I would just let him stay in as long as he wants. Don't shoo him out the door or force him to leave if he is happy indoors.
Everything is new from the outside for him and he needs lots of adjustments and assurance and love. I am sure he trusted you but many things are going through his mind now. Keep things simple for him, don't expect too much, get him as comfortable as he can and let him explore the room and the rest of the house at his own time.Update: I brought him inside around 4:30 and he stayed until around 7. I knew I needed to get him outside before the skunks and raccoons showed up. He seemed very nervous at first. He was even shaking a little, meowing, just seemed like he felt trapped. I kept petting him and telling him it was ok. He finally ate a couple treats. I sat on the couch and he jumped up next to me. That's when he seemed to really calm down. My husband started moving around upstairs which seemed to put him on edge (understandably). But I gave him some of his food, hoping that something familiar would help out. It seemed to. We got back on the couch and he let me hold him for several minutes (purring the whole time), then he got down and curled up beside me. He slept like that for a good hour, even twitching at one point so I knew he felt comfortable enough to go into a deeper sleep. When I opened the door for him to go out he seemed ready to go. Although he did linger on the threshold while I had the door open.
Hopefully these are all good signs. I don't know. It's been a long time since I had a "new" cat so I'm not sure how long it normally takes for them to calm down. I knew this would be weird for him as it's all new sights, sounds and smells. But I guess I was hoping for more curiosity and less scaredness? Hopefully we'll get there.
Have you all had success turning strays into strictly house kitties? How long did it take them to fully adapt to their new life?
All good things for me to keep in mind. I did close off all the bedroom doors. For one, there are still some things I need to straighten up so he doesn't get into them, and two I didn't want to overwhelm him. He mostly stayed in the living room, but did explore the kitchen a bit. I'm hoping the more he comes in, the more he'll feel comfortable to explore more.Everything is new from the outside for him and he needs lots of adjustments and assurance and love. I am sure he trusted you but many things are going through his mind now. Keep things simple for him, don't expect too much, get him as comfortable as he can and let him explore the room and the rest of the house at his own time.
The most important thing is that you've got in indoors and please keep him in. Do not let him dart out of the house as it'll be harder the second time to get him in.
Looks like he's quite comfy and should be quite easy cat to work with. As long as he's not freaked out by loud sounds, be it talking, singing, closing of doors, music and tv and sudden movements or anything that can freak him out. Since it's only his first day in, let him gain confidence and let him absorb the sights and sounds slowly.
All cats are different and so it's hard to say how soon they can settle down but one thing for sure, be it strays or ferals, they all can be transformed into house cats. Main thing is, don't give up. For your case, it was an easy one.
Yes, rearrange some things so that they don't get in his way or he gets into them. Cats are very curious. They want to know everything, but once they check it out, they are most likely know that this things mean no harm to them and they'll leave them alone.All good things for me to keep in mind. I did close off all the bedroom doors. For one, there are still some things I need to straighten up so he doesn't get into them, and two I didn't want to overwhelm him. He mostly stayed in the living room, but did explore the kitchen a bit. I'm hoping the more he comes in, the more he'll feel comfortable to explore more.
Also, one reason I didn't allow him to stay in is because I don't have a litter box set up yet. I didn't want to spend the money on litter if he was going to be completely miserable in the house. Now that I know he seems ok, I'll be getting that set up in the next day or two. That way I don't have to worry about him needing the bathroom while he's inside and he can stay in as long as he wants.
When I first bring him in he seems anxious and like he's trying to find a way back out. Eventually he would calm down and sleep on the couch beside me for about an hour. But yesterday when I brought him in, he never fully calmed down. And today I couldn't get him to come in at all. It's odd though...he never tries to hide when he's inside. He does walk around and check things out and even hopped up on the bed when I let him explore pur bedroom. He just seems like he's trapped, and he's very jumpy at noises...not that I blame him, they're all unfamiliar to him. And when I let him back out, he never runs away. He just sits outside or lays down. I tried to get him to come in a few times this morning, but he didn't seem to have any interest. I got really discouraged and emotional about it, and wondered if I should just give up trying to make him an indoor cat. There have been a lot of tears today over it. Maybe he just just doesn't want it. But I'm trying to remind myself, it has to be his timing...even if I have to let go of the timeline I had in mind. Maybe things will change when he get neutered. Or maybe the house feels too cold for him right now, and maybe he'll be more willing to be inside in the winter. I don't know. I know I have to be patient, but I didn't expect it to be this hard. I'm still dealing with the grief and heartache of losing Dahlia. I was actually excited at the idea of having another cat...but in a way I feel like I'm losing him too. Or at least the idea I had of him, you know? It's all just making me miss Dahlia even more.Setting him in the litter box was a good way to show him where it's located. He probably hopped out because he didn't need to use it at that moment. If you're worried that he won't use it, collect a little of his waste after he goes outdoors and put it in the box. Or, sprinkle a little soil from outside over the litter, and he should be able to figure out what the box is for.
