This is totally not cat-related, but.. I thought I'd get some opinions here.
I dated a younger guy a whlie back.. we saw each other maybe five or six times. On the last evening we were hanging out.. he told me about how horrible of a day he'd had, and had a long conversation about his ex, who had just told him that day that she was pregnant. Anyway, the long and the short of it was, he said he wasn't going to get back together with her, but I decided I wasn't getting any more involved with the entire drama and basically just called it quits.
So, the next time I went into the local dance place that he'd been working at (where I met him..even), he "ducked out the back door", one assumes to avoid seeing me. He did this a couple of times.. I mean, not that I really cared, except that I couldn't really understand why he was doing it because as far as I was concerned, there were no hard feelings, it was just over. I'd never called him after that, and he'd never called me.. as far as I was concerned it was amicable.
One night a little later, I was out with a male friend of mine, and I guess he figured it was "safe" (safe from what, who knows?). So he came out, and he says "hi, how's it going" like I'd never seen him avoiding me or anything. SoI said, it's going well, thanks, and you? You don't feel the need to sneak out the back door this evening? And I just started laughing. He's like, I only did that once, and I just kept laughing. I was like, dude, I only find it funny because it so doesn't matter, and you went through such trouble to avoid me like I was going to do something to you. So he says, so we're cool? I'm like.. I really couldn't care less. I only saw you trying to be slick and found it amusing because I happened to be facing in that direction and saw you acting suspiciously..
Anyway, the night before Thanksgiving..my family arrived and we were up late. It was about 3 a.m. He shows up at my door, knocks on it, and we're all like who is at the door? So, I got elected to go answer it. I answer it (mind you, the 140 Great Dane is trying to bust through the door to get at whoever was on the other side). I see who it is, and with the dog acting crazy behind me.. I stepped outside. He's standing there with some friend of his. He says, this is so and so. I said, hi.. looked at him and said what the heck are you thinking showing up at my door at 3 a.m. the night before Thanksgiving?? I bopped him (gently) on the head and said you know better. What on earth were you thinking? So, he apologizes, and they leave.
About a month later, earlier in the evening, I was out on my deck smoking the last cigarette before I went to bed, about 10 p.m. I hear this "pssst". Here he is, to the side of the deck in the community lawn, and he's like what are you doing? I said, going to bed, duh.. I work in the morning. He gives me some sob story about how he and the pregnant ex-girlfriend/girlfriend got into a fight. I'm like.. sorry dude, I'm going to bed. I really don't know why you came here. So he leaves.
So, since then, the dog has gone to a new home for various and sundry reasons I won't get into on this post..
Last night, he shows up at 3 a.m. I'd gone to bed at like 11:00. My nephew, his friend, his girlfriend and her baby are all here (and crashing in the living room for lack of other better space for them). The girlfriend hears someone knocking at the door, so they wake my nephew up and tell him go answer the door. He said.. I'm not answering the door at this hour. She says.. go answer the door, we don't know anyone. About this time, he's still saying no.. and the front door opens and the ex-boyfriend walks in, closes the door, stands there for a second, and then leaves. My nephew pops up out of bed.. runs to the door and is like, "what exactly can I help you with??" Ex says..oh, I came to see Heather. My nephew says.. Dude, I don't think so, she's asleep. Ex says, "No no, she called me earlier, and told me to come by." My nephew says, "I don't think so." Ex says, "no, she did. She told me to come by." Nephew repeats, Dude, I don't think so. So ex leaves.
They tell me about the entire chain of events this morning. I was furious. I went looking for my cell, because the only number I have for him is on my cell. I tried to call it, and apparently it's been disconnected. So, I went to work..and while I'm there, I'm thinking.. wouldn't any normal person be afraid to walk into a house where the last *they* knew of was there was 140 pound vicious Great Dane...? So, this leads me to thinking, is he just that stupid, or ...does he know the dog is gone. If he knows the dog is gone, how does he know that?
Then it makes me think, what was he doing around the side of my house instead of knocking at the door, that one evening? Now, don't get me wrong, I'm furious and I'm definitely not scared. As soon as I have the time I'm going to go to his job and tell him, "Look don't show up at my house again. And if I find you in the vicinity of my townhouse, or if you come knocking on my door again, there will be consequences, but as of now, we have no problems, and I'm not looking to cause you any. Just don't consider yourself welcome at my home. We can be perfectly amicable when we run into one another."
My sister has thought she's heard our front door open and close.. and we've chalked it up to being the neighbors. She'd heard our door open one night, and she happened to be downstairs in the living room with the lights out...and she called out, and the door just quickly closed again. She assumed it was someone who came to the door for the neighbors and simply got the wrong house. We've just never thought anything of it.. because there have been times when I've thought I heard something, gone looking around the house..and there's been all the doors locked and nothing there, but I'd sworn I'd heard something. This townhouse just makes funny noises. So, anyway.. now I'm wondering how many times he's come by here and just let himself in the front door ..
I really think he's just young, and probably out drinking or something..not really sure what his motive is when he swings by here. Again, though, I probably ought to be more nervous about it all than I am. Mostly, I'm just PO'd about the whole thing. One of my male friends is all up in arms. But my coworker said.. you know, you might want to be a little careful because you *might* wake up one night to find him standing in your bedroom.
