I agree. Please try not to hold guilt for a routine night that happened many times. It not until something does happen that we pick every minute apart and blame ourselves. That is grief talking and trying to rule our lives.
thank youI agree. Please try not to hold guilt for a routine night that happened many times. It not until something does happen that we pick every minute apart and blame ourselves. That is grief talking and trying to rule our lives.
thank you, it is very difficult. especially w the new information, it's lessened my guilt intensity by a bit, but opened up and made me question a whole new assortment of questions.Just don't think of all the different scenarios that COULD have happened. 99% of the time we worry about something or try to guess at different ways it could have happened, it is wrong or never happened. I know it's hard, but distract your mind from going over all this. It makes your sweet girl's death more important than her life, and that is not the way it should be......
She didI just hope she knew how much I loved her.
Yes, I started from the beginning going through all the photos and videos I have.. and with 2 months left I already have 510 photos and videos I marked as "favorites"!! lol. After I go through all of them will have to narrow them again and then have a celebration.Look at what you gave her! A beautiful, happy life full of chasing bugs and Good things to eat. Even though it was not near as long as you would like, it was much, much more then she would have had. She might have died back then without really living at all.
Thank you, yes they don't understand. They never were able to pet her, and I could pet her and scratch her neck and head and would hear her purring. They do seem to be getting tired of it and its only been 2.5 weeks I watched her grow up and it feels like I lost my little baby I took care of.I know it's hard, so hard when others don't understand what you are going through. They don't understand because they didn't feel the same as you did for that little girl. I know I had to hide my feelings for a long time, people got tired of me talking about it. Grieve for as long as you need, there is no magical thing that will take your pain away. To wonder and worry about different senerios that may have brought the end to your little one's life will not help, believe me I went through them all trying to change an unchangeable outcome. It just brings more pain. If it was me, I would put up the posters in case someone knows something for sure, and still look for a while. A walk may help you. You are not alone, I am here for you. Your family is concerned, just try to explain you are trying to get some kind of closure. Bless you for living that little girl so much.. .
Thank you, have a busy day tomorrow so that should help.You are not being negative, you are hurting. When one of them loses someone close to them they may understand. It does all suck when you feel alone in the world. we understand here, you can come and talk anytime. Time is the only thing that helps, keep busy and just take it one day at a time.......
so sorry...........I come here to cry............I loved my boy so muchHi, does anyone have a recommendation for a therapist/anyone who helps deal w loss of your cat? I see pets ones but was wondering about a specific person specializing in cat loss, specifically feral if possible.
With the Pandemic/Covid19 going on, I wouldn't need to see them in person but by phone could work.
Been dealing with massive feelings of guilt and grief and sadness for over a week and a half since my semi feral cat probably died
feel guilt about semi feral cat being eaten, need feedback.
My family wants me to get over it by now but I am still crying every night and having such sadness about it. I really need help.
After a few days feeling better, last night I started back reliving and regretting my cat. Perhaps its because I've been going over all my photos and videos (for the 2nd time) and am up to the last month of her life. Every month she was slowly becoming a different cat personality wise (in February was getting comfortable in house, march getting used to scratches, April flopping on ground and getting scratches under her neck, May starting to hold my hand w her paw etc..)... I just miss her. That hasn't been going away.There will always be regrets with grief. None of us are perfect. If we learn to try to live each day as if it is our last, it is a lesson well learned. Let those in your life right now know how much they are loved and needed. Your precious little girl already knows, you had a bond with her soul. A bond that your family never had so they can not feel the loss and grief you are going through.
Try to do something that will help you feel better about yourself. donate your time at a local shelter, give a small donation or cat food and litter to a food bank or shelter. Do it in your sweet girl's name.
Time is the only thing that helps. Give your heart time to heal. You will never stop feeling sadness, but time will take the sharp edges off your grief. You will learn a new life's order, and she will be right there in spirit, helping you along the way......