Eric and I have a 17 year age difference....with me being the older one. He is 29 and I am 45. This means I get to pull rank here and there, although his IQ is probably higher.
We met in a very traditional way, in our skyscraper building in downtown Seattle. We both worked there, he took four months to talk to me. He has a normal, close relationshp with all his sisters and his mama, and I have a normal and close relationshp with all my brothers and my Dad. I think our society and culture raises an eyebrow if the age difference places the female older than the male by 10 years or more, but if it's a male, it's no big deal. Most of the eyebrow-raising comes from societal mores, none of which make any sense anymore. Or people who are catty and jealous.
Eric and I have some gaps in maybe music tastes, although I was the one buying Nickelback tickets, believe me, and he can sit through a live symphony and truly enjoy it. Our Dads go bird-watching together and both families are very accepting. They just want his happiness and they are truly family to me. That's a big part of it - how your inner circle is supportive, not divisive. Because nobody else really matters. One of our best couple-friends are he, 31, and she, 46, from Hawaii where nobody cares about anything like that anyway!
Yosemite and others nailed it when it was stated that you've got to look at the world with four eyes, not just two...meaning that if your inner core values, your outer ambitions, and your life path is that of "together and congruent" it's makes for a good match, regardless of age.
And no, I would NOT support a 27/17 yr old pairing. There is more development between the ages of 21-29 that nobody tells you about and it's critical the ages aren't too far apart when younger.
In any event, after Demi and Ashton got hitched, I sure did get a lot of email!
If you want to see our photo, go to the Photo thread, we're there and smiling.
Eric and I have some gaps in maybe music tastes, although I was the one buying Nickelback tickets, believe me, and he can sit through a live symphony and truly enjoy it. Our Dads go bird-watching together and both families are very accepting. They just want his happiness and they are truly family to me. That's a big part of it - how your inner circle is supportive, not divisive. Because nobody else really matters. One of our best couple-friends are he, 31, and she, 46, from Hawaii where nobody cares about anything like that anyway!
Yosemite and others nailed it when it was stated that you've got to look at the world with four eyes, not just two...meaning that if your inner core values, your outer ambitions, and your life path is that of "together and congruent" it's makes for a good match, regardless of age.
And no, I would NOT support a 27/17 yr old pairing. There is more development between the ages of 21-29 that nobody tells you about and it's critical the ages aren't too far apart when younger.
In any event, after Demi and Ashton got hitched, I sure did get a lot of email!