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I don't see how it could be perceived that way. All of us were pleading with her. Sure, a couple of us including myself, ratcheted it up a notch, but it was just to show how badly we wish her to reconsider. I think it's worth "offending" someone if it means they will reconsider it.
I think we did probably scare her away. Probably she perceived us as attacking her and her (husband's) decision. It is too bad but I understand how that's how it may have come across.
I definitely see how it could be perceived that way from someone on the defensive, but I have a psych background so that influences my opinion on anything. It would also be the most likely explanation for why she hasn't come back- either that or being ashamed. I don't mean people were wrong to say what they did, she had to know how bad this was before deciding.
I don't see how it could be perceived that way. All of us were pleading with her. Sure, a couple of us including myself, ratcheted it up a notch, but it was just to show how badly we wish her to reconsider. I think it's worth "offending" someone if it means they will reconsider it.
At this point we really don't know her situation enough at all. She clearly does not want to do it. But beyond that, we don't know much, if anything, else. I wish she'll come back and update us, for better or for worse. I imagine if she -did- go through with it, she'd probably feel so terrible now. She could use some comforting.