Last night I had a friend of mine call up crying.
She has been depressed for a few months and finally got around to seeing a therapist. Last night was her first appointment.
Basically the therapist (on first appointment) rooted her depression with her boyfriend. He's been an overall nice guy in front of me, but I have seen moments were he has been a real jerk to her.
The therapist basically told her, after her first appointment, to dump the boyfriend. The therapist said that based on what my friend had told her, the boyfriend is lazy, manipulative and isn't going to change.
I found out that she does do a lot for this guy...for example she has a class that she takes on Monday nights. If he's had a bad day at work, he will WAIT for her to get home at 9:30 pm for her to cook dinner for him (or order dinner). And she does it.
She also mentioned that for meantime (until she can realise that this relationship is bad for her and accept it), she should stop doing this. I.e. she should stop on her way home to pick up food, eat it, then say "Oh I've already eaten" when she gets home....and NOT cook dinner for him.
Would you follow this therapist advice after one session? I was just kind of shocked that the therapist was that bold with her and well, I guess I know a little bit more of her relationship than I thought it was, but still. If a therapist told that to me about B...I don't know how that would go..."Umm..hi yes, I had therapy tonight and at the recommendation of my therapist, I need to break up with you"
(PS I'm not discounting the therapist, I'm just thinking that she should wait a couple sessions...)
She has been depressed for a few months and finally got around to seeing a therapist. Last night was her first appointment.
Basically the therapist (on first appointment) rooted her depression with her boyfriend. He's been an overall nice guy in front of me, but I have seen moments were he has been a real jerk to her.
The therapist basically told her, after her first appointment, to dump the boyfriend. The therapist said that based on what my friend had told her, the boyfriend is lazy, manipulative and isn't going to change.
I found out that she does do a lot for this guy...for example she has a class that she takes on Monday nights. If he's had a bad day at work, he will WAIT for her to get home at 9:30 pm for her to cook dinner for him (or order dinner). And she does it.
She also mentioned that for meantime (until she can realise that this relationship is bad for her and accept it), she should stop doing this. I.e. she should stop on her way home to pick up food, eat it, then say "Oh I've already eaten" when she gets home....and NOT cook dinner for him.
Would you follow this therapist advice after one session? I was just kind of shocked that the therapist was that bold with her and well, I guess I know a little bit more of her relationship than I thought it was, but still. If a therapist told that to me about B...I don't know how that would go..."Umm..hi yes, I had therapy tonight and at the recommendation of my therapist, I need to break up with you"
(PS I'm not discounting the therapist, I'm just thinking that she should wait a couple sessions...)