I'm not sure if I'm in the right place or not, but thought this would be the most logical. I currently have two cats, sisters (R & Z), who are both 4 years old. I had another cat who passed away in December, she was 18 years old. Z was diagnosed with epilepsy about two years ago, so she takes phenobarb twice a day, which works great.
When I go away, two or three times a year, for at least a week and the occasional weekend, I board Z at the vet so she can get her meds, and R stays home and is cared for by my FIL. Previous to my older cat passing away things were a little unsettled upon Z's return (hissing and the occasional swat), but within a day or two things returned to normal.
Since the passing of my older cat I've been away twice, this time with R staying by herself and Z going to the vet, but things have changed upon Z's return. R's been really mean to Z, not major knock down drag out fighting but really mean aggression. It's taken at least two to three weeks for things to return to normal and this past return Z stopped eating, I'm not sure if it was related to the aggression or not.
Upon my vets recommendation, I segregated them for about a week, totally, and then just fed them separately for a few days and now just this past week they're eating together separated by a step stool. I'm planning on going away in July, and I'm wondering if my matriarch's passing has caused a disruption in the working "triangle." None of my cats had/have a strong interaction, the occasional cleaning of each other, sharing a chair or chase but I'm wondering if with the passing of my older cat something's been shifted. One of the most logical things would be to try and replicate this triangle by adopting another cat to keep R company when we're gone, but then I worry that I'll just mess things up more. I could also have a pet sitter come twice a day (keep the girls together) but there's a big gap of time between visits which worries me plus it's pretty expensive.
So what would you do?
- Leave things the way they are and deal with the re-introductions?
- Get a pet sitter and worry a bit more when I'm away that things are okay?
- Adopting another cat? If so, male or female? Age? Disposition? The rescue I spoke with, who we got the girls from, is great, and will work with me to find the best match.
Thanks for the taking the time to read my long post!
Jen
When I go away, two or three times a year, for at least a week and the occasional weekend, I board Z at the vet so she can get her meds, and R stays home and is cared for by my FIL. Previous to my older cat passing away things were a little unsettled upon Z's return (hissing and the occasional swat), but within a day or two things returned to normal.
Since the passing of my older cat I've been away twice, this time with R staying by herself and Z going to the vet, but things have changed upon Z's return. R's been really mean to Z, not major knock down drag out fighting but really mean aggression. It's taken at least two to three weeks for things to return to normal and this past return Z stopped eating, I'm not sure if it was related to the aggression or not.
Upon my vets recommendation, I segregated them for about a week, totally, and then just fed them separately for a few days and now just this past week they're eating together separated by a step stool. I'm planning on going away in July, and I'm wondering if my matriarch's passing has caused a disruption in the working "triangle." None of my cats had/have a strong interaction, the occasional cleaning of each other, sharing a chair or chase but I'm wondering if with the passing of my older cat something's been shifted. One of the most logical things would be to try and replicate this triangle by adopting another cat to keep R company when we're gone, but then I worry that I'll just mess things up more. I could also have a pet sitter come twice a day (keep the girls together) but there's a big gap of time between visits which worries me plus it's pretty expensive.
So what would you do?
- Leave things the way they are and deal with the re-introductions?
- Get a pet sitter and worry a bit more when I'm away that things are okay?
- Adopting another cat? If so, male or female? Age? Disposition? The rescue I spoke with, who we got the girls from, is great, and will work with me to find the best match.
Thanks for the taking the time to read my long post!
Jen