I have 2 cats. Minja, a Heinz 57 Tortie who is 3 yrs old, and Hershey Rose, a feral Burmese who I adopted in Sept and is now a lap cat. Minja was welcomed into my home in July of last year, Hershey Rose came in Sept. HR was given her own room, potty, toys, etc. She was trapped by the Humane Society, and fostered the next day (for 2 months). When I got her, she had chronic diarrhea. It did not stop, and I did not know the cause, so I felt it best to keep them separated until I was sure HR had a clean bill of health. Switching her from store bought food to raw took care of the problem in 24 hours. I make HRs food myself, but Minja won't go near it, and if I try mixing a little in her junky Friskies she won't eat the food at all. Whether or not their diet has anything to do with my current problem is a mystery to me, but I thought I'd give you a brief background.
Since I got Hershey Rose, Minja would stick her long legs under the door to her room, which I thought was cute (boy, was I wrong!) Sometimes she would "talk" through the door. But HR was terrified of everything, including me, so I thought it best to keep her alone for a while. After 3 months of one-on-one playing, talking, and touching, HR seemed ready to leave her small world and explore the house. On Christmas, I opened her door. Minja just sat and watched her, but she would not come out. So I stopped trying to encourage her and let her come out when she felt ready. Slowly she explored her new world. Minja just sat in her cat tree and watched. I made sure Minja saw me interact with HR, and HR saw me play with Minja. A few weeks later Minja suddenly lunged at HR and chased her all over the house. She ran into her room, terrified. I went in and calmed her down. The second time it happened (a few hours later), Minja got a stern warning. The third time Minja spent 15 minutes in time out in the bathroom. Minja did not want HR to come out of her room. It is now almost 3 months since they have both been out at the same time. Minja continues to harass HR constantly, except now HR won't take her crap. They chase each other, hiss and growl, and, on occasion, swipe at the open air over each other heads. They have never actually gotten physical, but this is definitely not play. I can get Minja on one arm of the couch and HR on the other at the same time if I am between them. I will give them a treat at the same time, one treat in each hand, for each cat, who are on opposite sides of me. They get equal attention. But still it is Minja, about 90% of the time that starts the fights. Minja sleeps with me on the bed, HR now sleeps under the bed and not in her room, so they can get along when they want to. They will both sit beside me at the same time, as long as I am in the middle. When Minja chases HR, she usually comes running over to me. When HR starts the fights, Minja usually walks away. Minja is a sweet girl, who loves to be petted and played with. HR will let me pet her when she is in the mood, but does love to interactive play. HR is still coming out of the feral shell, but making great progress. All I want is some peace in the house. I know you can't force cats to get along or even like each other, but this constant fighting has got to stop. I spend equal time with each cat. I use Peacemaker essence by Jackson Galaxy. I use Feliway. Soon I will be using Xanax because they are driving me nuts.
Please help. I'm out of Valium.
Lei-Ann
Since I got Hershey Rose, Minja would stick her long legs under the door to her room, which I thought was cute (boy, was I wrong!) Sometimes she would "talk" through the door. But HR was terrified of everything, including me, so I thought it best to keep her alone for a while. After 3 months of one-on-one playing, talking, and touching, HR seemed ready to leave her small world and explore the house. On Christmas, I opened her door. Minja just sat and watched her, but she would not come out. So I stopped trying to encourage her and let her come out when she felt ready. Slowly she explored her new world. Minja just sat in her cat tree and watched. I made sure Minja saw me interact with HR, and HR saw me play with Minja. A few weeks later Minja suddenly lunged at HR and chased her all over the house. She ran into her room, terrified. I went in and calmed her down. The second time it happened (a few hours later), Minja got a stern warning. The third time Minja spent 15 minutes in time out in the bathroom. Minja did not want HR to come out of her room. It is now almost 3 months since they have both been out at the same time. Minja continues to harass HR constantly, except now HR won't take her crap. They chase each other, hiss and growl, and, on occasion, swipe at the open air over each other heads. They have never actually gotten physical, but this is definitely not play. I can get Minja on one arm of the couch and HR on the other at the same time if I am between them. I will give them a treat at the same time, one treat in each hand, for each cat, who are on opposite sides of me. They get equal attention. But still it is Minja, about 90% of the time that starts the fights. Minja sleeps with me on the bed, HR now sleeps under the bed and not in her room, so they can get along when they want to. They will both sit beside me at the same time, as long as I am in the middle. When Minja chases HR, she usually comes running over to me. When HR starts the fights, Minja usually walks away. Minja is a sweet girl, who loves to be petted and played with. HR will let me pet her when she is in the mood, but does love to interactive play. HR is still coming out of the feral shell, but making great progress. All I want is some peace in the house. I know you can't force cats to get along or even like each other, but this constant fighting has got to stop. I spend equal time with each cat. I use Peacemaker essence by Jackson Galaxy. I use Feliway. Soon I will be using Xanax because they are driving me nuts.
Please help. I'm out of Valium.
Lei-Ann