spent with him, not the sad end. None of our precious ones would want us to spend the rest of our lives in sadness, they would want us to be happy again, to love again, and to know in our hearts that a love that was as strong as the one we shared with them is a bond that even death cannot take away from us. Our souls are merged and one day we will be together again in spirit. Bless you for loving so much to hurt so bad, and remember with all your being that you shared a wonderful love, one that you would not want to have missed in your life, even though it hurts so much to lose them at the end. That famous saying is oh so true, "It is better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved at all". 

 

[kittens mom]

Hello all...wondering how everyone deals with the grieving process? I cry everyday, visit Grovie's grave (in my backyard, thankfully) sleep with his towel that I put in carrier on way to hospital, have a small baggie of his hair which I keep with me in my pocket. Yeah, that's where I'm at. He died so suddenly. I thought he was perfect and healthy. Now I'm blaming myself for not knowing he had asthma. How did I not know this?!! Thursday September 3rd, he was totally fine. Friday, he was having breathing problems. I freaked out, which stressed him out, we rushed to hospital I was crying trying to hold him and comfort him then put him back in carrier. Got to hospital, immediately put him in oxygen tank. Tests, bloodwork, xrays, meds, and then 10pm. That night showed signs of improvement. Saturday September 5th, at 8:30am, I was at work when the dreaded call came...he had gotten worse overnight. What happened? Why? Did they not do enough? Miss something? I'm sorry. I know they did. He passed at 2:15pm. My hubby was there with him, I couldn't get there on time. So....having a lot of mixed feelings lately. Sad, guilt, anger, confused. I miss him so so so much. How do you all deal with losing your pet? Grovie was the only cat that I've ever had a "connection" with. He was my "third " child. I'm just so upset. Sorry for long post and rambling. My heart is broken. Guess it's the stages of grief that I need help with. Anyone else out there have advice? Can I help anyone who needs help too?

This is a wonderful positive site. I think we all help each other by sharing. What a lovely cat Grovie is. But of course we all know that no matter how beautiful it was al the little quirks that made them so special to us. When I suddenly lost my mare I slept IN her blanket. We do what we need to get by that first big hump. It's also natural to blame yourself even when your rational mind knows better. Know that where you stand today we will all have to take a turn. But not one of us would choose to have not had these wonderful animals in our lives. I am so truly and deeply sorry for your loss.

 

[jennngrovie]

I don't know what I'd do without finding the support I have from this site. You all have been here for me, telling your stories, offering advice. I know I'm grieving the right way for me, and I will feel a little better every day. I work and keep busy. It helps! But I know if I go to a shelter, I will fall in love immediately. It's not my time time to get another cat, at least I don't think so. BUT, I've always had cats. I miss my grovie, I miss having a cat. So, if I get picked, I don't have a choice. So for now, I'll just keep on working and staying busy. I kinda got off subject here...really appreciate all of you. Sending hugs to you and thank you for helping me by sharing your stories