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Hello all,
Sorry in advance for the long read
I’m writing this because I have a huge problem with my 1 year old male cat, Dade (DSH) he was an only cat for about a year until I moved in with my girlfriend. She has the nicest 19 year old cat named Tobie (also DSH). Knowing my boy is a bit aggressive we of course took a while to introduce them. He started to chase her and mount of her and bite her neck. Tobie would hiss at him and he would not acknowledge it at all. Dade has never hissed or growled or made any warning sounds. I constuled the vet and after reading a lot of articles on Young and older cats I figured maybe he’s just bored and needs a friend. I try to play with him but he gets incredibly bored with me and destroys all of his toys same day I buy them lol. So we find a curious, energetic 6 month old girl names Ozzy. Again I talked to many rescues and vets and they said a girl might be easier with my obviously dominant boy. Again, Ozzy and dade took a while to be introduced especially since Ozzy had a skin infection we kept her locked away for fear of ring worm (it wasn’t) but they were very slowly introduced. We thought this would help with a lot of the attacking dade would do but we were incredibly wrong. Now all dade does is attack the kitten AND the older cat. He is just a huge bully. He will pounce on them and I physically have to rip him off of the girls because they just scream and cry. He rips hair out and is just straight mean. They all get fed together, get treats and in that moment he’s fine with them around food. I try and get him and the kitten to play together but the kitten is so scared of him and when she finally warms up and runs around to join him in play he mauls her again. I feel so terrible for the girls and i don’t know what to do with dade. I play with him but again he gets bored with me. I give him attention, I try and show him even more attention than the girls. When he does something bad I simply pick him up and lock him in a room but it sucks hearing him wanting to be let out and I hate locking the kitten in the room knowing she wants to be out exploring as well. I’ve had the kitten for 2 months but it took us about a month to introduce them. The two girl cats are fine but dade is just a menace. I don’t want to get rid of him because he was my first cat ever and I do love him. He isn’t not just rough with the girls, he also is with me and would often pounce at me and try to bite me with his dilated eyes when he was an only kitty but that was usually once he wasn’t riled up. Someone please help
Sorry in advance for the long read
I’m writing this because I have a huge problem with my 1 year old male cat, Dade (DSH) he was an only cat for about a year until I moved in with my girlfriend. She has the nicest 19 year old cat named Tobie (also DSH). Knowing my boy is a bit aggressive we of course took a while to introduce them. He started to chase her and mount of her and bite her neck. Tobie would hiss at him and he would not acknowledge it at all. Dade has never hissed or growled or made any warning sounds. I constuled the vet and after reading a lot of articles on Young and older cats I figured maybe he’s just bored and needs a friend. I try to play with him but he gets incredibly bored with me and destroys all of his toys same day I buy them lol. So we find a curious, energetic 6 month old girl names Ozzy. Again I talked to many rescues and vets and they said a girl might be easier with my obviously dominant boy. Again, Ozzy and dade took a while to be introduced especially since Ozzy had a skin infection we kept her locked away for fear of ring worm (it wasn’t) but they were very slowly introduced. We thought this would help with a lot of the attacking dade would do but we were incredibly wrong. Now all dade does is attack the kitten AND the older cat. He is just a huge bully. He will pounce on them and I physically have to rip him off of the girls because they just scream and cry. He rips hair out and is just straight mean. They all get fed together, get treats and in that moment he’s fine with them around food. I try and get him and the kitten to play together but the kitten is so scared of him and when she finally warms up and runs around to join him in play he mauls her again. I feel so terrible for the girls and i don’t know what to do with dade. I play with him but again he gets bored with me. I give him attention, I try and show him even more attention than the girls. When he does something bad I simply pick him up and lock him in a room but it sucks hearing him wanting to be let out and I hate locking the kitten in the room knowing she wants to be out exploring as well. I’ve had the kitten for 2 months but it took us about a month to introduce them. The two girl cats are fine but dade is just a menace. I don’t want to get rid of him because he was my first cat ever and I do love him. He isn’t not just rough with the girls, he also is with me and would often pounce at me and try to bite me with his dilated eyes when he was an only kitty but that was usually once he wasn’t riled up. Someone please help