Yes, he will have to pay full child support for his child, partial support for my older daughter, and some spousal support.Originally Posted by calico2222
Another thing, is he going to pay alimony and child support? Does he have a 401K? If so, you should check into getting a payment from that for the time period you were married.
In order for me to stay in the home, I would have to buy him out of his share, as well as be able to get a mortgage in my name and afford it along with the bills, which I cannot.Originally Posted by libby74
Chris, there's one thing that puzzles me; I hope I'm not asking for too many details, but here goes.
Why should you have to move out of your home?
Chris, a 401K is a retirement plan where the person contributes money from their paycheck usually before taxes are taken out. It's probably called something else in Canada since "401K" is a US IRS term, but I'm pretty sure they have them up there. He may not have told you about having one, but it's worth having your lawyers look in to it. In the US most spouses are entitled to a portion that was contributed during the years they were married (even common law if recognized by the state). You deserve to get every penny you have coming to you. A lump sum from that would help you and your girls get back on your feet.Originally Posted by Snake_Lady
We don't have 401Ks here, I'm not sure what exactly they are.
I know you want to avoid court, Chris, but please talk to your lawyer and the shelter worker. Mark knows your fears: don't let him play on them. I agree - play hardball if you have to. I know when it comes to your girls you're a tiger, Chris.Originally Posted by libby74
Just a quick question, Chris: are you POSITIVE you would have to buy out his half of the house? Asking because around here the person who gets physical custody of the child/children usually lives in the marital home until the youngest child is out of school.
I know what a strong woman you are; my only advice would be to play hard ball when it comes to terms of the settlement. I can only imagine how this has turned your entire life upside down. You are on my mind so often; please take care of yourself, and fight for what's yours.