come to me? I have been feeding her/him for a few weeks now, I think it's a girl so I will just refer to her, She comes every morning at the same time, she won't let me near her, I just put the food outside and shut the door and then she will eat it. She has gone from running away completly to just walking away and staring at me from a distance. I feel like that is one step closer. A male stray that a guy takes care of up the street was hanging around for a week non-stop so I am afraid if he isn't fixed that this stray may be pregnant, she doesn't look like it but I don't know, I am worried because it is getting colder and colder, I want to catch her, and take care of her even if she is an outside cat I would like to make her a bed in my shed or something but I need her to come to me first so I can get her to trust me, I have tried a can of food, milk,catnip, treats but she hesitates and waits for me to leave it. Any other advice?