Right now i think i have the most heavy and broken heart. Today we made the heartbreaking decision to rehome Jasmine
I am sooo torn up and devistated over this. I feel like i can't help her anymore though and just don't know what else to do for her.
Jasmine is my torti-point Colorpoint Shorthair. I've had her for several years now (i adopted her as a resuced adult). A little over a year ago, when i decided to move three of my cats into Colin's house and out of my mom's home i took Jasmine, Isabella, and Velvet (kojak was already here). I left behind three of my other animals that were too closely bonded to my mom to move at her request. (My 13yr old wolf mix, my rabbit Sophie, and my other cat Abilene.) It broke my heart to take 3 and leave the other 3 but i knew at the time it was the right decision as i took the ones who were most bonded to me and my mom wanted to keep the ones who were most bonded to her.
Since the move well over a year ago- the other cats have done amazingly well- they love the extra space, they've all bonded well to Kojak and the dogs and they just seem to have flourished here. Jasmine on the other hand has regressed. So much so that it's just horrible to watch and deal with on a day to day basis
I have made numerous posts about her as far as behavior and peeing in the house goes and have tried more suggestions than i can count. I have taken her to seven (yes seven!) different vets for testing and to rule out medical issues as the source of her peeing inside of the house. All medical problems have been ruled out and the poor dear has been through test after test. All of the vets have said it is behavior related.
So to try and change the behavior to a more positive one, we have tried feli-way difusers, cat attract litter, adding additional new litter pans, devoting a room entirely to the cats so they have a quiet area away from the household noises, crating her and then reintroducing her room by room, we've even contacted a behaviroist. Nothing has worked....i am not mad at her- i love her so much- i just wish i knew why she felt the need to act out the way that she does. After talking with the vets again this week and the behaviorist....i've come to the conclusion that she might just not be happy here with us
I don't know why- i try to give her all of my love and make sure she is spoiled and well cared for.....but nothing seems to change her behavior.
When she lived at my mom's house she never once had an accident and never once peed out of behaviorial issues. It may be a long shot- but after talking to my mom- i feel like maybe sweet Jasmine was more happy at her house than she is at my house for whatever reason. My mom adores her and Jasmine loves my mom to pieces as well as her other animals- so my mom has agreed to take Jasmine and allow her to live out her life with her if she seems more happy there and it helps her feel more comfortable.
This was not an easy decision- it's absolutely breaking my heart and i feel like i've failed her as an owner
I honestly don't know what else to do at this point....i feel like i've exhausted every avenue and i just don't want her to be unhappy here if that's what's provoking the behavior. The vets agreed and suggested i do a trial period of rehoming her at my mom's house and just see how it goes and if the behavior improves.
Next week Colin and I are going to Alabama to see his family for a week, so from tomorrow until we get back in town- little Jasmine will be staying at my mom's house to see how she adjusts and if she seems happier there. If she does seem to feel more comfortable there, then my mom is going to let her live out the rest of her life there and i will go and visit her often at her house. If however she doesn't do well, i will just bring her back to my house and well,...then i just don't know what else i'll try but i'll have to think of something.
I don't want to give up on her and i want her to know i love her- i feel like letting her live with my mom might be in her best interest if it means she'll be happier there. I just don't know what else to do
I have spent the entire day just crying my eyes out over this- this is not a decision i wanted to make- but i don't want Jasmine to be miserable here eithor- and if there's a chance she might do better back with my mom, then i'm willing to make that sacrafice.
I'm just heart broken over the whole thing though and i hate the thought of her not being here at my house with us
I'm also worried about how my furbabies here will do when she is absent. I am also concerned about how Jasmine will do with my mom's new dog (she adopted a puppy a few months back and i just don't know how well that will go- Jasmine loves dogs-so i'm just keeping my fingers crossed it goes ok.)
Do you guys think i'm making the right decision? I honestly just don't know what else to do. I love her soo much- i only want to do what's best for her
Jasmine is my torti-point Colorpoint Shorthair. I've had her for several years now (i adopted her as a resuced adult). A little over a year ago, when i decided to move three of my cats into Colin's house and out of my mom's home i took Jasmine, Isabella, and Velvet (kojak was already here). I left behind three of my other animals that were too closely bonded to my mom to move at her request. (My 13yr old wolf mix, my rabbit Sophie, and my other cat Abilene.) It broke my heart to take 3 and leave the other 3 but i knew at the time it was the right decision as i took the ones who were most bonded to me and my mom wanted to keep the ones who were most bonded to her.
Since the move well over a year ago- the other cats have done amazingly well- they love the extra space, they've all bonded well to Kojak and the dogs and they just seem to have flourished here. Jasmine on the other hand has regressed. So much so that it's just horrible to watch and deal with on a day to day basis
So to try and change the behavior to a more positive one, we have tried feli-way difusers, cat attract litter, adding additional new litter pans, devoting a room entirely to the cats so they have a quiet area away from the household noises, crating her and then reintroducing her room by room, we've even contacted a behaviroist. Nothing has worked....i am not mad at her- i love her so much- i just wish i knew why she felt the need to act out the way that she does. After talking with the vets again this week and the behaviorist....i've come to the conclusion that she might just not be happy here with us
When she lived at my mom's house she never once had an accident and never once peed out of behaviorial issues. It may be a long shot- but after talking to my mom- i feel like maybe sweet Jasmine was more happy at her house than she is at my house for whatever reason. My mom adores her and Jasmine loves my mom to pieces as well as her other animals- so my mom has agreed to take Jasmine and allow her to live out her life with her if she seems more happy there and it helps her feel more comfortable.
This was not an easy decision- it's absolutely breaking my heart and i feel like i've failed her as an owner
Next week Colin and I are going to Alabama to see his family for a week, so from tomorrow until we get back in town- little Jasmine will be staying at my mom's house to see how she adjusts and if she seems happier there. If she does seem to feel more comfortable there, then my mom is going to let her live out the rest of her life there and i will go and visit her often at her house. If however she doesn't do well, i will just bring her back to my house and well,...then i just don't know what else i'll try but i'll have to think of something.
I'm just heart broken over the whole thing though and i hate the thought of her not being here at my house with us
Do you guys think i'm making the right decision? I honestly just don't know what else to do. I love her soo much- i only want to do what's best for her