Any one have any thoughts on this? Sorry for the long post, but..
I dated a younger guy a whlie back.. we saw each other maybe five or six times. On the last evening we were hanging out.. he told me about how horrible of a day he'd had, and had a long conversation about his ex, who had just told him that day that she was pregnant. Anyway, the long and the short of it was, he said he wasn't going to get back together with her, but I decided I wasn't getting any more involved with the entire drama and basically just called it quits.
So, the next time I went into the local dance place that he'd been working at (where I met him..even), he "ducked out the back door", one assumes to avoid seeing me. He did this a couple of times.. I mean, not that I really cared, except that I couldn't really understand why he was doing it because as far as I was concerned, there were no hard feelings, it was just over. I'd never called him after that, and he'd never called me.. as far as I was concerned it was amicable.
One night a little later, I was out with a male friend of mine, and I guess he figured it was "safe" (safe from what, who knows?). So he came out, and he says "hi, how's it going" like I'd never seen him avoiding me or anything. SoI said, it's going well, thanks, and you? You don't feel the need to sneak out the back door this evening? And I just started laughing. He's like, I only did that once, and I just kept laughing. I was like, dude, I only find it funny because it so doesn't matter, and you went through such trouble to avoid me like I was going to do something to you. So he says, so we're cool? I'm like.. I really couldn't care less. I only saw you trying to be slick and found it amusing because I happened to be facing in that direction and saw you acting suspiciously..
Anyway, the night before Thanksgiving..my family arrived and we were up late. It was about 3 a.m. He shows up at my door, knocks on it, and we're all like who is at the door? So, I got elected to go answer it. I answer it (mind you, the 140 Great Dane is trying to bust through the door to get at whoever was on the other side). I see who it is, and with the dog acting crazy behind me.. I stepped outside. He's standing there with some friend of his. He says, this is so and so. I said, hi.. looked at him and said what the heck are you thinking showing up at my door at 3 a.m. the night before Thanksgiving?? I bopped him (gently) on the head and said you know better. What on earth were you thinking? So, he apologizes, and they leave.
About a month later, earlier in the evening, I was out on my deck smoking the last cigarette before I went to bed, about 10 p.m. I hear this "pssst". Here he is, to the side of the deck in the community lawn, and he's like what are you doing? I said, going to bed, duh.. I work in the morning. He gives me some sob story about how he and the pregnant ex-girlfriend/girlfriend got into a fight. I'm like.. sorry dude, I'm going to bed. I really don't know why you came here. So he leaves.
So, since then, the dog has gone to a new home for various and sundry reasons I won't get into on this post..
Last night, he shows up at 3 a.m. I'd gone to bed at like 11:00. My nephew, his friend, his girlfriend and her baby are all here (and crashing in the living room for lack of other better space for them). The girlfriend hears someone knocking at the door, so they wake my nephew up and tell him go answer the door. He said.. I'm not answering the door at this hour. She says.. go answer the door, we don't know anyone. About this time, he's still saying no.. and the front door opens and the ex-boyfriend walks in, closes the door, stands there for a second, and then leaves. My nephew pops up out of bed.. runs to the door and is like, "what exactly can I help you with??" Ex says..oh, I came to see Heather. My nephew says.. Dude, I don't think so, she's asleep. Ex says, "No no, she called me earlier, and told me to come by." My nephew says, "I don't think so." Ex says, "no, she did. She told me to come by." Nephew repeats, Dude, I don't think so. So ex leaves.
They tell me about the entire chain of events this morning. I was furious. I went looking for my cell, because the only number I have for him is on my cell. I tried to call it, and apparently it's been disconnected. So, I went to work..and while I'm there, I'm thinking.. wouldn't any normal person be afraid to walk into a house where the last *they* knew of was there was 140 pound vicious Great Dane...? So, this leads me to thinking, is he just that stupid, or ...does he know the dog is gone. If he knows the dog is gone, how does he know that?
Then it makes me think, what was he doing around the side of my house instead of knocking at the door, that one evening? Now, don't get me wrong, I'm furious and I'm definitely not scared. As soon as I have the time I'm going to go to his job and tell him, "Look don't show up at my house again. And if I find you in the vicinity of my townhouse, or if you come knocking on my door again, there will be consequences, but as of now, we have no problems, and I'm not looking to cause you any. Just don't consider yourself welcome at my home. We can be perfectly amicable when we run into one another."
My sister has thought she's heard our front door open and close.. and we've chalked it up to being the neighbors. She'd heard our door open one night, and she happened to be downstairs in the living room with the lights out...and she called out, and the door just quickly closed again. She assumed it was someone who came to the door for the neighbors and simply got the wrong house. We've just never thought anything of it.. because there have been times when I've thought I heard something, gone looking around the house..and there's been all the doors locked and nothing there, but I'd sworn I'd heard something. This townhouse just makes funny noises. So, anyway.. now I'm wondering how many times he's come by here and just let himself in the front door ..
I really think he's just young, and probably out drinking or something..not really sure what his motive is when he swings by here. Again, though, I probably ought to be more nervous about it all than I am. Mostly, I'm just PO'd about the whole thing. One of my male friends is all up in arms. But my coworker said.. you know, you might want to be a little careful because you *might* wake up one night to find him standing in your bedroom.
Any one have any thoughts on this? Sorry for the long post, but..