Pheromone products shouldn't hurt.... but does he really need that. The photos you've posted show a pretty relaxed cat!
I agree with what poolcat mentioned.When I first bring him in he seems anxious and like he's trying to find a way back out. Eventually he would calm down and sleep on the couch beside me for about an hour. But yesterday when I brought him in, he never fully calmed down. And today I couldn't get him to come in at all. It's odd though...he never tries to hide when he's inside. He does walk around and check things out and even hopped up on the bed when I let him explore pur bedroom. He just seems like he's trapped, and he's very jumpy at noises...not that I blame him, they're all unfamiliar to him. And when I let him back out, he never runs away. He just sits outside or lays down. I tried to get him to come in a few times this morning, but he didn't seem to have any interest. I got really discouraged and emotional about it, and wondered if I should just give up trying to make him an indoor cat. There have been a lot of tears today over it. Maybe he just just doesn't want it. But I'm trying to remind myself, it has to be his timing...even if I have to let go of the timeline I had in mind. Maybe things will change when he get neutered. Or maybe the house feels too cold for him right now, and maybe he'll be more willing to be inside in the winter. I don't know. I know I have to be patient, but I didn't expect it to be this hard. I'm still dealing with the grief and heartache of losing Dahlia. I was actually excited at the idea of having another cat...but in a way I feel like I'm losing him too. Or at least the idea I had of him, you know? It's all just making me miss Dahlia even more.
All very true. Mostly I wanted to show him where it was, so now that he knows hopefully he'll use it when he needs to.I agree with what poolcat mentioned.
The other thing I think is that he may not want to be carried and be out into the litterbox. It could be one of the reason he is unsettled after that because he felt caught and he's weary about that and also he may not have used a litterbox before and when you try putting him in there, he felt strange and also felt trapped. Try to let him explore on his own time and if you can find out where he pee or poop when he's outside, get some of it and bury it under the litter in the litterbox.
I believe that you are able to get him in permanently but you must not give up.
Thank you for that. It has been a really rough couple of years for me. I've had a lot on my plate emotionally and mentally. I think I was looking at Elwood as my "maybe things are turning around" moment and I wanted it to happen quickly. But I just need to chill. I mean, we've already come a long way since July 20. First he would just show up randomly. Then about two weeks later he started sitting on my porch chair. Since then we've had a vet visit, he went MIA for a few days, came back, and now he's been in the house a few times. That's a lot in just over a month! So maybe it won't take as much time as I fear.You've had a lot of big losses recently, and a trip coming up.... and now you're trying to get a cat who (it seems like) wants to be an indoor/outdoor cat to accept being an indoors-only one. That's a lot to have to deal with. My advice is to take one thing at a time. Plan for what you know is coming up, but try not to worry about all of it all the time. Easy for me to say, I know.... Sending hugs for you and scritches for your new boy.
Ooh good to know! I'll have to look into that!I have found that Cat Attract litter does seem to draw cats to the litter box! It is expensive but it has been worth it for me. Dr. Elsey's also makes a litter attractant which I have never used but might be worth checking out.
In this case, call your vet and tell them your plans of trapping Elwood and keep the neutering appointment open. Most vets allow this as they understand that trapping a stray or feral is hard and they know that the appointed time at the vet is quite impossible to meet.I just don't know. I really don't think brining him in earlier and letting him stay during the week would be possible since I have to work in office Wed-Fri. Bringing him inside and leaving him by himself for hours after only 2 days seems unfair to him. And I don't have a good area where I can close him in...I feel like he would freak out at that anyway. I'm just not sure if it's better to try to bring him in during the week, or wait until Friday morning?
This is normal as he is used to the outside but nevertheless, now that he is in and I mentioned a few post up, let him get use to being indoors as this will take awhile.Today seems a little rougher than yesterday. I'm guessing Elwood was just worn out yesterday so he seemed more content. Today he's back to going to windows and doors and meowing and trying to find a way out. Not frantically or anything...but enough that it makes my heart break. I feel like I'm trapping him and keeping him from the life he wants to have. I know it's to keep him safe, but he doesn't know that. I'm hoping his desire to go outside will eventually calm down. But right now it's hard not to blame myself. I feel like I'm not doing enough to make him want to stay