I adopted a neutered male cat 4-5 months ago (now 9 months old), and 1 week ago, a spayed 1-year-old female who is smaller than my male cat. I introduced them the standard way, but maybe a bit quickly as I live in a 1-bedroom. The first day or so, my boy cat hissed at her a lot, which she ignored, and then, my boy cat began to follow my girl cat everywhere she went. He began to try to grab her tail or her paw, which resulted in her hissing at him. All of this was fine, but then, he began attacking her, typically when he was in "play mode." When he gets in play mode, his fur gets all puffed out and he tears around the house (and he did this even before she came). When he attacks her, he'll jump on her, grab her head, bite her neck, kick her in the stomach, and chase her. She runs away, hisses and then growls, and when he's attacking her she kind of meow-yells at him. He'll even follow her under the bed or dive at her under the bureau. The actual physical altercation is over in 5-10 seconds, at which point he'll generally back off. The rest of the time, he will intermittently follow her, sniffing her butt frequently, occasionally licking at her ears or head, and she tends to avoid him. She will very occasionally chase after him, rarely sniffs at his butt, occasionally bumps her head at him affectionately in the morning, and frequently hits at him to get him away from a food dish. The only time they seem to willingly come together is when I'm feeding them or if they're drinking water, or if I'm in the bathroom. She does have an area where she can get away from him (top of the counters where he can't climb up to), I have 3 food areas for them and 2 litter boxes in different rooms. Neither of them are hiding under the bed, neither is having litter box issues (although my boy cat attacked her this morning while she was using the litter box!), but I'm still very concerned, because it seems to be escalating. I've had her a week and 3 days now. She's very good with me, and he is too (although he tends to run around the house making little meowing noises in his throat which he never did before). Is this a territorial thing on my boy cat's part? I've been advised not to separate them and let them work it out, and so far, there's been no blood or flying fur, but I worry when I come home from work that one will be gravely injured or dead. Is this something I should be worried about? Is there anything I can do? How much longer should I try this out before sending her back to her foster home for her own safety? The boy is definitely neutered, and she is definitely spayed. I've never had 2 cats before so this behavior is ALL new for me...
Thanks in advance!
Thanks in advance!