sorry im not around much..been busy at work and well..homelife isnt that great right now. I"m trying to get my mother to realize that my stepfather should go into a home...and its not easy..I realize that its not an easy decision for her...but..he's at the point where he not only talks to himself in the mirror (thinking he found a friend)..but knocking on the mirror asking for them to open the door and let him in....thats a little funny..but not really...the other night he was fighting with her over a hand mirror that she eventually kicked under the couch...
no..I don't live with them.but I talk to her daily. I don't get there as often as I used to because I don't live as close anymore...and its getting harder and harder to gear up to go there. He doesn't make any sense...he starts talking in croatian more and more and forgetting engish. his first language is croatian...so I guess that helps. but even his buddies that talk to him..say he's not making any sense in croatian either. He is much bigger then my mother is and he doesn't realize his own strength or really what he is doing, so i'm scared that one day he really will hit her. So far, she's had to hide all of the knives in the house because he's grabbed them and started pointing knives at her. Not good. She has trouble getting him to go to sleep at night and she can't keep up with staying up all hours of the night then going to work. Yes she still works and gets homecare to look after him for 9 hours while she's at work..but that gives her no time to do any grocery shopping etc. She can't leave him in the house alone and a lot of the times now if she takes him out of the house...he gets really confused. After they come home he will continually ask her to take him home and start crying even though he is home. He's even starting to forget who she is.. last time I was there he was happy but at the same time ..asked me how my mother is..and she was there. He does know who I am..but its difficult. My boyfriend won't go with me to the house because he can't handle that sight. Can't say I blame him really. He never met my stepfather before he became ill. The dr's say its dementia from the 4 or 5 strokes he's had but really ..its the same as alzheimers. I've gone through the literature on alzheimers and I see the symptoms he has. i'm stressed. i don't know what to do ...
no..I don't live with them.but I talk to her daily. I don't get there as often as I used to because I don't live as close anymore...and its getting harder and harder to gear up to go there. He doesn't make any sense...he starts talking in croatian more and more and forgetting engish. his first language is croatian...so I guess that helps. but even his buddies that talk to him..say he's not making any sense in croatian either. He is much bigger then my mother is and he doesn't realize his own strength or really what he is doing, so i'm scared that one day he really will hit her. So far, she's had to hide all of the knives in the house because he's grabbed them and started pointing knives at her. Not good. She has trouble getting him to go to sleep at night and she can't keep up with staying up all hours of the night then going to work. Yes she still works and gets homecare to look after him for 9 hours while she's at work..but that gives her no time to do any grocery shopping etc. She can't leave him in the house alone and a lot of the times now if she takes him out of the house...he gets really confused. After they come home he will continually ask her to take him home and start crying even though he is home. He's even starting to forget who she is.. last time I was there he was happy but at the same time ..asked me how my mother is..and she was there. He does know who I am..but its difficult. My boyfriend won't go with me to the house because he can't handle that sight. Can't say I blame him really. He never met my stepfather before he became ill. The dr's say its dementia from the 4 or 5 strokes he's had but really ..its the same as alzheimers. I've gone through the literature on alzheimers and I see the symptoms he has. i'm stressed. i don't know what to do ...