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Hello all.
I am relatively new to the group, joined in late June.
Several years ago I took in two rescues, two young cats under a year who are brothers. They had same mother and father but one was from the litter just before the other. I was taking care of the younger one , bringing him into the house from time to time from the time he was a kitten, the other I fed outside with the rest of their family. I did a trap and neuter and found homes for some, others were made to disappear by this mean person in the neighborhood. So to protect the older brother I brought him into the house. The brothers are very close. My plan was to find a good home for the older brother, Bo, once I moved, and I had always planned to keep the younger one, with whom I am close. Well, several years later I still have not moved inspite of trying so hard to do so. I wanted to move back to my home state, but housing there is one of the costliest in the country, and there is an acute shortage of affordable housing.
I do not love the older cat like I do the younger, and he knows it. But I have tried to treat him fairly and with affection. When he first came into the house he was very quiet and compliant, but after several months started behaving badly. I feel a lot of this is my fault for not loving him equally. Nevertheless, he keeps things in a state of upset, and I like it peaceful. He looks for trouble, I have watched him do it. If there is a partially open door to a place he shouldn't be, he's gonna open it. He gets in my blind spot and sneaks outside; I can't open my door for air without worrying. My cats have a nice bedroom to themselves at night. When he is in it he whines, the whining goes on again in the early morning. Today it started about 4:30 am and continued till 7, when I got up, tho I needed to sleep longer. Another day of dragging around half alert because of him. There are other problems. I tell him not to do something and he does it again. This has been going on a long time. I am an older person. The quality of the relationship with my other cat has been affected, and my emotional health has been affected. Because I am an older person, it is affecting me physically.
The idea was to have an open adoption once we got to the new place, so that the brothers could see each other and we could know the older cat was ok.
I need help with this situation and would appreciate your input.
Shepherdess
I am relatively new to the group, joined in late June.
Several years ago I took in two rescues, two young cats under a year who are brothers. They had same mother and father but one was from the litter just before the other. I was taking care of the younger one , bringing him into the house from time to time from the time he was a kitten, the other I fed outside with the rest of their family. I did a trap and neuter and found homes for some, others were made to disappear by this mean person in the neighborhood. So to protect the older brother I brought him into the house. The brothers are very close. My plan was to find a good home for the older brother, Bo, once I moved, and I had always planned to keep the younger one, with whom I am close. Well, several years later I still have not moved inspite of trying so hard to do so. I wanted to move back to my home state, but housing there is one of the costliest in the country, and there is an acute shortage of affordable housing.
I do not love the older cat like I do the younger, and he knows it. But I have tried to treat him fairly and with affection. When he first came into the house he was very quiet and compliant, but after several months started behaving badly. I feel a lot of this is my fault for not loving him equally. Nevertheless, he keeps things in a state of upset, and I like it peaceful. He looks for trouble, I have watched him do it. If there is a partially open door to a place he shouldn't be, he's gonna open it. He gets in my blind spot and sneaks outside; I can't open my door for air without worrying. My cats have a nice bedroom to themselves at night. When he is in it he whines, the whining goes on again in the early morning. Today it started about 4:30 am and continued till 7, when I got up, tho I needed to sleep longer. Another day of dragging around half alert because of him. There are other problems. I tell him not to do something and he does it again. This has been going on a long time. I am an older person. The quality of the relationship with my other cat has been affected, and my emotional health has been affected. Because I am an older person, it is affecting me physically.
The idea was to have an open adoption once we got to the new place, so that the brothers could see each other and we could know the older cat was ok.
I need help with this situation and would appreciate your input.
Shepherdess
