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If you look at my previous posts you will see that adopted a very needy, active, aggressive eight year old grey girl 6 months ago. She also had ear mites, ringworm and a UTI, even though I was told she was healthy. I wad also told she was calm and would be fine as an only cat of a working single person. That was also not true.
She is finally healthy after months of ringworm. Of course, I still have it after catching it from her!
I love her dearly but I need a life. She wants to be with me and play every minute I'm home. She cries and begs constantly. I don't go out anymore except for work because i feel guilty leaving her for more than a run to the grocery store. I realize that some of this is my own issue but it's hard to retrain myself not to worry when she fusses so much when I leave.
Aside from the neediness, the bigger issue is the aggression. I have been trying to retrain the love bite behavior and thats going well, the flat out anger/fear aggression is a different story. It came to a head last week when she attacked me in the middle of the night. She had been crying and crying at 3:30am, I shushed her with no luck. I brushed her away from the side of the bed with small pillow....she left the room and then ran in at full speed, jumped on the bed and sank her teeth into my arm. That is about the fourth time she's done that since she's been with me. One of the times I actually had to pry her head off my arm. These scare me alot. I've had several cats in my lifetime, even cranky ones, and have never dealt with this.
I've been wracking my brain for a solution but nothing I have tried seems to make her happy. I have considered a second cat because I think that would help but honestly, I didn't want two cats in the first place.
I contacted the rescue group I got her from for any tips or more background info. They offered to take her back and place her in her previous foster home with her sister, who she was raised with. I asked previously about her sister but was not given any information other than, " she will probably stay in foster, she may not be adoptable". I'm not sure what that means but it makes me uneasy. My kitty might be happier back with her sister and I'm assuming in a bigger home with possible more activity.
I feel guilty though, like a failure. I never wanted to be the person that takes an animal back but I do believe that both the human and the animal should be happy in the equation...at this point, neither of us is. When I think about giving her up I just start crying and I'm not sure I can do it. I'm afraid to give her back to people that didn't do a good job in finding her a home in the first place....but...she would be with her sister. I wish I knew if that's what she wanted and if it was a good thing.
I'm torturing myself
She is finally healthy after months of ringworm. Of course, I still have it after catching it from her!
I love her dearly but I need a life. She wants to be with me and play every minute I'm home. She cries and begs constantly. I don't go out anymore except for work because i feel guilty leaving her for more than a run to the grocery store. I realize that some of this is my own issue but it's hard to retrain myself not to worry when she fusses so much when I leave.
Aside from the neediness, the bigger issue is the aggression. I have been trying to retrain the love bite behavior and thats going well, the flat out anger/fear aggression is a different story. It came to a head last week when she attacked me in the middle of the night. She had been crying and crying at 3:30am, I shushed her with no luck. I brushed her away from the side of the bed with small pillow....she left the room and then ran in at full speed, jumped on the bed and sank her teeth into my arm. That is about the fourth time she's done that since she's been with me. One of the times I actually had to pry her head off my arm. These scare me alot. I've had several cats in my lifetime, even cranky ones, and have never dealt with this.
I've been wracking my brain for a solution but nothing I have tried seems to make her happy. I have considered a second cat because I think that would help but honestly, I didn't want two cats in the first place.
I contacted the rescue group I got her from for any tips or more background info. They offered to take her back and place her in her previous foster home with her sister, who she was raised with. I asked previously about her sister but was not given any information other than, " she will probably stay in foster, she may not be adoptable". I'm not sure what that means but it makes me uneasy. My kitty might be happier back with her sister and I'm assuming in a bigger home with possible more activity.
I feel guilty though, like a failure. I never wanted to be the person that takes an animal back but I do believe that both the human and the animal should be happy in the equation...at this point, neither of us is. When I think about giving her up I just start crying and I'm not sure I can do it. I'm afraid to give her back to people that didn't do a good job in finding her a home in the first place....but...she would be with her sister. I wish I knew if that's what she wanted and if it was a good thing.
I'm torturing myself