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We got Calvin a month ago and we love him to death. At the same time I am trying to understand my relationship with him a little more and what he means to me (other than the world). Would be great if others could share what roles their cats/ kittens play in their lives.
DH and I have been trying to have a child for a while and after various treatments, too, weâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]ve not been successful – which had led to severe depression, in my case. I know that my identity is not wrapped up solely in being a mom, but this is something we really want. With each passing day the hopeâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s been fading and for different reasons, adoption is not an immediate option, but in a few years. We have established careers, consider ourselves good and loving people and great parent material but God did not bless us with a child. I think I have adjusted ok – I am genuinely happy for others around me who are expecting, can attend baby showers etc and my sadness is something that I either keep to myself or share with DH. But my work has suffered tremendously and it was this funk I was in when hubby suggested getting a kitten and I had initially resisted (since I have some upcoming travelling) but then changed my mind and we rescued Calvin.
Heâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s just brought so much joy into our lives, itâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s unbelievable. We consider him our baby and refer to ourselves as his mommy and daddy. We do indulge him and care for him so much. He keeps us occupied so that we do not feel our loss as much. Itâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s not that we do not foster dreams of having children anymore but Calvin has given me an opportunity to be his mommy and channel some of my maternal feelings. Although I have not been able to completely overcome the hole in my heart, I feel Calvin has saved me.
Creating this post came to mind since my parents are a little concerned that I am trying to compensate for what I do not have with Calvin (I send them funny pics of him pretty often and love talking about him). We always wanted pets but we moved to a different country and needed to settle down etc. and so we had to resist getting a pet till now and so I do not think that we are trying to compensate – but I cannot deny that getting Calvin has been the best thing for us in a really long time.
Thanks for reading and will be great if others would share what their furbabies mean to you. I am sure many of you have human children and you love your furbabies as much as I do.
DH and I have been trying to have a child for a while and after various treatments, too, weâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]ve not been successful – which had led to severe depression, in my case. I know that my identity is not wrapped up solely in being a mom, but this is something we really want. With each passing day the hopeâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s been fading and for different reasons, adoption is not an immediate option, but in a few years. We have established careers, consider ourselves good and loving people and great parent material but God did not bless us with a child. I think I have adjusted ok – I am genuinely happy for others around me who are expecting, can attend baby showers etc and my sadness is something that I either keep to myself or share with DH. But my work has suffered tremendously and it was this funk I was in when hubby suggested getting a kitten and I had initially resisted (since I have some upcoming travelling) but then changed my mind and we rescued Calvin.
Heâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s just brought so much joy into our lives, itâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s unbelievable. We consider him our baby and refer to ourselves as his mommy and daddy. We do indulge him and care for him so much. He keeps us occupied so that we do not feel our loss as much. Itâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s not that we do not foster dreams of having children anymore but Calvin has given me an opportunity to be his mommy and channel some of my maternal feelings. Although I have not been able to completely overcome the hole in my heart, I feel Calvin has saved me.
Creating this post came to mind since my parents are a little concerned that I am trying to compensate for what I do not have with Calvin (I send them funny pics of him pretty often and love talking about him). We always wanted pets but we moved to a different country and needed to settle down etc. and so we had to resist getting a pet till now and so I do not think that we are trying to compensate – but I cannot deny that getting Calvin has been the best thing for us in a really long time.
Thanks for reading and will be great if others would share what their furbabies mean to you. I am sure many of you have human children and you love your furbabies as much as I do.