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Hello Everyone.
Looking for advice on next steps when all other efforts fail.
Marc, like most cats wakes up around 4am. Like so many others, I have issues with him waking up the whole house by screaming, attacking my OH and I so we'll play, etc. Pretty typical maddening behavior on his part. Adding to the overall stress of the issue itself, I live in a condo which is not very soundproofed. The extra room is close enough to ours that putting him away at night there makes no difference. His screams and door scratching, & hurling himself into the door can be heard just as loudly in our room if he was doing it at our bedroom door. His behavior has caused us to be fined 7 times now, $50 each offense (first offense $35, each after that $50) by neighbors who are also being kept up by him as well. I've tried arguing that if it were a human baby, i wouldn't be fined. However - in their eyes he is an animal and it is not quite the same as a human baby (i beg to differ... but that's a different argument).
I've combed this site, and SO many other forums and can honestly say I have tried every suggestion. As of today and for the past few weeks I have adjusted my sleeping schedule around him. I wake up around 4am when he does. I go back to bed when my OH wakes up for work. Usually Marc calms down a bit and will sleep into the afternoon. I essentially sleep from around 6am-10am everyday. If I'm lucky and don't have other errands to tend to, etc. I will be starting a full time job within the next month, so I can't endure this schedule much longer. Weekends are even WORSE as I let my OH sleep in, so I end up not getting to bed sometimes until 10am. Which of course, if I'm sleeping most of the day it doesn't leave much time with my OH. Things here are really becomming tense because of this sleeping issue.
I'm not sure what to do at this point, and I've reached a terrible realization that my only next step here is to look into medicating him. Absolute WORSE case scenario is keeping up this hideous new lifestyle. rehoming him will never be an option. I have opted to not have children and Marc, in my eyes is my child. I understand he can't help this. He is a cat, and dawn and dusk is when they typically wake up. I'm not holding this against him. But I don't know how to fix it so that it becomes a situation I can live with. I've been trying to convince myself that medicating him to sleep could be "ok" as we as humans medicate ourselves to calm down and sleep too. and yes, I have resorted to prescription meds to try to keep myself from being woken up by his screams.... but it doesn't help and I end up in a groggy fog all day.
Has anyone ever had to stoop to these drastic measures? Has anyone had to medicate their cat for other reasons to calm them? If so, what was the outcome? What meds were prescribed? We've began looking into selling our condo and buying a new condo that has better soundproofing, and a bedroom that isn't adjacent to ours, and the neighbors. But, it's been a challenge to find what we are looking for. So medicating won't be permanent. But - I don't know for how long it will be necessary.
I deserve to be flamed for thinking of medicating my cat - so feel free to fire away. I'm ashamed but I just can't keep this up much longer.
Any thoughts (good or bad!) is appreciated.
Looking for advice on next steps when all other efforts fail.
Marc, like most cats wakes up around 4am. Like so many others, I have issues with him waking up the whole house by screaming, attacking my OH and I so we'll play, etc. Pretty typical maddening behavior on his part. Adding to the overall stress of the issue itself, I live in a condo which is not very soundproofed. The extra room is close enough to ours that putting him away at night there makes no difference. His screams and door scratching, & hurling himself into the door can be heard just as loudly in our room if he was doing it at our bedroom door. His behavior has caused us to be fined 7 times now, $50 each offense (first offense $35, each after that $50) by neighbors who are also being kept up by him as well. I've tried arguing that if it were a human baby, i wouldn't be fined. However - in their eyes he is an animal and it is not quite the same as a human baby (i beg to differ... but that's a different argument).
I've combed this site, and SO many other forums and can honestly say I have tried every suggestion. As of today and for the past few weeks I have adjusted my sleeping schedule around him. I wake up around 4am when he does. I go back to bed when my OH wakes up for work. Usually Marc calms down a bit and will sleep into the afternoon. I essentially sleep from around 6am-10am everyday. If I'm lucky and don't have other errands to tend to, etc. I will be starting a full time job within the next month, so I can't endure this schedule much longer. Weekends are even WORSE as I let my OH sleep in, so I end up not getting to bed sometimes until 10am. Which of course, if I'm sleeping most of the day it doesn't leave much time with my OH. Things here are really becomming tense because of this sleeping issue.
I'm not sure what to do at this point, and I've reached a terrible realization that my only next step here is to look into medicating him. Absolute WORSE case scenario is keeping up this hideous new lifestyle. rehoming him will never be an option. I have opted to not have children and Marc, in my eyes is my child. I understand he can't help this. He is a cat, and dawn and dusk is when they typically wake up. I'm not holding this against him. But I don't know how to fix it so that it becomes a situation I can live with. I've been trying to convince myself that medicating him to sleep could be "ok" as we as humans medicate ourselves to calm down and sleep too. and yes, I have resorted to prescription meds to try to keep myself from being woken up by his screams.... but it doesn't help and I end up in a groggy fog all day.
Has anyone ever had to stoop to these drastic measures? Has anyone had to medicate their cat for other reasons to calm them? If so, what was the outcome? What meds were prescribed? We've began looking into selling our condo and buying a new condo that has better soundproofing, and a bedroom that isn't adjacent to ours, and the neighbors. But, it's been a challenge to find what we are looking for. So medicating won't be permanent. But - I don't know for how long it will be necessary.
I deserve to be flamed for thinking of medicating my cat - so feel free to fire away. I'm ashamed but I just can't keep this up much longer.
Any thoughts (good or bad!) is appreciated.