So hurt by dad

[tavia'smom]

Once I get a new car I am going to move and the hospital I work at will pay for me to go to school I just have to get a car first as I am very limited on how much I can drive his but my sister and her husband can drive his brand new truck whereever they want to wisconsin and back and then down to texas and its fine.

 

[catsknowme]

Sending mega prayers and vibes to you and Tavia
Perhaps someday you will have saved up enough to buy the land from your sis and her kids. I don't know how old you are, but when they are of age, and with their mother's example, they probably will want the cash and not the land.
You sound like me - we consider the land the way that Scarlett O'Hara considered Tara in Gone With The Wind. The Chinese call it your "lao chia". My former husband's family is like that, too, so I'm caretaking their place, and maybe moving back onto it (the kids all have great careers and their own places, but they still keep their family land. My former husband and his parents have passed over RB, so my daughter inherited his portion of the estate).

 

[tavia'smom]

My Tavia died two years ago now I just have Pixie whom I have only had for a little bit now. But we will make it it will just take us some time and we will be all the stronger for making it through this without loosing ourselves.

 

[libby74]

Sweetie, reading your posts just breaks my heart! As Carolina said, this is just plain and simple abuse. You need to get yourself out of this situation---now. The fact that your niece and nephew are already abusing you just turns my stomach. You deserve better, much better. Is there anyone you can stay with until you've saved enough for your car? A friend, a relative, anyone?
It's so obvious how much this family land means to you, but your self respect and safety are priceless. It sounds as if the abuse is emotional and verbal at the moment, but these things escalate and it sounds to me as if physical abuse can't be far behind. Please, hun, find a way out of that house.

 

[capt_jordi]

Originally Posted by libby74

Sweetie, reading your posts just breaks my heart! As Carolina said, this is just plain and simple abuse. You need to get yourself out of this situation---now. The fact that your niece and nephew are already abusing you just turns my stomach. You deserve better, much better. Is there anyone you can stay with until you've saved enough for your car? A friend, a relative, anyone?
It's so obvious how much this family land means to you, but your self respect and safety are priceless. It sounds as if the abuse is emotional and verbal at the moment, but these things escalate and it sounds to me as if physical abuse can't be far behind. Please, hun, find a way out of that house.

exactly! Dont let the lack of car stop you! Things are always possible!!

 

[lauren_miller]

I'm sorry you're going through family troubles! I haven't talked to my dad in 6 years. We got into a fight on Easter and he threw a lot of my stuff on the lawn and turned the sprinklers on and told me to get out. I left and never went back. It's strange that after he told me to get out he became a stalker. My work had to have him escorted out by the police.

I know this probably sounds bad, but my life is so much better without him in it.

 

[yosemite]

I have no idea what a "lifetime diary" is, but it sure doesn't sound like much. Unfortunately it's his property to do with as he chooses but as someone else has said, I'd definitely contest the Will after he is deceased. He (and your sister) are just being really mean and that's not right.

 

[natalie_ca]

Sorry you are going through that.

When my parents died, my brother being older and me a minor, he got everything. Not that there was much, but whatever there was went to him. The only thing I got was my Mom's sewing machine and her wedding ring and the only reason I think I got those is because the ring was in my jewelry box and I was using the sewing machine so it went where I went.

He either kept or sold everything else. I don't even have any pictures from when I was growing up. He has all of them too.

It's taken me a long time to get over that, but in the end I came to realize it was just possessions.

Your sister sounds like a real piece of work. It sounds to me like she's resentful and/or jealous of you, and that your father is easily swayed.

Nothing you can really do about it. It is his money and he can do what he wants with it.

Hold your head up high and be proud of what you have because it sounds like you've worked for things you have and didn't have it handed to you on a plate.

IMHO what your father should do is put in his will that all property is to be sold and the proceeds divided equally between his surviving daughters, and that if a daughter predeceases him, that her share of the proceeds should be divided equally amongst her children.

I used to do wills and estates when I worked in Law and boy....I've sure seen some fights when it came to probating wills after someone has died.