Are you talking to your vet about all this?
maybe a pet antiseptic spray might help? It may not clean the area totally without wiping but maybe getting some spray there help with UTI if not cleaning there was the cause. Or with the smell.How do I clean it and get the smell of her once I'm allowed to get closer again, when its not so sensitive
This is a great list of resources. My vet office has little signs for CareCredit, so patients can have their care financed. Does Lily's vet have that option? I wonder if you can talk to their business manager to create a payment plan, maybe with a larger first payment/deposit, so you have more time to pay off the entire balance of the surgery. Poor Lily and her stonesI don't know but maybe something here might be useful;
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This is a good one and isn't as costly as some productsThere are also fountains that mimic water dripping from a faucet that work better for some cats than the standard fountain.
Write down everything so you have a list to ask when you talk to the vetThis is Lily we are talking about, she is so picky to eat ANYTHING, what makes you think she will magically accept this dry food, and possibly wet food? And what about her suppplements? does that mess with the food? Pumpkin is important, and so is the miralax. and hairball treats. Stuff she needs to stay regular.
Give it a try, she might let you.And really want to clean her up too, the bloody smelly mess is back there again