yesterday i made a mistake and kicked my cat instead of jut giving her the light tap that i always give her...and i feel really bad about it...and now people are telling me that im being a bad owner by not having blue fixed and still letting her go outside unsupervised...and the cats are getting on everyones nerves with knocking stuff down and fighting and ripping up the furniture (we dont ming that becuase we have a special chair that they are allowed to tear to shreds) but my mom just got promoted and she going to make a lot more money so she is going to buy new furniture and they are going to rip it to shreds because theyve never been trained to use a scratching post and pookie is spoiled (by me) which makes my mom mad because now she wont eat the walmart food she buys so i have to get pookie a different kind of food (more expensive) but i heard that walmart food is crap anyways...she usually likes purrfectly fish by whiskas...or meow mix in the cups or pouches...she hates ground food so i dont feed it to her but it annoys my mom that she wont eat it...and she doesnt like dry food much either...she only eats it when theres nothing else around (it was all my fault she got like this) i looked at her teeth and im noticing some yellow stains on them and shes only 2 years old...and blue teeth look perfect and shes 4 (she loves dry food) i love pookie but shes causing me all kinds of stress and now ive resorted to taking my anger out by kicking her (though unintentionally) and i want to become a better cat owner...we've had cats constantly in our household since 1999...after my moms cat died an untimely death at age 3 (she was purchased the same year as my dog and hes now 9) from an outside accident i vowed never to let pookie out so as to protect her from accidents and diseases...she was abused when we got her...she was very skinny and had diarrhea for about a week...although the funny thing is...she didnt have any types of worms in her or parasites on her...and someone cruel and mean had shot her with metal bb's (they lodged in her sides and theyre stuck there) but the doctor said they would never cause problems and they dont hurt her...we had her fixed and got her shots and shes been a very kind kitty but ive been under some stress lately and her knocking down things and fighting all the time isnt helping...and its so annoying when she poops on the floor when we're cleaning the litterbox...i dont want to get rid of her because i love her and my mom would be devastated to see her go...ive been told that havig blue fixed will help the fighting problems between the two and i will have that done asap...i will make sure to have it done sometime next week because once my mom hears everything people on here have kindly told me she will gladly take a day off to have her fixed...my mom loves that cat to death...and she couldnt bear to have another one of her animals die young from something like pyometria which couldve been prevented...im trying to get less stress in my life and be able to be kinder to pookie and everything but shes adding to the problem...always jumping on my dresser trying to get ot my turtle and getting underfoot...i dont know what to do anymore...getting rid of her will only pose to make me more upset as i love her very much so i need to work around her behavior in order to de-stress my life which i am trying to do right now...i dont really know what a feliway diffuser is but i heard on this site that it can calm cats so maybe that will keep her and blue from wrecking the house...and stop her crazy fits in the middle of the night with blue...having blue fixed will help (i heard) but i dont know if this is true...because blue always attacks her and nips at her back legs...so now shes started starting the fights and squabbles...ive only seen scratches on them twice...and they were on blue it it cleared up pretty quickly as blue has never had any type of health problems (where DO people get these sickly cats from) and i also heard that anxiety makes a cats reactions worse and makes them more crazy...what can i do with pookie to keep her from knocking things down and making noise AND pooping on the floor only when i clean the litterbox...any type of advice would really help...please...thank you