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I have a gorgeous, over-loving tabby cat. I currently live with family and while my kitty does allow few people to pick him up (myself and my mother), I keep a general rule to my brother that his friends can't pick my cat up. Most of his good friends understand, but whenever he has over a new female friend they ALWAYS think it's okay to pick him up.
I've talked to one of his (now ex) girlfriends about it and she would basically sass me over it, telling me she knew more about cats then I did. But, when she got clawed by him she wanted to blame it on me.
The female friend he had over tonight was cradling him like a baby when I walked into the room, and I asked her nicely to put him down. My cat can go from incredibly nice and loving to annoyed very quickly with people he doesn't know. She piped off to me that he was purring, but I could see in his face that he was stressed. I told her he was stressed out, and she put him down. After coming back inside he was laying on the floor and his tail was swishing angrily, and I left him alone so he could calm himself down. I let her know that purring wasn't just an indication that a cat was happy, and that she really shouldn't pick cats up that she doesn't know because she doesn't know their temperaments. She seemed rather annoyed but didn't say anything more.
Why do people think it's okay to pick up cats they don't know? And why do most of them get annoyed when you ask them to put your cat down? Most people wouldn't walk up to a dog and pet it without asking. Am I being overbearing?
I've talked to one of his (now ex) girlfriends about it and she would basically sass me over it, telling me she knew more about cats then I did. But, when she got clawed by him she wanted to blame it on me.
The female friend he had over tonight was cradling him like a baby when I walked into the room, and I asked her nicely to put him down. My cat can go from incredibly nice and loving to annoyed very quickly with people he doesn't know. She piped off to me that he was purring, but I could see in his face that he was stressed. I told her he was stressed out, and she put him down. After coming back inside he was laying on the floor and his tail was swishing angrily, and I left him alone so he could calm himself down. I let her know that purring wasn't just an indication that a cat was happy, and that she really shouldn't pick cats up that she doesn't know because she doesn't know their temperaments. She seemed rather annoyed but didn't say anything more.
Why do people think it's okay to pick up cats they don't know? And why do most of them get annoyed when you ask them to put your cat down? Most people wouldn't walk up to a dog and pet it without asking. Am I being overbearing?