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My fiance and I are not religious. That's not to say that we have a problem with religion, but it's just not for us. His grandparents on the other hand are VERY religious.
The problem is with deciding on a wedding ceremony officiant. I was thinking of having my mother's pastor do the ceremony (he is a very close friend of the family...he was named after my grandfather's older brother), but he won't marry anyone who hasn't been baptised. I was baptised when I was a baby, but my fiance is pretty sure he wasn't, because his grandparents' church did adult baptism. My fiance could get baptised, but we both feel that since we don't believe in that religion that it would be very disrespectful for him to do that. We can't use Mom's pastor, which was a disappointment to me because he is so close to the family, but oh well.
So now I am thinking about having a judge do the ceremony. My step-mom is a lawyer and knows a few judges, so it wouldn't be a problem to find one. Now, I am afraid that my fiance's grandparents would be really, really upset we have a totally civil ceremony officiated by a judge. He is very close to his grandparents...they are like a second set of parents to him, so he doesn't want to upset them in any way.
The dillema is this....
Do we shop around and find a minister/pastor/preacher who would do a religious ceremony, even though we aren't religious, so that his grandparents will be happy, or do we just get a judge? (The rest of the family on both sides would not be the least bit phased by a civil ceremony.)
Help!!!
My fiance and I are not religious. That's not to say that we have a problem with religion, but it's just not for us. His grandparents on the other hand are VERY religious.
The problem is with deciding on a wedding ceremony officiant. I was thinking of having my mother's pastor do the ceremony (he is a very close friend of the family...he was named after my grandfather's older brother), but he won't marry anyone who hasn't been baptised. I was baptised when I was a baby, but my fiance is pretty sure he wasn't, because his grandparents' church did adult baptism. My fiance could get baptised, but we both feel that since we don't believe in that religion that it would be very disrespectful for him to do that. We can't use Mom's pastor, which was a disappointment to me because he is so close to the family, but oh well.
So now I am thinking about having a judge do the ceremony. My step-mom is a lawyer and knows a few judges, so it wouldn't be a problem to find one. Now, I am afraid that my fiance's grandparents would be really, really upset we have a totally civil ceremony officiated by a judge. He is very close to his grandparents...they are like a second set of parents to him, so he doesn't want to upset them in any way.
Do we shop around and find a minister/pastor/preacher who would do a religious ceremony, even though we aren't religious, so that his grandparents will be happy, or do we just get a judge? (The rest of the family on both sides would not be the least bit phased by a civil ceremony.)
Help!!!